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yellowrose10 Joined Tue 12/11/07 Posts: 52804	Fri 04/04/08 04:20 PM
I actually knew and was friends with someone who was born with both organs for a long time. I started to like them but they decided they didn't want to be a girl. That was a fun experience on both sides. oh in the dance world...i have friends that are cross dressers, transvestites, you name it. i guess i don't understand about not telling up front because they are very open about it. but i guess it's like someone that could lie about how many kids they have when you first start dating...you are told they have 2 then found out later that he has 3 more out there. that alone wouldn't bother me...it would be lying upfront or by omission or trying to deceive no matter how hard it is. or maybe for the same reason some lie about what they look like here or who they are etc. ok....i'll stop babbling now Well in his case, he wanted to be a boy, his parents wanted him to be a girl. I understood the not telling anyone because frankly it wasn't anybody's business. in that case...i don't believe there is a right or wrong in what sex they are. are they not technically both?

Jill298 Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 16316	Fri 04/04/08 04:28 PM
I would leave... and prob never talk to him/her again. He/she lied to me. I deserve to make the choice of whether or not I want to be in a relationship like that. Lying to me about it removes my ability to choose... therefore, I would leave

wiley Joined Thu 12/13/07 Posts: 19738	Fri 04/04/08 04:28 PM
I actually knew and was friends with someone who was born with both organs for a long time. I started to like them but they decided they didn't want to be a girl. That was a fun experience on both sides. oh in the dance world...i have friends that are cross dressers, transvestites, you name it. i guess i don't understand about not telling up front because they are very open about it. but i guess it's like someone that could lie about how many kids they have when you first start dating...you are told they have 2 then found out later that he has 3 more out there. that alone wouldn't bother me...it would be lying upfront or by omission or trying to deceive no matter how hard it is. or maybe for the same reason some lie about what they look like here or who they are etc. ok....i'll stop babbling now Well in his case, he wanted to be a boy, his parents wanted him to be a girl. I understood the not telling anyone because frankly it wasn't anybody's business. in that case...i don't believe there is a right or wrong in what sex they are. are they not technically both? Yes.

wiley Joined Thu 12/13/07 Posts: 19738	Fri 04/04/08 04:30 PM
I would leave... and prob never talk to him/her again. He/she lied to me. I deserve to make the choice of whether or not I want to be in a relationship like that. Lying to me about it removes my ability to choose... therefore, I would leave I don't know. From the OP this is after just dating for awhile. It wasn't even really clear if this would be dating exclusively at that point. It would be a different story if you found out after you'd been married to this person and they told you. I wouldn't expect something like that after a few dates.

Winx Joined Fri 08/31/07 Posts: 39051	Fri 04/04/08 04:30 PM
I COULD LOVE HER HEART BUT FOR ME THE "RELATIONS"PART WOULD BE TO STRANGE SO IN THE LONG RUN I GUES IT WOULD MATTER But...he is a female now. 100% female but can't have children.

Jill298 Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 16316	Fri 04/04/08 04:33 PM
I would leave... and prob never talk to him/her again. He/she lied to me. I deserve to make the choice of whether or not I want to be in a relationship like that. Lying to me about it removes my ability to choose... therefore, I would leave I don't know. From the OP this is after just dating for awhile. It wasn't even really clear if this would be dating exclusively at that point. It would be a different story if you found out after you'd been married to this person and they told you. I wouldn't expect something like that after a few dates. if I didnt meet you in gay bar or setting and you present yourself as a man to me, and take me out on dates as man, I expect you to be a man. You should be upfront about this. Also, the situation said you already fell in love, which is very unlikely after just a few dates

ominousman26 Joined Sun 02/10/08 Posts: 1270	Fri 04/04/08 04:35 PM
I would leave... and prob never talk to him/her again. He/she lied to me. I deserve to make the choice of whether or not I want to be in a relationship like that. Lying to me about it removes my ability to choose... therefore, I would leave I don't know. From the OP this is after just dating for awhile. It wasn't even really clear if this would be dating exclusively at that point. It would be a different story if you found out after you'd been married to this person and they told you. I wouldn't expect something like that after a few dates. if I didnt meet you in gay bar or setting and you present yourself as a man to me, and take me out on dates as man, I expect you to be a man. You should be upfront about this. Also, the situation said you already fell in love, which is very unlikely after just a few dates i never put just a few date`s i said a while now,like 2 to 3 months

Subliminal_Whitewash Joined Fri 04/04/08 Posts: 19	Fri 04/04/08 04:36 PM
ok so you have been dating this girl for a while now and you have fallen in love with her,she tells you to come over cause she needs to tell you something.You get there and she takes a deep breath and says,"i was born as a man."How would you react? and would you still love her/him/it? Is he/she pre-op or post-op?

