Community > Posts By > Tomishereagain
I have met some beautiful and heartwarming women on Mingle2 that are in their 30s.
Now, I know I have the stamina to keep up with someone 20 years younger but is the cultural generation gap too large to have a meaningful relationship? At 34, I was 20 years old when they were born. By the time they graduated high school I had a family of 6, my career was in full swing and I had already served my country and been to other countries. Now I know the addage that age doesn't matter when love is concerned. But that is just NOT TRUE. When she turns 50 I will be 70. She will be healthy and I will be old and frail or sick or even dead already. How can that be justified by love? I remember the days before microwave ovens and cell phones. I played outside not in the living room. Sure, we can share our different views and perhaps broaden our horizons thru each other but the cold fact remains that she will be left alone by me from no intention on my part. I've read the various topics that address this and none have quenched my thirst for knowledge. Most just side-step the issue. Looking for some insight. Has anyone entered into an actual relationship with someone 20 years younger or is it all just a guess? |
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Topic:
Don't Rate My Profile!
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I don't want you to rate my profile.
I have my profile EXACTLY the way I want it. My profile is NOT me. It is a door that you knock on to meet me. |
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mean to you... and do you have that with anyone ... To me that means that you love the other as is, regardless. Doesn't mean to say you have to accept everything someone else does, cause you should also love yourself unconditionally (which most of us find even more difficult to do). I think unconditional love is mostly -if not only- between parent and child. For most it's impossible to love another than a child (and maybe parents) unconditionally cos we all still have our own pasts, traumas, insecurities etc etc etc That is my view, not a judgement. To me it's the energy of Mother Mary and Jesus. Pure, from the heart, no judgement. Apart from my children, I have moments that I can feel that, for everything and everyone. Not easy to hold on to that vibe though. Basically you gotta let go of your ego... As always ~ Well Said! I thought I loved my X unconditionally. She made it a point to break that love. And...It did Break. I love my children unconditionally, of that, I have no doubt. I TRY to love unconditionally. But, being still on this dating site and single I have fouund that its just not possible with any new relationship. I WANT to love someone unconditionally. I do strive for that. See, I can handle the bad with the good. What I can't handle is the LIES. If she will lie to me about something she will lie to me about anything. Including her proclaimed love for me. I don't go out of my way to catch anyone in a lie. I am, however, intelligent enough and attentive enough that the lies seem to present themselves. Do I lie? Yes. I lie about things that don't really matter to the relationship. I might colorfully expand a story about my military service or add extras to an accounting of my high school years. I NEVER claim my love for any woman unless I feel it. I just don't work that way. I ALWAYS try to keep my word. If I am asked to attend a function and I cannot say yes and mean it I will not say yes. I say "I will Try". Life gets in the way of commitments, I understand that. I would rather hear her say "I might love you" and be sincere than have her tell me she loves me and not really mean it. I think unconditional love is an affection for someone with no reservations,limitations, expectations, qualifications, conditions , only total abandonment of oneself in loving someone, absolutely selfless, not thinking of what you can get from the other person but only what you can give with nothing in return. A life giving emotion that aims to fully satisfy and make someone happy and secured, can be exhilarating, painful and draining sometimes but you don't really mind coz u have more patience to bear it all and always ready to make a sacrifice of your own happiness for the sake of a valuable person to you.......remembering the love I had before , yeah I think I have that one. Thankful enough that I have learned so much from it keeping me steadfast with my faith that God will give me the desires of my heart. I may have lost that love but I still keep on hoping one day I will find that kind of love again , in God's will
Unconditional Love is very much like that. I feel that way about God and my Children. To expect that kind of love from your someone special is extremely demanding. It taxes your faith in the other person just trying to maintain that ideal. For a life partner, Adoring Love is much more appropriate. There is always going to be a line that cannot be crossed. I think it is foolish to think otherwise. People are flawed. Nobody can be as pure as Christ. Forgiveness is flawed if you have to keep forgiving someone for their discretions. My x stepped out on me three times during our marriage and I forgave her every time. She went to jail for being a horrible human being many times and I forgave her. One day ~ After learning of her drug use and activities while I was working I finally said enough is enough. Could I have forgiven her again...probably. Problem was, I do love myself unconditionally and this relationship was detrimental to my well-being. After it was over - my friends came to me and let me in on all the little secrets she had been keeping from me. Problem was, I knew about most of it. I tolerated it for love. |
