That is Very well said R.T. Thank you for that.

I think after a period of time we realize we can run, but we can't hide from it. We could move, buy all new things, it really wouldn't matter because it would be going wherever we go. I don't mean to infer that moving doesn't help when we feel that time is right. I think, unfortunately, the only way to do it, is to Do it. We have to go thru it, we can't go around it or hide from it.

Outandabout I wish I knew what to say to you. I feel like after all this time at it, I should be able to tell you HOW to do this. I find the words don't come.

Out and about you want to share some of your life with us? I'm new so I don't know your story. I was married 18 years He had MD I wouldn't change your name they do say wait 2 years before making allot of life changing decisions. It has been 3 for me.

Well, its kind of a long story but, I'll try to keep it short. lol... I married my high school sweatheart and after our six year ann. we found out he had a muscle disease. It wasn't a disease that was going to kill him but, in the end the depression from being disabled did. He took his own life. It has been just over two years now, and has been very difficult,and made some decisions I feel I was pushed into by my in-laws, (especially not being in the right mind.) I guess the real issue is involved with his parents. They have done nothing but take from me, in every way. I thought it may be a way to hurt them back and help me move on.(although I don't really think so) I know I will never forget my hubby and the memories we shared, and what type of people we were striving to be. idk...maybe I am still depressed and dealing with greif and anger... I just thought I'd throw the question out there to see what others had done. Thank you all for your concern and comments.

Hi..I have been a widow for 5 yrs now. Still cant settle with anyone although I miss having someone to share with. i want to fall in love.

I relate my husbands family I'm sorry weren't so great either. And he had Muscular Dystrophy and those last year were rough. He got so hook to pain meds it was hard when he past I felt he was at peace. So is your husband. Like mine the depression from the meds and pain. You seem so young to have gone through all this. i don't talk to his family any more.

I want to fall in love but it seem like every one wants something out of me not just me for me. I think it takes allot of time for the right one I'm not settling I am dating but still looking to fall.

{{{{{{Outandabout}}}}}} I am so sorry for all you have been thru. I know a WEE bit about what that can do to a family as my father-in-law took his life. Please feel free to come here and talk about any of those issues concerning your inlaw family. We are a safe place to fall.



Welcome Misstreatunice Glad you found us but sorry you had to. I'm Connie and I am widowed 9 years.

Hi everbody.Hope everone is doing well.

Hi there {{{{{ connie} }}}} Are things going well for you?

Hey,

(((Connie))))((((Betty)))) ..Been gone a while...needed my space....Im work in progress..I see we have many new people...

Miss you guys!

Hi Cathy
How are you doing ? Are you feeling better now?

So, So Betty...I had to get a grip...Need to focus on my daughter and grandsons arrival on the 15th...I need to spend time him so bad it hurts....My daughter is pregnant again...due in November...What a great little Mom she is...I wish they didnt live so far away

It must be so nice to have grandchildren !!My girls are not married yet so I guess we will have to wait on that.
Glad you are doing a little better a least .

Hold old are your daughters...My daughter is 23...Oldest son is 27 married to a wonderful girl in Chicago and have my 17 year old still at home...He is my savior actually...

My oldest is late 30S she doesn't want kids at all'
My youngest is 28 she can't wait to have kids ,in fact she wants kids so bad she says if she has not found the right man by the time she is 30 she wants to look into atificial insemenation.
I understand the need for children but I'm not sure I like her idea. what do you think?

I would tell her go for it...If she wants to be a mom...than she should not be stopped by the obvious.....I would support her decision...she is not child and when the years pass you by then that is a shame....she will regret it someday if she doesnt at least try...and I know regret eats you up inside.

Thanks Cathy .It was just this whole single mom thing that had me worried. She would make a fantstic Mother I have no worries on that at all.On the other hand she could be married and lose her husband so I guess there are no guarentees!

Absolutely Betty...Motherhood is a gift from god and those who want it should have that opportunity...Its the ones that have them and then dont care for them are the sad ones.

how often you see that is scarey.some people who would make the best parents ever can't have them and others who don't give a darn can breed like rats.That is so unfair.
Anyway I should go and get some work done.
Take care and have a great Day

I don't get around it drives me crazy lol.

Like that these kids need parents does your daughter ever think of adopting you can still have your own kids. A friend of mine adopted he is a great kid. I think how lucky he is he got her. And she is lucky too.