In many I don,t know which was harder on me ,the actual loss of my husband or watching the life being sucked out ofhim bit by bit ,and no quality of life at all when he died at age 60 he was paralized , could barely swallow , was stripped of all human diginity . I guess in some ways there are things worse than death . Seeing him suffer like that I think was even more unbearable.
God Bless each and every one of you

dose live in boyfriend count he died of copd beside me in bed

Sure it counts, piece of paper doesn't make the pain any greater. Just makes it legal for the govt.

I have never been married. I did go through a series of losses in the 1990s. My mother passed away in 1995. My grandmother in 1996. My brother in 1997 and my cat "my baby" in 1998. I was in shock for quite a while. I do feel as though they are all watching over me and that is comforting.

Close but no cigar.
Lose a TRUE sig. other to death & you'll understand.

Hi Rainbow nice to meet you

i am a widow and single mother of 2 children..its hard..it doesnt get any easier and i wish everday to go back in time..ive learned that you can survive but you never forget

Hi Bare nice to meet you


Welcome to the WW forum

thanks auburn...

Amber

lee

How did you lose your husband Bare?

he had a massive heart attack and dropped dead at 32

and my name is Amber if youd like to call me by my name...we were child hood sweethearts and had been together for 15 years when he died

{{{{{{Bare}}}}}}} I am so sorry. Sudden death is so difficult to deal with. Nothing is easy of course. Mine had cancer so one is a slow horrible process, and the other a sudden kick in the gut.


You said you have young children....how are they doing?

thanks sweetie..i appreciate that...very heartfelt im so sorry about your husband....


my kids still dont understand at times

No they don't. First person I dated after being widowed was a widower and he had two young ones...3 and 5. So hard on young ones but they would be simple too at times like saying we'll just get another mommy. I have found older kids, teens can be tough as well.


Do you have family near to you to help out or for support?

Ty Amber...I'm Connie

Hi, I am home from work..11p and a pot of..no Lee..coffee.

I do not think I have slept, really slept a while. He was bi-polar and did not get help. admit his manic. I was stability. When we were going through the medical..I was in a fluff. Sometimes, I find myself slipping into that. I awaken at 2, at 4..drift and long for the air to move and flow, up and down..around me. My children were teens, graduating HS and Miles went in to the marines, like his older brother..still I think it is harder on me to see them cry and miss.
I have made decision to move ahead, date and ..It is so new, I did very little before I got married. anyway. It is so good to meet all of you..
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