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izzie Joined Wed 02/21/07 Posts: 31834	Fri 04/04/08 04:04 PM
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hikerchick Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 13206	Fri 04/04/08 04:04 PM Edited by hikerchick on Fri 04/04/08 04:05 PM
ty wiley and winx...my voices tell me you are good people ok...but seriously though (like that will happen lol) is it more of the issue of the person being born a different sex or the fact that they lied???? see??? i can be serious I think the lie is a big problem but telling the truth is problematic for people in that situation. They really are in a lose-lose position.

hikerchick Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 13206	Fri 04/04/08 04:04 PM Edited by hikerchick on Fri 04/04/08 04:05 PM


izzie Joined Wed 02/21/07 Posts: 31834	Fri 04/04/08 04:05 PM
ok so you have been dating this girl for a while now and you have fallen in love with her,she tells you to come over cause she needs to tell you something.You get there and she takes a deep breath and says,"i was born as a man."How would you react? and would you still love her/him/it? Would they not still be a person? Honestly, I couldn't give a definite answer on this unless I was in that situation. It would depend on how long I'd known them, how I felt about them, among a myriad of other things. It wouldn't be a straight yes/no. I'm just not wired that way. wiley.. i was born a man...

wiley Joined Thu 12/13/07 Posts: 19738	Fri 04/04/08 04:05 PM
I guess I missed the part in the OP where they out and out lied. If it were me, I wouldn't be comfortable relaying that kind of information to somebody unless I trusted them with it. Like I said, it would depend on how long I knew them, how well I knew them, how I felt about them, etc.

yellowrose10 Joined Tue 12/11/07 Posts: 52804	Fri 04/04/08 04:06 PM
ty wiley and winx...my voices tell me you are good people ok...but seriously though (like that will happen lol) is it more of the issue of the person being born a different sex or the fact that they lied???? see??? i can be serious I think the lie is a big problem but telling the truth is problematic for people in that situation. They really are in a lose-lose situation. true. i know my problem would be the lie. if i knew the truth then i could make the choice. but then again...i've had several lie to me about different things so...dunno

wiley Joined Thu 12/13/07 Posts: 19738	Fri 04/04/08 04:07 PM
ok so you have been dating this girl for a while now and you have fallen in love with her,she tells you to come over cause she needs to tell you something.You get there and she takes a deep breath and says,"i was born as a man."How would you react? and would you still love her/him/it? Would they not still be a person? Honestly, I couldn't give a definite answer on this unless I was in that situation. It would depend on how long I'd known them, how I felt about them, among a myriad of other things. It wouldn't be a straight yes/no. I'm just not wired that way. wiley.. i was born a man... Since I don't really know you, I'd be a little surprised, (considering you've had 4 kids, didn't think that was possible with someone transgender) but I wouldn't be crushed.

yellowrose10 Joined Tue 12/11/07 Posts: 52804	Fri 04/04/08 04:07 PM
I guess I missed the part in the OP where they out and out lied. If it were me, I wouldn't be comfortable relaying that kind of information to somebody unless I trusted them with it. Like I said, it would depend on how long I knew them, how well I knew them, how I felt about them, etc. ok...i guess some feel it's lying by omission or deceiving etc. i understand about the trust issue on both sides though

Winx Joined Fri 08/31/07 Posts: 39051	Fri 04/04/08 04:09 PM
ty wiley and winx...my voices tell me you are good people ok...but seriously though (like that will happen lol) is it more of the issue of the person being born a different sex or the fact that they lied???? see??? i can be serious Your serious side is good too. That is a lie. But...why would someone tell that information before they trusted them? That person has been through alot of hurt, I'm sure. I would like to say that being a different sex than you are born, shouldn't matter. But..I can't say 110% for sure because I haven't been in that situation.

Silntstrnger Joined Wed 12/12/07 Posts: 4265	Fri 04/04/08 04:10 PM
how can u have sex with someone and not know if ur male or female and the fact is u didnt fall with him but the person he pretended to be..he wasnt honest and the trust is now broken

astrosfan Joined Thu 09/07/06 Posts: 450	Fri 04/04/08 04:10 PM
ok so you have been dating this girl for a while now and you have fallen in love with her,she tells you to come over cause she needs to tell you something.You get there and she takes a deep breath and says,"i was born as a man."How would you react? and would you still love her/him/it? ummmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm nooooooooooooooooooooo aww coco is that a friend in the pic w/ u? ? or or some lucky guy ???????... you look happy good to see!!!