wiley Joined Thu 12/13/07 Posts: 19738	Fri 04/04/08 04:37 PM
I would leave... and prob never talk to him/her again. He/she lied to me. I deserve to make the choice of whether or not I want to be in a relationship like that. Lying to me about it removes my ability to choose... therefore, I would leave I don't know. From the OP this is after just dating for awhile. It wasn't even really clear if this would be dating exclusively at that point. It would be a different story if you found out after you'd been married to this person and they told you. I wouldn't expect something like that after a few dates. if I didnt meet you in gay bar or setting and you present yourself as a man to me, and take me out on dates as man, I expect you to be a man. You should be upfront about this. Also, the situation said you already fell in love, which is very unlikely after just a few dates Fair enough. Simply voicing my opinion. No need to get bent out of shape.

wiley Joined Thu 12/13/07 Posts: 19738	Fri 04/04/08 04:38 PM
i never put just a few date`s i said a while now,like 2 to 3 months a while now can mean pretty much anything. For me a while now could be a few weeks. Just saying.

Jill298 Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 16316	Fri 04/04/08 04:39 PM
I would leave... and prob never talk to him/her again. He/she lied to me. I deserve to make the choice of whether or not I want to be in a relationship like that. Lying to me about it removes my ability to choose... therefore, I would leave I don't know. From the OP this is after just dating for awhile. It wasn't even really clear if this would be dating exclusively at that point. It would be a different story if you found out after you'd been married to this person and they told you. I wouldn't expect something like that after a few dates. if I didnt meet you in gay bar or setting and you present yourself as a man to me, and take me out on dates as man, I expect you to be a man. You should be upfront about this. Also, the situation said you already fell in love, which is very unlikely after just a few dates Fair enough. Simply voicing my opinion. No need to get bent out of shape. awww wiley Im not bent out of shape... sorry it came across that way

wiley Joined Thu 12/13/07 Posts: 19738	Fri 04/04/08 04:42 PM
I would leave... and prob never talk to him/her again. He/she lied to me. I deserve to make the choice of whether or not I want to be in a relationship like that. Lying to me about it removes my ability to choose... therefore, I would leave I don't know. From the OP this is after just dating for awhile. It wasn't even really clear if this would be dating exclusively at that point. It would be a different story if you found out after you'd been married to this person and they told you. I wouldn't expect something like that after a few dates. if I didnt meet you in gay bar or setting and you present yourself as a man to me, and take me out on dates as man, I expect you to be a man. You should be upfront about this. Also, the situation said you already fell in love, which is very unlikely after just a few dates Fair enough. Simply voicing my opinion. No need to get bent out of shape. awww wiley Im not bent out of shape... sorry it came across that way It's ok. Sometimes it's just hard to read emotion from just a few words on a screen.

hikerchick Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 13206	Fri 04/04/08 04:48 PM
I am not sure this is lying or just not telling you until you need to know. Until you get really serious with a person, their past is really none of your business.

wiley Joined Thu 12/13/07 Posts: 19738	Fri 04/04/08 04:51 PM
I am not sure this is lying or just not telling you until you need to know. Until you get really serious with a person, their past is really none of your business. Exactly. Telling someone something like this would involve a lot of trust on their part.

Jill298 Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 16316	Fri 04/04/08 04:53 PM
I am not sure this is lying or just not telling you until you need to know. Until you get really serious with a person, their past is really none of your business. I agree with you for the most part. Its not like I go around telling my life history to people but whether or not you are the gender I assume you are, is pretty friggin important to me.

Brandon24721 Joined Sun 03/09/08 Posts: 871	Fri 04/04/08 04:55 PM
did he/she have a wiener? did u kiss her? lol

wolfchic Joined Wed 09/26/07 Posts: 8036	Fri 04/04/08 04:57 PM
I would leave... and prob never talk to him/her again. He/she lied to me. I deserve to make the choice of whether or not I want to be in a relationship like that. Lying to me about it removes my ability to choose... therefore, I would leave Thank you!My thoughts Also!

hikerchick Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 13206	Fri 04/04/08 04:58 PM
I am not sure this is lying or just not telling you until you need to know. Until you get really serious with a person, their past is really none of your business. I agree with you for the most part. Its not like I go around telling my life history to people but whether or not you are the gender I assume you are, is pretty friggin important to me. Oh Jill, you're just so shallow!

UnclePorky Joined Thu 11/15/07 Posts: 1107	Fri 04/04/08 05:01 PM
my feet would be running as fast as they could go

Jill298 Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 16316	Fri 04/04/08 05:01 PM
I am not sure this is lying or just not telling you until you need to know. Until you get really serious with a person, their past is really none of your business. I agree with you for the most part. Its not like I go around telling my life history to people but whether or not you are the gender I assume you are, is pretty friggin important to me. Oh Jill, you're just so shallow! I know right. You present yourself as a straight man and thats what I expect you to be... picky picky