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maybe it's a touch of naivety, maybe it's because I'm still young and hopeful.. But I'd like to believe I'm not the only one that considers it a big deal and that I'll get my just one time marriage eventually... so quit trying to burst my bubble  I am NOT young, but have never let anyone burst my bubble yet! Hang in there! I truly feel that when you believe in something strongly enough and are willing to wait for it...eventually it will come to you.  thank you!! I'm confident I'll get there 
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i dont plan on getting married at this point. however, im told that will change when i meet "the one" or whatever.
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It is...or it should be. I don't think enough people understand the meanng of the phrase til death us do part anymore. We live in a disposable world and marriage has just become something else to throw away. Camper I wasn't implying that I think a person should live in misery I just think that divorce is too easy to obtain and people give up on marriages at the drop of a hat instead of trying to find ways not to be miserable. |
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It is...or it should be. I don't think enough people understand the meanng of the phrase til death us do part anymore. We live in a disposable world and marriage has just become something else to throw away. Camper I wasn't implying that I think a person should live in misery I just think that divorce is too easy to obtain and people give up on marriages at the drop of a hat instead of trying to find ways not to be miserable. 
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It is...or it should be. I don't think enough people understand the meanng of the phrase til death us do part anymore. We live in a disposable world and marriage has just become something else to throw away. No, Hiker, if things are that bad, then take the steps to get out of the marriage. I did that the first time because he lost his mind and became abusive, verbal and then started on physical. I did what I could because I didn't want a divorce but soon realized that I couldn't "fix" him and filed. This time I am taking my time and making sure that Jon is the man I will be with for the rest of my life. And I will proudly stand before God, a judge, a justice of the peace and vow to be beside him, just as he makes those same vows. Yes people change as time goes on, but the person you marry should be the one you want to be beside you for the complete journey, and they love you for the changes....as you do for them.
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i dont plan on getting married at this point. however, im told that will change when i meet "the one" or whatever. WILL YOU MARRY MEEEEEE????  |
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It is...or it should be. I don't think enough people understand the meanng of the phrase til death us do part anymore. We live in a disposable world and marriage has just become something else to throw away. Camper I wasn't implying that I think a person should live in misery I just think that divorce is too easy to obtain and people give up on marriages at the drop of a hat instead of trying to find ways not to be miserable. I just realized what I typed and you busted me before I could edit |
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maybe it's a touch of naivety, maybe it's because I'm still young and hopeful.. But I'd like to believe I'm not the only one that considers it a big deal and that I'll get my just one time marriage eventually... so quit trying to burst my bubble you'll see hey, it's half of all marriages that end in divorce.. so I could be in the lucky half I don't believe that's the case at all. I'm remaining optimistic. I know what I want, and I'll find it. |
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Marriage originated as a religious ceromony and was taken over by the government to make it a legal one. But if you could only marry within the auspices of religion, then non-religious people would not be allowed to marry. That hardly seems fair. A civil union provides certain legal protection. I am just telling you were religious ceromony originated. There was once no paper, no clerk of court, no lawyers...people would walk out under the open sky and vow themselves to one another...so, why should we now feel such an affection for a hijacked ceromony? I do not see why the Government should control it. Allow people to control their own lives. If two wish to be joined, allow them to do so in whatever manner they deem fit. Be it religious, spiritual, magical...or even comical 
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It is...or it should be. I don't think enough people understand the meanng of the phrase til death us do part anymore. We live in a disposable world and marriage has just become something else to throw away. No, Hiker, if things are that bad, then take the steps to get out of the marriage. I did that the first time because he lost his mind and became abusive, verbal and then started on physical. I did what I could because I didn't want a divorce but soon realized that I couldn't "fix" him and filed. This time I am taking my time and making sure that Jon is the man I will be with for the rest of my life. And I will proudly stand before God, a judge, a justice of the peace and vow to be beside him, just as he makes those same vows. Yes people change as time goes on, but the person you marry should be the one you want to be beside you for the complete journey, and they love you for the changes....as you do for them. |
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maybe it's a touch of naivety, maybe it's because I'm still young and hopeful.. But I'd like to believe I'm not the only one that considers it a big deal and that I'll get my just one time marriage eventually... so quit trying to burst my bubble you'll see hey, it's half of all marriages that end in divorce.. so I could be in the lucky half I don't believe that's the case at all. I'm remaining optimistic. I know what I want, and I'll find it. I'm not saying it doesn't happen, I'm just saying it's not the case in every situation. My parents are still together and don't hate each other. I know plenty of married couples that are together and not miserable. I also know ones that are not happy with each other. There are plenty examples on both sides. |
