Thanks....I agree!!!

I absolutely love being married. However the financial implication of divorce is what scares me. Been there.

hell yes......Hands Solo instead of being miserable!

so basically what your trying to say is im scr*ewed..great cheers

Not really, A pre-nup would be good

Exactly....been there done that....never will i get married again....LTR yes if they have a separate household, otherwise a bachelor for life & loving it.....

I'm of the mind that it will take the RIGHT WOMAN to get me to go down the aisle. My father always told me never to date or marry for the sake of "having someone". I really have no need for a spouse in terms of keeping house or income, so if I marry, it will be someone I truly love...not some decision made out of a need to fulfill some perceived social norm.

So people can call me selfish or a loser, I sit back and chuckle when divorce court later makes them envy my life. They can't call me "commitment-phobe" because I've been nothing but good to women who can't seem to fathom being good to me.

In the end, the message is that men like me are saying "My life belongs to me."




I personally think they should make this standard with ALL marriages.

First, for all the college educated women making decent salaries and now fear "marrying down", it will protect them in life.

Second, I think when the idea sits that neither side can walk away from the marriage with more than they put into it, it might make couples who have problems work harder to fix the problems as opposed to the battle of wills that eventually leads to lawyers.


For me personally, I'm more the type that when I pick someone to be my wife, I will work hard to make the marriage happy and good, and speak up if I think she is behaving badly in this. I'd like to think that I wouldn't pick people who are of the type to cheat or stray, but in the end I think with all the divorces and now men worried about being raped in the court...that the marriage certificate should now have a pre-nup added to it by law.

Can you imagine how much of the court system would be freed up if this happened? I still believe more people would run to counselors as opposed to lawyers.

I really disagree with you about the whole emotionally painful part.

I don't know about that but guarantee that divorced guys end up in another marriage quicker than women do.


They just cant do with out us.

AMEN, brother

When you first get married its always good, your usually fairly young and you can't see how you both will change. All 23 years of my marriage were not bad, there were some good times to, but the last several were a nightmare! By then there is so much invested its hard to let go even though its been over for some time

I'm not afraid of marriage at all. And I'm not afraid of going through a bad marriage.

However, I've seen what a bad marriage can be like, as can be seen in what my dimwit parents put everybody though when I was a kid. I've seen it all- the arguments, the screaming, the using-the-kid-as-a-ploy-to-go-cheat-on-the-wife thing, as well as others. It wasn't a pleasant thing to experience in the least, and it robbed my brother and me of what should have been our happy childhoods.

I simply WILL NOT put myself, my potential spouse, or any potential kids through the same crap my parents put everybody through. It's more about simply not wanting to repeat the past than it is about fear- if you're gonna put your family-to-be through the ignominy of a bad marriage/adultery/whateverelsethereis, then WHY did you get married to begin with?

I'd rather not even go through the experience in the first place than repeat a bad situation.

The toilet seat stays up.

Wow ... what a profound description (and sadly one I can relate to). Thank you for putting into words what I could never quite describe to people.

Kids are always affected. A family that stays together and fights together often can me more traumatic than one who is wise enough not to expose their kids to more than 1 parent at a time.

Not this boy here

unless it's the kids who beg the mom to PLEASE DO SOMETHING .. cause the fighting is so bad

sometimes putting children through the horrible anger and tension in a relationship is NOT the best or kindest or most selfless thing to do

Well that's good, but I know the statistics state they remarry faster than women do. They tend to want someone to 'care for them' or maybe someone to care FOR. Hmmm

Actually though, all my divorced GF's also got remarried sooner than I did. I am the only one who stayed single for this long after my divorce (10 yrs ago) Now they all say they wished they'd done the same

never been married so i cant say
but i can say im sick n ****in tired of bein alone

I'll sign a pre-nup!