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New additions:
Child 44 (2015) Circle (2015) Dragon Blade (2015) ~ bluray subs Everest (2015) Fantastic Four (2015) Focus (2015) ~ bluray Fury (2014) ~ bluray John Wick (2014) ~ bluray Momentum (2015) Re-Kill (2015) Shadows on the Wall (2015) Tales of Halloween (2015) The Diabolical (2015) The Subjects (2015) Twist of Fate (1996) Wicked Within (2015) |
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do you have 12 angry men and rear window(alfred hitchcok) No I don't. I have a lot of movies but not every movie. I used to watch Hitchcock Theater when I was younger but never really followed his work as a collection. Rear Window is with John Depp right? He's talented but I don't follow his work either. |
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I got bored looking after a while but I do hope the wizard of oz is in your collection. The original I mean not that ghastly remake. Someone got me the dvd a while back and it's still the nicest present I ever received. Not only do I have The Wizard of Oz original I also have The Darkside of Oz which is The original Wizard of Oz set to Pink Floyd's Dark Side of the Moon. I also have the full OZ book series both in PDF and DOC files. |
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Alien Valley (2012)
American Sniper (2014) ~ bluray And Then Everything Changed (2015) Dead Country (2008) Deadly Revisions (2013) Dismembering Christmas (2015) Earthrise (2014) Fire City End Days (2015) Fraternity Massacre Hell Island (2007) Garm Wars The Last Druid (2014) Ghostline (2015) Halloween Hell (2014) Hanahs Gift (2008) Honeyspider (2014) Invisible Sister (2015) Katherine (2015) Knock Knock (2015) Pearl The Assassin (2015) Queen Crab (2015) Rapid Exchange (2003) Scream Machine (2015) The Contract (2015) The Day Time Ended (1980) The Inhabitants (2015) The Invoking 2 Paranormal Events (2015) The Murders at Brandywine Theater (2014) The Ouija Exorcism (2015) The Pack (2015) Tour of Duty Painkillers (2015) Zero Tolerance (2015) |
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Edited by
Tomishereagain
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Tue 10/13/15 12:07 PM
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Everyone knows about the Halloween Movie Series.
What other horror movies can you recommend for scary Halloween Month and why? Night of the Demons (1988) Night of the Demons 2 (1994) Night of the Demons 3 (1997) Night of the Demons Remake (2009) Of those movies I like the remake the best. But its about Halloween so there ya go. |
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Topic:
Criminal Minds
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The only Comedy series I can get into is the Big Bang Theory..
Ditto You really do Love your CM! Fan is short for fanatic. I am not fanatic about any TV show. Godzilla is my weakness - I watch at least one Godzilla movie per week. I've seen the newest one at least 15 times and the original more than 50 times. LOL I have CM Suspect Behaviour but spin-offs just arn't the same for me. I'll probably get the new spin-off to complete my collection. I hope its good. I've watched NCIS New Orleans and NCIS Los Angeles but I don't collect them. The NCIS NO is being filmed in New Orleans sometimes when I go to my VA appointments and they close the streets. More of a PITA than an experience. I always scan the highways to see if I can see my truck - lol CM & TBBT are the only two shows that hold my interest. I watch mainly movies but I do binge watch full series that I have from time to time. Recently (This year) I watched Babylon 5 and Haven (This year is the last year for Haven) I will get it for my collection but it just isn't the same anymore. I tried watching Extant and Helix but found them boring. The Walking Dead is okay but even though I have all the seasons so far I have only watched up to season 2. Someday I will get caught up. Of the oldies I have I like the Outer Limits the best. I have the original and the remade series. I also have TFTC, Night Gallery and Tales from the Darkside. I even have that Friday The 13th series where they collect cursed objects. Here are a few sources I get some of my TV shows from - As you can see there are A LOT of TV shows! http://www.movie-tube.us/tv-shows and http://vodly.to/?tv |
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Topic:
Silver Fox Club - Movies
Edited by
Tomishereagain
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Tue 10/13/15 11:30 AM
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The Paramount Vault
Free movies in multiple genres http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCzMVH2jEyEwXPBvyht8xQNw Some are old and some are bad but there are many to choose. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PayN4UpPzOA |
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Topic:
drum tabs
