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Tue 01/13/09 06:55 PM
Edited by Aquila_ on Tue 01/13/09 06:57 PM


Is it supposed to get exciting in here? It's a forum for people looking to meet others and unless you have a special someone you've come to see I've never know dating forums to be exciting.
Then again, this is only my second dating forum so maybe they can be exciting. Not sure how one makes a forums exciting.



Seriously?? You poor thing. flowerforyou The back stabing, arguments, the jokes, the all around flirting, trolls. You have been missing out.laugh

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I come from a dating forum with extremely strict rules and moderators. I left because it became too boring. They allow almost no redundant threads so the threads are often years old and hundreds of post long.
Hope you're right about the place getting exciting as I could use some excitement. I can do without the trolls and back stabbing though.


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Tue 01/13/09 06:50 PM

Mongo wonder why some people's opinions
Are more valid than other people's opinions
Mongo think anyone can say anything
And Mongo not care who gets pissy about it


Aquila wonder why Mongo talk in third person
Aquila entertained by Mongo's post even if they get worsen
Aquila looked at Mongo's profile and saw nothing to give a clue
Aquila wonder if Mongo is really a man or Mongo belong in a zoo






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Tue 01/13/09 06:38 PM



whoa, back off the kid. he just doesnt know how it works here yet. christ.

then maybe he should dip his toe in first huh and test the water before he submerges his entire body?


perhaps we should be a bit more understanding. just a thought.


Good for you for your tolerance and patience. Forums of all types are bound to have the same issues raised repeatedly and the same questions asked constantly. Instead of the regulars giving the new people a hard time about redundancy the regulars would better serve the forum's interest by just ignoring the new threads. Let other new people answer the redundant questions and the regulars can just skip over to the next op question.

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Tue 01/13/09 06:29 PM
Only if the loser himself does not believe he is a loser.

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Tue 01/13/09 06:24 PM
Is it supposed to get exciting in here? It's a forum for people looking to meet others and unless you have a special someone you've come to see I've never know dating forums to be exciting.
Then again, this is only my second dating forum so maybe they can be exciting. Not sure how one makes a forums exciting.

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Tue 01/13/09 05:34 PM
Edited by Aquila_ on Tue 01/13/09 06:19 PM
I posted TMI so I erased it


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Tue 01/13/09 05:15 PM
Not all those who are interested in astronomy, as I am, are dating material.
Just because we could talk for hours about the stars and we enjoyed the same sci-fi movies doesn't mean we were meant for each other.
I use to only look for guys in dark planetariums, now I look in book stores and dating sites. (and in the summer I look on the beach, just to be fair to muscle heads)

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Tue 01/13/09 05:10 PM
Thanks for the link Lexfonteyne. You make both long threads and long profiles. I wonder what else ...
...Forget it. :angel:


So no thread search function? That's unusual.

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Tue 01/13/09 04:43 PM


It's a great target for satire -- I do it quite a bit myself. I started a huge thread a few days ago called "Arrogant Narcissistic Conceited Jerks Thread," as a counterpoint to the "nice guy" stuff. I think it was cathartic for any number of people. ("Two" is a number, right?)


I don't see the way to search for threads here. Doesn't mingle have a thread title search bar?



Word of warning -- I'm REALLY going to disappoint you on that one....



I looked and I can't find a smiley that is appropriate or that expresses the amazement I had after clicking your profile.
Maybe this one. shocked ...or this one...surprised

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Tue 01/13/09 04:35 PM
Edited by Aquila_ on Tue 01/13/09 04:36 PM

Do many women even refer to themselves as nice women? You don't see the "waaah I'm a nice girl and I don't know why I finish last" kind of threads really.


"waaah....last"

I was going to make that the title of this thread but I was afraid no one would believe me and I was afraid some would think I was mocking. In truth, I was just trying to get attention in a funny and non threatening or controversial way.

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Tue 01/13/09 04:32 PM


Personally I don't believe nice guys finish last, at least not with me. I only made the thread to introduce myself. I figured a chat topic was better than just saying "hi, I want a man."


It's largely a terminology thing.

There have been approximately 42,881 "Why don't girls like nice guys?" threads in the forums -- always posted by a self-proclaimed "nice guy" who can't seem to get anywhere -- in the 2 years I've been here.

