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Hello everyone .How are you all doing?
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My thought and mantra has been just for today i can do what I could not possibley think of doing for a life time but i Can do it just today..
rest time for me..my kids have filed complantsto me about the gtave site... they think it looks bad going out to see it and do what needs done. you know they could have fixed what need done there.. will sell them cheap.. are 36 and 38 oh.... yea you get thier kids as well.... all 7 of them.. any takers? will keep the great grand kids... |
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Hi Rose
Well I am, glad you are resting today. You are so right nothing is stopping them from doing it. Good for you ! 
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Ok, I married very young (15). He was 100% disabled vet. He was not lost in war, but due to heart disease. Five long years on and off a transplant list. We had 1 child whos is now 15. I was married to him all of my life until he died 2 1/2 yrs ago. I had one relationship since that lasted a few months. I think perhaps I am not used to be alone and just want that instant "belonging to someone"...It is hard to be alone when you been with somebody all your life. But, some parts are kind of good...like realizing when something breaks that you can fix it yourself! That makes you proud. 2 months after I lost my husband, my mentally ill sister lapsed into an irreversible coma due to hospital negligence. She lingered in coma 5 months. I buried her 6 months after my husband. You just don't know how strong you are until you are face to face with something that forces you to be. I know now I could handle most anything...not everything , though...my 15 year old daughter is my heart and anything bad pertaining to her would do me in for sure! As far as dating...not sure I am ready. I think this past 3 yrs needs more time to sink in. |
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some of the same here, also married at 15.5 was not expecting just escaping home. the fisrt on lasted almost 6 years and 3 children, buried one. the second 32. I really understand that belonging feeling.... went out last night to see someone the first time. they alwas try and kiss you to me that like meeting a new person at wall mart and kissing them, felt strange. maybe it's me.
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Yeah I don't get why they think they can go so fast these days. I think it has been awhile for most and they push it to fast. And most are probably not thinking of friendship first. Oh well different dating now than when I was dating last. lol
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I think that's why there is somay bic marrages... use it up and throw away... they have nothing to build on. or hang on to when times are tough.
i not in a hurry to remarry if ever. not sure i could live thru that kind of pain again if something happened. |
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I think that's why there is somay bic marrages... use it up and throw away... they have nothing to build on. or hang on to when times are tough. i not in a hurry to remarry if ever. not sure i could live thru that kind of pain again if something happened. |
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I some times wonder, if that is a factor in my desire to sdaty single. Watched someone very special, slowly change. Quality of life was very important, but still remember how her energy, slowly went. Learning what a "death rattle" sounds like, will never forget. Idea of being that open again, know I can do it; just don't know if I want too.
Things that go thru your mind when your alone. |
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oh God the death rattle.... randy had it for days before i did not know what it was, after he passed i mentioned this to the doctor as she and I stood at the casket.. and she told me.. but that sound will never leave my mind, i watched a man who at the onset was 46 inch waist go to a 34.. tumor burden, then the loss of feeling in his hand and feet, the loss of sight, the constant iv and pick line and hickmans I can do one in my sleep, the test I help hold him down for, because of a promise to be with him in every test and surgery.. the hoops i had to jump to get to do this... the slow loss of his love.. i think toward the end he may have hated me as it was for me he fought to stay here.YOu could see it in his eyes... he hated to see me work all the time knowing he could not help. yet he went back to work at the steel mill.... slept almost all day to work 8 hours. you know I hunger... for that touch smile, love ya babe, that something that gone for ever. for me it was the worst of time and the best of times all we had was each other.
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Good Afternoon ALL!!
Hope you're all having a GREAT day!
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I some times wonder, if that is a factor in my desire to sdaty single. Watched someone very special, slowly change. Quality of life was very important, but still remember how her energy, slowly went. Learning what a "death rattle" sounds like, will never forget. Idea of being that open again, know I can do it; just don't know if I want too. Things that go thru your mind when your alone. |
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I some times wonder, if that is a factor in my desire to sdaty single. Watched someone very special, slowly change. Quality of life was very important, but still remember how her energy, slowly went. Learning what a "death rattle" sounds like, will never forget. Idea of being that open again, know I can do it; just don't know if I want too. Things that go thru your mind when your alone. |
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I think the thought of going thru death of another sig. other; affects us more than we realize.
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I think the thought of going thru death of another sig. other; affects us more than we realize. |
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We get quite good at stuffing emotions.
It is a bit of hell, when the stuffing comes out. |
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AFternoon all!
If y'all get a chance would you please please read Scttrbrns thread on General boards entitled "I got a call". They sooo request prayer for their beloved dog! Thank you
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We get quite good at stuffing emotions. It is a bit of hell, when the stuffing comes out. |
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Hi,
Just wanted to say hello. I found and joined this site today and i really, really like it. I am a widow and have been one for 18 years. I have been single since I was 30. My children are now 21, 25, and 28. I don't date; I tried that for a little while here and there and got so tired of it that I quit completely in 2001. I'm alone and most of the time not lonely. If and when I get lonely I find something to do. As I said I like this site and I'm realy glad I found it. |
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Welcome Deanna widowed too for 3 years. Just started dating after New Years. Different world out there. I like the discussion board just started on them a week ago. Hope you enjoy. Carol
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