wow common sense being passed off a sage advice. of course guys prefer solo to bad marriages. so do women for goodness sake. problem with all that is you dont go into any marriage expecting it to end badly. if you do you got a screw loose and deserve the bad ending anyway. thing is if we want it to work you have to work at it ( as we say in aa it works if you work it so work it your worth it). dont want to sound like i got all the answers here, i have two divorces under my belt as well. but i also realize that every problem i ever had i was there, something i cant say for my ex wives. i therefore am a big part of my own problems. if i fix me and keep me straight i can then, if i am honest , find and keep a good relationship. i still believe in and believe it will happen. as my buddy said i will get remarried sometime between nest week and never. and this time, hopefully, we will both work it and it will last.