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DrumBurp | A simple free drum tab editor whatang.org/ DrumBurp is a free drum music editor, which is fast and simple to use. With DrumBurp you can create and print tabs, export to ASCII, PDF and Lilypond (for creating sheet music), and play back and export MIDI versions of your scores. DrumBurp is being actively developed: Version 0.9 is now available to download. DrumBurp runs on both Windows and Linux. Here’s a video of an older version of DrumBurp in action: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=roRxEkhUmJo Here is the download page for the windows latest version - It's Free. http://www.mediafire.com/download/l094rh43eovakng/DrumBurp+v0.9.zip |
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drum tabs
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A lot can be found on songsterr but you cannot print from them unless you get a paid-for account
If you are on a PC or a Laptop you can print the screen and use a graphics program to crop and enhance the image for printing. Make your browser full screen so the browser doesn't show, Shift/print screen and paste that into Paint or a picture editor. You can take multiple screenshots and splice them together if needed. I did a quick search for 'tablature for drums' Not only are there images there are many results. http://www.google.com/search?q=tabulature&ie=utf-8&oe=utf-8#q=tablature+for+drums Drum Tabs @ 911Tabs DRUM TABS! - Access to 1000's of DrumTabs for all Bands. drumbum.com/drumtabs/ drum tabs - Ultimate Guitar www.ultimate-guitar.com/.../top100_drum_tab. DRUM TABS | E-Chords.com www.e-chords.com/drums DrumTabs - DRUM TABS www.drumtabs.org/ Rush Tablature Project [Drum Tablature] - Cygnus Productions www.cygnusproductions.com/rtp/drums/drums.asp Drum Tabs | Drumming.com www.drumming.com/drum-tabs.htm Tablature/Drums - Wikibooks, open books for an open world https://en.wikibooks.org/wiki/Tablature/Drums U2Station.com | Tablature | Drum Tablature | One u2station.com/tablature/drum-tablature/one.php Drum Tabs - Ultimate-Tabs - Ultimate-Tabs.com www.ultimate-tabs.com/drums TablEdit Manual - Drum Tabs www.tabledit.com/help/english/drumtabs.shtml And it goes on & on & on... Hope this helps |
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Topic:
The Meaning of Gemstones
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Scientists have identified what is possibly the coldest white dwarf ever detected. In fact, this dim stellar corpse is so cold that its carbon has crystallized, effectively forming a diamond the size of Earth, astronomers said.
http://www.space.com/26335-coldest-white-dwarf-star-diamond.html |
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Topic:
Criminal Minds
Edited by
Tomishereagain
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Sun 10/11/15 09:16 PM
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I've seen every episode at least once, many multiple times - I just haven't watched any of THIS season yet. I usually wait till there is 8 or 10 episodes then I binge watch.
Joe (Rossi) has made a great addition to the show but his character is still kinda new. Supposedly Rossi was on the original BAU team when it formed with Gideon and had left before the show premiered and then he came back. When Mandy Patinkin (Gideon) left the show I figured he would 'reappear' eventually but I wasn't expecting what they did. How they did Elle (Lola Glaudini) was also unexpected. Whoever it is that leaves, I'm sure it will be a great episode! I like that Emily (Paget Brewster) turned out the way she did. I like how they tied it together. |
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Topic:
Expressions of Love
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Passing out from monkey sex is good. I just need a way to quiet the ramblings... or change the ramblings Monkey sex is good, doggie sex is good I want to try doing it alien style - lol |
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The only thing I think of, this guy has a lot of spare time to come up with this list. Two ways that can be taken. 1. You think that a guy wrote the list, didn't see the link to the source and think that someone typed it into a quote or 2. Well, I read the forum rules so I have to ammend the reason. The....of....near....again...little....today. |
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Expressions of Love
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Date preparation.. are you going on a date or performing surgery.?.lol.. preparation..lmao With some it is brain surgery |
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Expressions of Love
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You seriously asking that?
I'm 54 years old and was married for 25 years I am very aware of sensual parts. Each is special to the individual. One woman I recently dated liked her eyelids kissed. Does every woman like her eyelids kissed? I doubt it. Do men like their eyelids kissed, It make no difference to me and it doesn't turn me on. Being intimate when dating is a clumsy thing. Sometimes it is much easier to know what you like and just tell your date to that. Sex acts are another subject all together - I am talking about the innocent little touches that get you reared up and ready to go. The question was for the kids on here. Mainly to generate discussion, fill knowledge gaps and generate proper thinking for date preparation. |
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http://www.strangeplaces.net/weirdthings/sex.html