The backlash has been that a lot of people have a negative, knee-jerk reaction to the term "nice guy." Since there's never been any sort of clear-cut definition, or explanation of what it really means (let's face it, it's pretty subjective), and because the topic has become so repetitive, the trendy thing has become to equate "nice" with "boring" and "bland" and "totally uninteresting."

It isn't that "nice guys" are bad, or don't deserve attention. It's just that, here, anyway, they have tended to come across as a bit on the whiny and needy side. And I think that's created a bit of a stigma.





I picked up on that fact the first hour of reading the forum and I've seen the same thing somewhere else. I thought poking fun at the topic would be a way to introduce myself. Next I am going to ask why men don't write anything in their profiles. :laughing:
I don't know if the topic has been done to death here as it has on "dating site X" (a site I occasionally visit).

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Tue 01/13/09 04:25 PM



good point....


Are you referring to what I said? If so flowerforyou
Are you instead referring to what the post above you said? still flowerforyou
I'll take either. bigsmile


referring to what you said about the rules and such.....
im very .....i dont want to say confused.....more like second guessing myself about a recent "break" and whether or not it was the right decision......frown


You'll know soon I suspect. If you lost the man due to the break it was probably for the best. I know that's not what you want to hear though.
Relationships begin and end and sometimes the same relationship begins and ends many times but there are no commercials.

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Tue 01/13/09 04:21 PM

all good boys and girls end last, its the bad ones that fu%* it up for us nice poeple....


How did you come to this conclusion?

Personally I don't believe nice guys finish last, at least not with me. I only made the thread to introduce myself. I figured a chat topic was better than just saying "hi, I want a man."

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Tue 01/13/09 04:17 PM

good point....


Are you referring to what I said? If so flowerforyou
Are you instead referring to what the post above you said? still flowerforyou
I'll take either. bigsmile

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Tue 01/13/09 04:14 PM
Only to those who don't read profiles.

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Tue 01/13/09 04:12 PM
I don't see how it could strengthen it. I can understand people wanting to be apart for a few days just to be alone with their thoughts but to out right say you are taking a break from your relationship is asking for trouble.

What will taking a break mean? Can you see others? Can you sleep with others? Can you join a dating site and chat with others? Are you suppose to call each other now and then? Does the break have an official end time? So on and so on.

If people need a break then they should call it what it is, a break up. You are breaking up and now both are free to do as they please. If they miss each other and get back together at least they won't need to worry about one of them having broken some "break" rules.



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Tue 01/13/09 02:46 PM

Do we have Free Will or are we completely determined?

For the first time I believe I have complete free will.


We have free will but there may be consciences to how we this exercise this will.

Some who believe in God think our lives are predetermined. If God had predetermined all we do then there would be no need for a heaven and hell. God would predetermine all of us as good people.
If you don't believe in God then obviously you're using free will as there is no one to predetermine you

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Tue 01/13/09 02:37 PM
Edited by Aquila_ on Tue 01/13/09 03:00 PM



Sometimes first. Sometimes never. And in my case......almost always alone. laugh


I'm sorry, I hope you find a nice guy or bad boy that fits you. flowerforyou

I'd like to marry a nice guy and turn him into a bad boy. My own personal bad boy with a Haley and a curfew.
I want a man who likes to cuddle and who doesn't mind beating up any other man who tries cuddling with me.

I want a nice bad boy. shades


Now post this everytime some guy complains about being a nice guy and not getting any. Heh, heh, I wish you luck in your quest.

waving Hi

Any what? winking
I'm not on a quest, I'm not a hobbit. Just a girl looking for a nice cubewano.

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Tue 01/13/09 01:50 PM


Where do the nice ladies and bad girls finish?


They end up on dating sites complaining about the logistics of toilet seat positioning.



I never understood that argument. When I go to do my business I can see the seat is up and it only takes a second to put it down. I've never known anyone to sit and fall in. Then again, I've heard some woman like to do their business in the dark. *shrugs*



offtopic I know cut me a break little yellow dude.

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Tue 01/13/09 01:46 PM

They finish with a dildo:tongue:


I can't decide if that's funny :laughing: ...or rude. grumble