Topic: WIDOWS AND WIDOWERS
carold's photo
Sun 07/13/08 11:32 AM

flowers I am so sorry for your loss Sadie. My life has been nothing but miserable since my beloved Josh left. Although, in April (after the 2 year mark) I made a decision I wanted to be happy again and try to live everyday to the fullest. (yea! for me!) I think I'm just having some bad days. I have started gaining more "good days" and have less "bad days"--but the bad days are bad! I just miss him so much, ya know?
Hugs a plugs is your gaining on the good days. You get down and you get back up. Good to see you on :)

OutandAboutAgain's photo
Sun 07/13/08 02:19 PM
(((Sadie)))
Thats just it, isn't it? Its learining how to live life all over again, but differently;and its
not easy. Aahh, sleep, and to sleep well and be rested. I remember those days...

(((carold)))--thanks, good to see you too

(((auburn))) thanks, its nice that this forum is here I appreciate it. Does it really get better?

cuppy59's photo
Sun 07/13/08 02:29 PM

(((Sadie)))
Thats just it, isn't it? Its learining how to live life all over again, but differently;and its
not easy. Aahh, sleep, and to sleep well and be rested. I remember those days...

(((carold)))--thanks, good to see you too

(((auburn))) thanks, its nice that this forum is here I appreciate it. Does it really get better?


Does it get better...I cant just tell you something you want to hear....

Truth is...nothing gets better...It is easier on some days than others...

Im still in the grieving state they say...I never let things bother me before...but now that Im widowed...it seems like the strangest things will set me off.

Best advice,,,,I got was....and I really like her attitude...She told me to pick my butt up and stop feeling sorry for myself....a direct hit...but this new friend of mine makes me laugh and doesnt let me dwell....I love her so much for that..

OutandAboutAgain's photo
Sun 07/13/08 02:57 PM
(((cuppy)))
Thanks, That is good advice. It is hard to swallow tho, then I truely have to let him die....*trying to pick butt up* Im glad for you, that you have such a wonderful friend! What a blessing.

cuppy59's photo
Sun 07/13/08 03:01 PM

(((cuppy)))
Thanks, That is good advice. It is hard to swallow tho, then I truely have to let him die....*trying to pick butt up* Im glad for you, that you have such a wonderful friend! What a blessing.


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Grabs her hand and says....damn it...lets go out and play...even if its just for a night...

<<<<<----See...now you have a new friend to play with...:wink:

OutandAboutAgain's photo
Sun 07/13/08 03:42 PM


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Grabs her hand and says....damn it...lets go out and play...even if its just for a night...

<<<<<----See...now you have a new friend to play with...:wink:




Thanks, sounds like fun!

OutandAboutAgain's photo
Sun 07/13/08 03:43 PM
I don't think I did the "quote" thing right! lol

cuppy59's photo
Sun 07/13/08 04:06 PM

I don't think I did the "quote" thing right! lol


Right or wrong....If it works...its right....

Beer, Wine, or hard liquor...Im thinking I want Jack tonight..

Sharris's photo
Sun 07/13/08 04:57 PM
Hello, A day hanging..literally..bras, panties..lace..
A stranger gave me some advice a while back..said do something to make your children gasp..the fact of the matter is I am finding things to catch MY breath. It is nice to meet people, I try to have eye contact with everyone I meet. part of my "diet"..I am hesitant at times around men, yet, I have an energy I did not have before. I am learning and re-learning.
It is nice to hear from you all. I have been avoiding..I am tired of a lot of things..sleeping alone, coming home to echo and hearing only me..so I connect here and try different things..anyone want to teach me to dance? I went to a bar for the first time..live music..hoping I would be asked to dance..it did not happen..I think I an exuding vibrations..I am going to try something else until..
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cuppy59's photo
Sun 07/13/08 05:03 PM

Hello, A day hanging..literally..bras, panties..lace..
A stranger gave me some advice a while back..said do something to make your children gasp..the fact of the matter is I am finding things to catch MY breath. It is nice to meet people, I try to have eye contact with everyone I meet. part of my "diet"..I am hesitant at times around men, yet, I have an energy I did not have before. I am learning and re-learning.
It is nice to hear from you all. I have been avoiding..I am tired of a lot of things..sleeping alone, coming home to echo and hearing only me..so I connect here and try different things..anyone want to teach me to dance? I went to a bar for the first time..live music..hoping I would be asked to dance..it did not happen..I think I an exuding vibrations..I am going to try something else until..
s


Went to a bar once after hubby died...what a big mistake...not me...but I have to say that I have become very bold and outgoing....Im more uninhibited than ever....Its like...what the hell...who gives a flying leap....what will they do, arrest me. That would be a first. Now I want to do the things that I would never think of before...skydive, parasail, maybe even bungi jump....Im not afraid to die anymore....Whats the worst scenario...Im with him again, right...

Sharris's photo
Sun 07/13/08 05:18 PM


Hello, A day hanging..literally..bras, panties..lace..
A stranger gave me some advice a while back..said do something to make your children gasp..the fact of the matter is I am finding things to catch MY breath. It is nice to meet people, I try to have eye contact with everyone I meet. part of my "diet"..I am hesitant at times around men, yet, I have an energy I did not have before. I am learning and re-learning.
It is nice to hear from you all. I have been avoiding..I am tired of a lot of things..sleeping alone, coming home to echo and hearing only me..so I connect here and try different things..anyone want to teach me to dance? I went to a bar for the first time..live music..hoping I would be asked to dance..it did not happen..I think I an exuding vibrations..I am going to try something else until..
s


Went to a bar once after hubby died...what a big mistake...not me...but I have to say that I have become very bold and outgoing....Im more uninhibited than ever....Its like...what the hell...who gives a flying leap....what will they do, arrest me. That would be a first. Now I want to do the things that I would never think of before...skydive, parasail, maybe even bungi jump....Im not afraid to die anymore....Whats the worst scenario...Im with him again, right...


fear has a different meaning. I am more outspoken. I do not care about what people think, as much..
It is a good thing in so many respects.

auburngirl's photo
Tue 07/15/08 05:51 AM
Good Morning Sunshines!!!!!drinker

Coffee all around. I hope you all have a wonderful day. flowers

oldsage's photo
Tue 07/15/08 06:02 AM
Outandabout, I don't think we ever "let them truely die." Been 11yrs+ & still have moments where it seems like yesterday. We slowly learn to handle it better. You will eventually move on little by little. May never find what you had, but something close.

For any & all ever need an ear, I am around.

OutandAboutAgain's photo
Tue 07/15/08 03:03 PM
thanks sage, i appreciate it.

s, do something to make them gasp?....sounds like a plan!

cuppy, i agree.

thanks, everyone

auburngirl's photo
Tue 07/15/08 06:44 PM
HUGS Out!!! flowerforyou

BettyB's photo
Wed 07/16/08 10:20 AM
Hello everbody
Hope everyone is doing well. Was just reading a thread where someone is really bashing Canadians , it was really bad ,surprised it wasn,t stopped!

oldsage's photo
Wed 07/16/08 02:13 PM
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Wed 07/16/08 02:26 PM

Ck. Rate my profile for explanation of new pics.

Is that you OLDSAGE ? .
It must be the effects of the party on you .

laugh laugh

oldsage's photo
Thu 07/17/08 02:43 AM
For the not sleeping thing, some from the widow's group bought "body pillows". something to hug in your sleep, NO WAY the same, but it helps, they said.

auburngirl's photo
Thu 07/17/08 11:08 AM
I did that too, Don. I bought a body pillow. It actually did help fill in all that space in the bed.