1. But everybody looks funny naked!
2. You woke me up for that? 3. Did I mention the video camera? 4. Do you smell something burning? 5. (in a janitor's closet) And they say romance is dead... 6. Try breathing through your nose 7. A little rug burn ever hurt anyone! 8. Is that a Medic-Alert Pendant? 9. Sweetheart, did you lock the back door? 10. But whipped cream makes me break out 11. Person 1: This is your first time... right? Person 2: Yeah... today 12. (in the No Tell Motel) Hurry up! This room rents by the Hour! 13. Can you please pass me the remote control? 14. Do you accept Visa? 15. ZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ 16. On second thought, let's turn off the lights. 17. And to think- I was really trying to pick up your friend! 18. So much for mouth-to-mouth. 19. (using body paint) Try not to leave any stains, okay? 20. Hope you're as good looking when I'm sober... 21. (holding a banana) It's just a little trick I learned at the zoo! 22. Do you get any premium movie channels? 23. Try not to smear my make-up, will ya! 24. (preparing to use peanut butter sexually) But I just steam-cleaned this couch! 25. Got any penicillin? 26. But I just brushed my teeth... 27. Smile, you're on Candid Camera! 28. I thought you had the keys to the handcuffs! 29. I want a baby! 30. So much for the fulfillment of sexual fantasies! 31. (in a menage a trois) Why am I doing all the work? 32. Maybe we should call Dr. Ruth... 33. Did you know the ceiling needs painting? 34. I think you have it on backwards 35. When is this supposed to feel good? 36. Put that blender back in the kitchen where it belongs! 37. You're good enough to do this for a living! 38. Is that blood on the headboard? 39. Did I remember to take my pill? 40. Are you sure I don't know you from somewhere? 41. I wish we got the Playboy channel... 42. That leak better be from the waterbed! 43. I told you it wouldn't work without batteries! 44. But my cat always sleeps on that pillow 45. Did I tell you my Aunt Martha died in this bed? 46. If you quit smoking you might have more endurance... 47. No, really... I do this part better myself! 48. It's nice being in bed with a woman I don't have to inflate! 49. This would be more fun with a few more people.. 50. You're almost as good as my ex! 51. Do you know the definition of statutory rape? 52. Is that you I smell or is it your mattress stuffed with rotten potatoes? 53. You look younger than you feel 54. Perhaps you're just out of practice 55. You sweat more than a galloping stallion! 56. They're not cracker crumbs, it's just a rash 57. Now I know why he/she dumped you... 58. Does your husband own a sawed-off shotgun? 59. You give me reason to conclude that foreplay is overrated 60. What tampon? 61. Have you ever considered liposuction? 62. And to think, I didn't even have to buy you dinner! 63. What are you planning to make for breakfast? 64. I have a confession... 65. I was so horny tonight I would have taken a duck home! 66. Are those real or am I just behind the times? 67. Were you by any chance repressed as a child? 68. Is that a hanging sculpture? 69. You'll stil vote for me, won't you? 70. Did I mention my transsexual operation? 71. I really hate women who actually think sex means something! 72. Did you come yet, dear? 73. I'll tell you who I'm fanatasizing about if you tell me who you're fantasizing about... 74. A good plastic surgeon can take care of that in no time! 75. Does this count as a date? 76. Oprah Winfrey had a show about men like you! 77. Hic! I need another beer for this please 78. I think biting is romantic- don't you? 79. You can cook, too right? 80. When would you like to meet my parents? 81. Man: Maybe it would help if I thought about someone I really like... Woman: Yourself? 82. Have you seen "Fatal Attraction"? 83. Sorry about the name tags, I'm not very good with names 84. Don't mind me.. I always file my nails in bed 85. (in a phone booth) Do you mind if I make a few phone calls? 86. I hope I didn't forget to turn the gas oven off. Do you have a light? 87. Don't worry, my dog's really friendly for a Doberman. 88. Sorry but I don't do toes! 89. You could at least ACT like you're enjoying it! 90. Petroleum jelly or no petroleum jelly, I said NO! 91. Keep it down, my mother is a light sleeper... 92. I'll bet you didn't know I work for "The Enquirer" 93. So that's why they call you MR. Flash! 94. My old girlfriend used to do it a LOT longer! 95. Is this a sin too? 96. I've slept with more women than Wilt Chamberlain! 97. Hey, when is it going to be my friend's turn? 98. Long kisses clog my sinuses... 99. Please understand that I'm only doing this for a raise... 100. How long do you plan to be "almost there"? 101. You mean you're NOT my blind date? |
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A Stupid Person's Guide To Life
