Having been married before, I would never go through that again.

I have always maintained that it's better to be alone than to be with the wrong person. And, in my experience, the "wrong" ones outnumber the "right" by a factor of hundreds, maybe even thousands.

In any case, marriage is not an option for me, regardless.

Didn't read entire post, but this is what got my attention. Men prefer being solo over a bad marriage, who in their right mind would want to be in a bad marriage???? (irrepairable marriage)

I prefer to be alone than in the wrong or rotten company, so I guess I would think others agree.

Who needs all that crap...

never get married again.

Once you've done everything you can to make a marriage work...get cheated on...lose your kids and all that you own because of the biased and corrupt court system...end up having to continue to pay the lying, cheating B*TCH...

why would you ever want to?????

But I'm not bitter!!!!

now where ever would anyone get that idea

good luck

So you stay for the wrong reason if the marriage isn't working and be really unhappy. I understand wanting to be there for your kids, but in time your other half is going to see this anyway. So why put yourself through the hell if your not happy?


I would marry again if i know the one that i'm with knows how to communicate. The thing with me and it goes back to marrying the wrong person. I been on this site for almost two years and i found out that alot of women my age have no clue what they want out of life and for get the younger ones, thats a given. I met one women in my life that i actually trust that put things how they are and not how they think things should be and lives her life honestly as who she is. Now mine you. I'm talking about somone i'm attracted to, not saying there isn't other women like this but it is really hard to find and even on the forum, i see how alot of women are cunfused and have no clue.

ill tell you, the ones that are afraid they will never find anyone else...

I am very new to this site. I am 34 almost 35 actually and single. I was engaged to a lovely lady for five years. She chose a little over a year ago to cheat on me with my own sisters ex! I loved her very much. I always thought we would have a wonderful long and happy life together with children and all! However that did not happen! I am not afraid of marraige or commitment to a honest caring lady. But as others of you have stated I will not jump right into something until I am a bit more sure of her and the relationship this time. If I do not marry until I am nearer 40 so be it. I would prefer a bit sooner as I do want to have children. I love kids! I have a few nieces and nephews that are the greatest! So I guess the survey is somewhat correct. I will just be very careful this time and hope that I find Ms. Right.. not perfect by no means just one that fits well with me and my life style!

if that's true then thats not a relationship, thats a situation (jmo)

But if you think about it. Most so call relationships are like that and thats the sad part

I think women also have these same feelings........I guess the key is to really get to know that person before you get married!!!

I dont agree, I wouldnt live like that, but I respect others, so to each their own. That would not be an option for me, regardless of extenuating circumstances.

This is you your talking about, thats a given. But what about everyone else thats on this site. If relationships were so easy and people din't feel so lonely and being afraid to lose the one there with. wouldn't you think they would find another? Most stay because of being afraid of being alone. So they rather suffer then move on with there life.

well. ya don't need to have a bad marriage. but if ya
do have a bad marriage then ya don't have to be alone.
but if yer alone then that's fine too. unless you have
an itch in the middle of your back or you want to have
a nice conversation or play a card game besides "Solitaire".

know what i mean?

Shadow, I can only speak on me, dont much like to generalize why others behave a certain way, I'm sorry if you misunderstood.

Relationships are easy, the hard part is maintaining them, thats where people either get tired of trying or dont try at all taking the other for granted. Just my opinion.

Wish all luck!

don't take me so serious, somtimes i just put things out there, not meaning anything by it. Yes we can only look at ourselves. But just one question you said that relationships are easy and the hard part was maintaining them. Is that your part or theres? The reason i ask this because it starts with us, our actions and taking responciblity for them to. from what i experence alot of people will blame others for there actions and to me that wrong and knowing you will never grow are learn that way.

See now look what you did! you got me thinking

I truly believe in order for a relationship to work both parties must dedicate themselves, their time, their efforts in order for it to work.

I have many faults (after all no one is perfect) but I am damn near close lmao and my faults dont bother me .

You are 100% right, it is so easy to point the finger elsewhere, pass the buck/blame, however, people dont realize as one finger points out 4 others point back atcha.

made ya think huh?

wow common sense being passed off a sage advice. of course guys prefer solo to bad marriages. so do women for goodness sake. problem with all that is you dont go into any marriage expecting it to end badly. if you do you got a screw loose and deserve the bad ending anyway. thing is if we want it to work you have to work at it ( as we say in aa it works if you work it so work it your worth it). dont want to sound like i got all the answers here, i have two divorces under my belt as well. but i also realize that every problem i ever had i was there, something i cant say for my ex wives. i therefore am a big part of my own problems. if i fix me and keep me straight i can then, if i am honest , find and keep a good relationship. i still believe in and believe it will happen. as my buddy said i will get remarried sometime between nest week and never. and this time, hopefully, we will both work it and it will last.

wtg for a first posting

yayyyyy, I am full of common sense

I can't beleive there were actually studies on this. Don't they have lives of their own to take care of? Seems like a silly question to me. An actual study astounds me.