wiley Joined Thu 12/13/07 Posts: 19738	Fri 04/04/08 04:10 PM
I actually knew and was friends with someone who was born with both organs for a long time. I started to like them but they decided they didn't want to be a girl. That was a fun experience on both sides.

southern_bee Joined Sun 07/29/07 Posts: 4812	Fri 04/04/08 04:12 PM
if they werent honest with you with a major thing like that what else could they lie to you about

antisteroidsx Joined Fri 02/08/08 Posts: 837	Fri 04/04/08 04:13 PM
I COULD LOVE HER HEART BUT FOR ME THE "RELATIONS"PART WOULD BE TO STRANGE SO IN THE LONG RUN I GUES IT WOULD MATTER

yellowrose10 Joined Tue 12/11/07 Posts: 52804	Fri 04/04/08 04:14 PM
I actually knew and was friends with someone who was born with both organs for a long time. I started to like them but they decided they didn't want to be a girl. That was a fun experience on both sides. oh in the dance world...i have friends that are cross dressers, transvestites, you name it. i guess i don't understand about not telling up front because they are very open about it. but i guess it's like someone that could lie about how many kids they have when you first start dating...you are told they have 2 then found out later that he has 3 more out there. that alone wouldn't bother me...it would be lying upfront or by omission or trying to deceive no matter how hard it is. or maybe for the same reason some lie about what they look like here or who they are etc. ok....i'll stop babbling now

coco56 Joined Sun 06/24/07 Posts: 12347	Fri 04/04/08 04:14 PM
ok so you have been dating this girl for a while now and you have fallen in love with her,she tells you to come over cause she needs to tell you something.You get there and she takes a deep breath and says,"i was born as a man."How would you react? and would you still love her/him/it? ummmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm nooooooooooooooooooooo aww coco is that a friend in the pic w/ u? ? or or some lucky guy ???????... you look happy good to see!!! yes he is my boyfriend thanks

wiley Joined Thu 12/13/07 Posts: 19738	Fri 04/04/08 04:15 PM
I actually knew and was friends with someone who was born with both organs for a long time. I started to like them but they decided they didn't want to be a girl. That was a fun experience on both sides. oh in the dance world...i have friends that are cross dressers, transvestites, you name it. i guess i don't understand about not telling up front because they are very open about it. but i guess it's like someone that could lie about how many kids they have when you first start dating...you are told they have 2 then found out later that he has 3 more out there. that alone wouldn't bother me...it would be lying upfront or by omission or trying to deceive no matter how hard it is. or maybe for the same reason some lie about what they look like here or who they are etc. ok....i'll stop babbling now Well in his case, he wanted to be a boy, his parents wanted him to be a girl. I understood the not telling anyone because frankly it wasn't anybody's business.

Cheddar_2 Joined Tue 07/17/07 Posts: 44	Fri 04/04/08 04:16 PM
wiley.. i was born a man... If you're a man, I'm the Queen of Spain. Hubba. Back to matters at hand. Honesty is a problem when being up-front about that kinda thing means a look of absolute disgust on one hand, and a brutal ass-whuppin' on the other hand. Lotsa factors involved here. Affection, obviously. Religion and/or personal moral outlook on homosexuality. Desire for biological offspring. How good the surgery on them was, etc. My personal POV is that I'd be stunned and probably a lot disappointed...but be gentle in telling them No or "I need to think about this". From what I recall of Psych 101, transgendered folks tend to have a high suicide rate. Who'd have thought that being a pariah from every single culture in the world for something (IMO) you can't control would make people kill themselves. Tread carefully.

ominousman26 Joined Sun 02/10/08 Posts: 1270	Fri 04/04/08 04:18 PM
there lying to the same and oppostie sex...and thats just wrong

izzie Joined Wed 02/21/07 Posts: 31834	Fri 04/04/08 04:19 PM
and i thought you loved me.. muahahaha.. teeheehee.. im teazin. ok so you have been dating this girl for a while now and you have fallen in love with her,she tells you to come over cause she needs to tell you something.You get there and she takes a deep breath and says,"i was born as a man."How would you react? and would you still love her/him/it? Would they not still be a person? Honestly, I couldn't give a definite answer on this unless I was in that situation. It would depend on how long I'd known them, how I felt about them, among a myriad of other things. It wouldn't be a straight yes/no. I'm just not wired that way. wiley.. i was born a man... Since I don't really know you, I'd be a little surprised, (considering you've had 4 kids, didn't think that was possible with someone transgender) but I wouldn't be crushed.