well...personally....i mustn't say what is really going on here....



they ALWAYS FRIKKIN SHOOT THE MESSENGER!!

prefer the old days myself

me too

many do!

I think there is a sort of natural evolution re: identifying and establishing relationships with certain people here, based on common ground, mutual respect, etc. Some people you're just going to like more than others, identify with more than others. Perfectly normal.

Where it gets to be a problem is when these "alliances" become exclusionary and hostile towards "outsiders." It happens; there's a bit of it going on now, but the current cliques are more insular than actively abusive.

There are others here who have formed circles of friends which are not exclusive; they're open to accepting new people, other people, into the circle. I think what may happen there, sometimes -- based on what people tell me via e-mail -- is that there are some who are simply afraid to participate in a thread which is clearly full of friends who have known each other for some time. They are afraid of being seen as "intrusive." My experience has been, though, that most of the current members welcome new people, provided the new people follow the rules and behave decently.

andus old school are being ignored since the newbies wanna take over the world--

how nice of you to say..I think.

so does that mean you think that anyone who joined after you is somehow ruining your experience?

You just joined..or did you?

See, THAT was the mindset of so many of the "orginals" as the site grew. There used to be complaints along the lines of "I don't like the way the site is now. It's not my JSH anymore."

As if the site had been solely and strictly designed for them! They couldn't see that a site needs new people in order to thrive. They wanted it to be some kind of stagnant, dead-end morass, with the same few old-timers, for all eternity.

Which really doesn't work very well for people who want to join a dating site to find somebody to date....unless you wanted to date one of the old stick-in-the-mud people, which wasn't going to happen because you were new and they weren't going to lower themselves to acknowledge your existence anyway.

I like the site the way it is; some really cool people have come and gone since I have been here; and some I could have done without as well. There are so many people, so many threads, and so many opportunities to start your own threads that you can really do a lot to create your own experience here and determine to some extent, the quality of that experience.

you won't be ignored if you post, such as now....and your posts are something people want to talk about

When I first came to JSH there were lots of fun and laughs but these days there are less laughs and more ugliness of all sorts...

I guess I have been delinquent in my duties!!!

No, someone told me it was my fault that JSH was no fun anymore. Apparently I am bombastic and heavy-handed. I can't let you take the blame.

Define the time frame of "the good old days" please.

Yeah!!! Where the hell have you been?

It's like "Hey get off of my cloud." or:

"Stop raining on my parade."

I have been told not to butt into a private conversation. Private? I told them if they wanted private conversation they should send emails or messages and not post in a public forum.

But people love an audience.

I don't know what's changed... I'm not getting any dates now either.

Yep, we want world and thread domination....