Ok So after 4 yrs my bf decides to end it, then tells me that I have a chance later down the road at us again, and that if I dont go looking for anyone he wont go looking for anyone and blah blah.

So here it is a year later and we are still talking but, he seems to get mad when I talk about going to go out he says well you moved on fast or do what you gotta do I mean hey I cant stop you.

Now keep in mind this is a guy I gave my heart and soul to and spent every minute i had making sure he knew i loved him and that he was my only one.

I am not sure what another chance down the road means espically when he said if i dont look he wont, am I suppose to sit and wait for him to make up his mind or is this just his way of saying he wanted time and that now I am not sitting here waiting for him he is getting mad at me?
Someone tell me something please I am so confused!!

Just do what he says.

how old is he and you?

You need to forget about him and move on

SImple

dont wait if he loved you he would never let you go



or atleast i sure wouldnt

move on , and dont look back !

Sounds like there may be someone else and he wants to keep you hanging in case this other situation doesn't work? I wouldn't wait i would move to missouri lol

sounds like he does not know what he wants.(Drop him like a hot potato) You are young, date others.

move on.....to me!!!!

It's clear how you feel about him. He broke it off with you, and you're still talking and who knows what else. I think you want to be with him as a boyfriend/husband. I believe he cares for you, but you shouldn't give him both. Put him on the spot and say "don't contact me unless you are interested in what I'm interested in." He will likely call soon.

let him go, he isn't the one for you. There is a chance that he just gave you that line to break it to you easily. Start to move on, if he felt there was a problem with the relationship, he would have worked on it with you while you were together. I know if sucks, when you invest a lot of time and energy into someone. Take some time and find yourself. Once you are comfortable with yourself, that's when you will find the right one.

Sounds like hes trying to keep you on the back burner....while he checks out his options

Sorry to tell you this dudette, he wants you to sit like a puppy while he lives his life and when he gets tired of trying he'll come home to you for what he wants, then after he gets tired of you again he'll just leave again, my X wanted the same thing from me, but she ended up leaving with my friend, my money and my car.... kick his ass out of your life, it can't end up well whatever you do...

move on...it sounds like he is playing games. You deserve better than that.

Let him go. If he loves you, he will come back to you. If you still want him. If he loves you right now, he would be with you right now!

Just drop him. He has no idea what he wants. Do you really want to look back on your life when you are older and regret waiting around for someone who didn't care enough for you to be with you anyway?

hes not waiting i promise

Don't sit around and wait...move on dear. Believe me. I was going through the same thing. I liked (still do) this guy and I showed him every moment I could. But he didn't show the interest as he used to. So, I moved on. I wasn't going to waste my energy on one guy when there are plenty that would want it just as bad as he would. I think the guy just wanted some kind of attention. But, yeah, move on.

Absolutely in agreement with everyone else. Just move on. He was willing to walk away from your relationship of what 4 yrs? Don't waste your time on him, especially if he wasn't spending the same amount of time and energy on making sure you felt loved. Think back on all of the excuses you made about him to yourself, friends, family....if its more than a few....move on. Go find someone who wants to love you just as much if not more than how much you love them

YOur right, I do still love and care for him, and I just ugh It is flustrating because I know we had so much going and In some small way I really was hoping for that 2nd chance. I mean sometimes it is hard to see myself with someone else, I mean I feel like he is the only one I have this special bond with,the only one who knows me inside and out, my ups and my downs and the only one who can comfort me and keep me calm. Am I crazy or just hoping that somehow someway that the 2nd chance hits me ??

Sighs