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Marriage originated as a religious ceromony and was taken over by the government to make it a legal one. But if you could only marry within the auspices of religion, then non-religious people would not be allowed to marry. That hardly seems fair. A civil union provides certain legal protection. I am just telling you were religious ceromony originated. There was once no paper, no clerk of court, no lawyers...people would walk out under the open sky and vow themselves to one another...so, why should we now feel such an affection for a hijacked ceromony? I do not see why the Government should control it. Allow people to control their own lives. If two wish to be joined, allow them to do so in whatever manner they deem fit. Be it religious, spiritual, magical...or even comical |
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Marriage originated as a religious ceromony and was taken over by the government to make it a legal one. But if you could only marry within the auspices of religion, then non-religious people would not be allowed to marry. That hardly seems fair. A civil union provides certain legal protection. I am just telling you were religious ceromony originated. There was once no paper, no clerk of court, no lawyers...people would walk out under the open sky and vow themselves to one another...so, why should we now feel such an affection for a hijacked ceromony? I do not see why the Government should control it. Allow people to control their own lives. If two wish to be joined, allow them to do so in whatever manner they deem fit. Be it religious, spiritual, magical...or even comical Not in all states. Georgia is one state that does not recognize common law...and there are several other states as well. |
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I'm not saying it doesn't happen, I'm just saying it's not the case in every situation. My parents are still together and don't hate each other. I know plenty of married couples that are together and not miserable. I also know ones that are not happy with each other. There are plenty examples on both sides. oh, no , I never meant to imply that it ALWAYS happens; just that it can and does. I would be leery to risk it.
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Marriage originated as a religious ceromony and was taken over by the government to make it a legal one. But if you could only marry within the auspices of religion, then non-religious people would not be allowed to marry. That hardly seems fair. A civil union provides certain legal protection. I am just telling you were religious ceromony originated. There was once no paper, no clerk of court, no lawyers...people would walk out under the open sky and vow themselves to one another...so, why should we now feel such an affection for a hijacked ceromony? I do not see why the Government should control it. Allow people to control their own lives. If two wish to be joined, allow them to do so in whatever manner they deem fit. Be it religious, spiritual, magical...or even comical Not in all states. Georgia is one state that does not recognize common law...and there are several other states as well. |
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I'm not saying it doesn't happen, I'm just saying it's not the case in every situation. My parents are still together and don't hate each other. I know plenty of married couples that are together and not miserable. I also know ones that are not happy with each other. There are plenty examples on both sides. oh, no , I never meant to imply that it ALWAYS happens; just that it can and does. I would be leery to risk it. I try not to make my life choices based on the worst case scenarios.. if you're scared to take risks because of what could happen then you'll never experience anything.. I know that theres a good chance that I won't get my "fairytale happily ever after" but if I find someone that I am confident in my relationship with enough to marry then I think I have a good chance of working towards an outcome that I can be happy with. I also know it takes a lot of work. I'm the type of person that's very committed in everything I do. My first relationship lasted 4 years if that's any indication of how I look at life and love. |
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Even though it is a piece of paper to some people....
 and even though there are many people  who do not even slightly regard the vows they made...  still... I believe in real love & monogamy  and the beauty , and precious sacredness  of a committed, dedicated faithful union ...  a marriage of the heart, soul, spirit & body & will not settle for anything less than the best  |
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Even though it is a piece of paper to some people.... and even though there are many people who do not even slightly regard the vows they made... still... I believe in real love & monogamy and the beauty , and precious sacredness of a committed, dedicated faithful union ... a marriage of the heart, soul, spirit & body & will not settle for anything less than the best nicely put
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My husband thought it was just paper I'm sure he found out it wasn't....
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is a very huge deal, is not just paper; is the acceptance and committment to one another. in something like that.. it wouldn't have matter with or without the paper  But that paper makes the lawyers richer and your life more difficult and allows the Government to become a very personal part of your life. Like I said earlier...why should the Government be involved at all in a religious ceromony??? I know....some idiots don't know the meaning of the word... 
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