By Samuel Stoddard Additional Material by David J. Parker Are you a stupid person? Do you find day-to-day life hard? Do you wish life had an instruction booklet? Do you wish your brain had an owner's manual? If you answered "yes" to any of these questions, you've come to the right place. This page provides, free of charge, a short "guide to life." In here, you'll find most of the information you need to live life day by day without inadvertently maiming yourself. Read carefully. Carry out each instruction to the letter. RinkWorks The Guide Don't eat rocks. Don't take naps in the road. Don't stoke fires with your fingers. Don't throw a brick straight up. Don't breathe car exhaust. If you ever meet the President, don't offer him the surprise gift of a firearm by whipping it suddenly out of your coat pocket. For all pertinent tasks, use a hammer, not your fist. Walk around toxic waste dumps, not through them. Don't stargaze with friends on a hilltop in a thunderstorm and use metal fishing rods as pointers. The stuff on the bottom of your shoe is not for internal consumption. If you need to get somewhere, and a freight train heading in the direction you're traveling just happens to be nearby, resist the urge to stand in front of it and grab hold as it passes. If you want to pound on the radiator to tell the landlord to turn up the heat, don't do it with your head. Don't flip off the Mafia. If you're riding a bicycle down a hill, turn your head before you spit. Wash behind your ears, not behind your eyes. Light birthday cake candles from back to front. Don't shave with a lawn mower. Just because your body has orifices doesn't mean you should put things into them. Don't stick screwdrivers into electrical outlets. Although they are sold in grocery stores, batteries are not food. Do not break them open and drink what's inside. The warning "Don't try this at home" really means "Don't try this at all." Don't bathe in a tub full of snow. Don't iron clothes while wearing them. The expression "Life in the fast line" should not inspire you to live in the road. Don't eat hot coals. Don't escape in to jail. Don't wash floors with cough syrup. Don't kick porcupines with bare feet. Don't sled down hills with interstates at the bottom. Sell at most one of your kidneys. Don't lie down in a cattle pen. Forks need carry food no farther than your mouth. Don't test the strength of your skull with a nail gun. Only squeeze the handle end of a sword. Don't snap towels at passing cops. Don't throw an angry cat straight up. Don't lick dry ice. Before you leap upside down onto a trampoline, make sure it's right side up. Don't pour salt in your eyes. Your body has the correct number of holes in it. Don't make any more. Don't microwave yourself. Don't chase a bear into the woods to get a close-up photo. Don't swallow toothpaste. Don't chew Tylenol. Don't bathe in gasoline. Don't sneak up to a stallion and whack it on the rump. Don't drink water that comes from swimming pools, puddles, bathtubs, dishpans, sewage pipes, radiators, oceans, acid rain, or toilet bowls. Don't stick body parts into electrical outlets. Don't listen to music from the Spice Girls. Don't lick toads, bulls, or jellyfish. Don't go swimming in a well. Rake leaves, not people. Shovels are for digging holes in the ground, not the floor of your house. Contrary to popular opinion, you're not supposed to strip the protective rubber coating off electrical wires before plugging them in. If you want to chew gum, buy some. Don't use the gum from underneath the seats at schools and movie theaters even though it's free. Don't kick stone walls very hard without wearing thick-soled shoes or boots. Even if you need to get downstairs quickly, don't jump out of a window -- use the stairs. When using an acetylene torch, don't feel the flame to see if it's sufficiently hot. Better yet, stay away from acetylene torches altogether. Walking barefoot in the sand is good. Walking barefoot on a cactus is bad. Elvis is dead. Get over it. Wear clothes. Use a pot holder when removing items from the oven. If you're on a ball field and someone shouts "Heads up!" don't actually raise your head up. Cover it with your arms and duck. Don't drink. Don't drive. Don't tie yourself to an airplane propeller. Don't brush your teeth with a wire-bristled sanding wheel. When using a weed whacker, don't hold the end with the wire. When using a blow gun -- something you should always have a very good reason for doing anyway -- draw your breath before placing your lips around the barrel. No matter how tempting it is to be one with nature, stay on the outside of all fences at the zoo. Give me all your money. When sticking thumb tacks into bulletin boards, press on the flat end. Toasters should be used to cook bread, not your hands. Under no circumstances should you ever reproduce. |
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