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Topic: WIDOWS AND WIDOWERS
auburngirl Joined Fri 04/27/07 Posts: 18811	Sat 05/24/08 07:16 PM
Hi Robert, welcome, When was your loss?

robert1652 Joined Wed 11/14/07 Posts: 8447	Sat 05/24/08 07:42 PM
Hi Robert, welcome, When was your loss? the very first devastation was 1985 do not want to go there Trvors brother got electricuted driving on a motorway at home in 1998left a wife of 34 and 2 kids 3 and 7 Karen disappeared in Banda Ache in 2006/07 Tsunami Mum died March 2008 I dont talk about them any more it just digs in to the wounds absolutely terrible stuff any way enough of this back to the chainsaw

auburngirl Joined Fri 04/27/07 Posts: 18811	Sat 05/24/08 08:02 PM
Are you widowed?

robert1652 Joined Wed 11/14/07 Posts: 8447	Sat 05/24/08 09:49 PM
Are you widowed? I am not do you want me to go out of the forum?

Sharris Joined Sun 12/10/06 Posts: 7300	Sat 05/24/08 11:34 PM
My baby brother got stung, probably is same proximity, he was 3. I think everyone has these stories..It does break up the somber tides..Thank you robert, nice to meet you. Sadie Very funny Robert ' hope you are feeling better I hope Auburgirl reads it to and I want to thank her for starting such an important topic 1 On my part I will pop in occasionally to give you heads up with the clumsy escapades of mine Now did I tell you what happened in the toilets of the LAX airport hahahaha Now that will have to wait for a while since I don't want to be accused of hijacking forums. when you feel down come and get me and I will tell you a real life story in joke format.Not made up ones true ones.They are always the best now where is that chainsaw I need to cut this piece of meat for supper.

robert1652 Joined Wed 11/14/07 Posts: 8447	Sun 05/25/08 12:45 AM
My baby brother got stung, probably is same proximity, he was 3. I think everyone has these stories..It does break up the somber tides..Thank you robert, nice to meet you. Sadie Hello Sadie thank you for your kind words My comedy was developed after my devastations and people around me falling as though there were no tomorrow. So although have not lost a wife but one person in particular who got washed away with no closure knew me better than any person including wife ever knew me though we never had a sexual relationship. Try to leave with that. The grieving process can't even start without a closure. where do I get my closure . The book is left open and cannot be closed so the comedy comes to rescue. As I see a lot of things in my life through the humour it becomes bearable. Meantime if it brings you guys a bit of smile well then that is an added bonus.I also rescued another lady friend who committed suicide after her loss of the partner and she was for years angry with me for rescuing her and I was angry with her for doing such things we now are close friends. So I think it is fair to say I may know a thing or two about grieving and loss

knightless Joined Sat 04/14/07 Posts: 402	Sun 05/25/08 03:14 AM
Good morning Auburn, and thank you..

auburngirl Joined Fri 04/27/07 Posts: 18811	Sun 05/25/08 05:21 AM
Good Morning Knightless

oldsage Joined Thu 09/14/06 Posts: 18043	Sun 05/25/08 05:53 AM
Morning Ladies, hope you have a good holiday.

auburngirl Joined Fri 04/27/07 Posts: 18811	Sun 05/25/08 05:54 AM
Morning Don Hope you do as well? How are you this a.m?

oldsage Joined Thu 09/14/06 Posts: 18043	Sun 05/25/08 08:17 AM
Recovering from a hard day of tree removing, yesterday. Body aches & sore arms. Need a good rub down.

oldsage Joined Thu 09/14/06 Posts: 18043	Sun 05/25/08 08:20 AM
Special invite to all the widow's & widower's, come to the July Gathering, my house, second weekend of july. Stay longer if you want. Mail me.

BettyB Joined Tue 01/29/08 Posts: 31912	Sun 05/25/08 09:16 AM
Auburngirl and all the other very young widows ,did you experience a ripped off feeling ? Did you have to cope with feeling bitter after ? I am just wondering cause some of you had so little time with your spouse and were so young.

oldsage Joined Thu 09/14/06 Posts: 18043	Sun 05/25/08 09:20 AM
Don't have to be young to feel cheated. Gwen & I only had 14 yrs, planned a lot more.

BettyB Joined Tue 01/29/08 Posts: 31912	Sun 05/25/08 09:27 AM Edited by BettyB on Sun 05/25/08 09:29 AM
Don't have to be young to feel cheated. Gwen & I only had 14 yrs, planned a lot more. yes you are right .But I do think when you are in your 20s and 30s being a widow is the last thing on your mind .The older you get the more you start to think of it . But yes you were cheated and I an sorry you were . I know Gwen must have felt so loved and cherished by you .

auburngirl Joined Fri 04/27/07 Posts: 18811	Sun 05/25/08 09:28 AM
I felt VERY ripped off! Married at 23, widowed at 35...12 years. I was extremely bitter about it.

oldsage Joined Thu 09/14/06 Posts: 18043	Sun 05/25/08 09:31 AM
We decided God has a plan we don't understand. Didn't like it, but made the best of what we had. Betty, you should come down for July.

BettyB Joined Tue 01/29/08 Posts: 31912	Sun 05/25/08 09:33 AM
Well you were ripped off! I also think this might be a good chance to let people know the importance of a will at no matter what age. I know on this topic it is too late ..but just in case someone is reading this and thinks they have all the time in the world to do it ..well you don,t always have that guarentee.

auburngirl Joined Fri 04/27/07 Posts: 18811	Sun 05/25/08 09:33 AM
Betty, how far is Kitchener from Toronto/Mississauga?

auburngirl Joined Fri 04/27/07 Posts: 18811	Sun 05/25/08 09:35 AM
You are right Betty. We didn't have one but things were either in both of our names, like our home, or we were each other's beneficiary. We didn't even have plots and never got them in the 10 months he was sick. He would not speak of that, or the possibility that he wouldn't beat it. So I had to do all of that the day I made the arrangements. It made for a long day.