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I love women, generally speaking; I have loved women, in particular; and I have been loved by women, a whole lot I women

So, Msmyka, now that you know why the rest of us are here, care to tell us why you are here?

No, sorry about that. When we're responding, your picture and name are not visible. I just remembered how it soundede from your profile. Sorry again.

We're not mature enough as a society to survive this.

Well said, Terry. For the most part, I agree.

Or, is that lamb in wolf's clothing?

Hey, Ms Micah.

Why am I here? I'm here to tell you I've got a new post on ageism. I think it's of particular interest. Let's have your views.

And, yes, as you've correctly surmised: "all press is good press."

Wulfe in sheep's clothing

Well, LadyLid, if that's the case, as you see it, then I'm sure you wouldn't mind if the men on this site added this remark to their profiles:

"Don't bother writing to me if you're an old broad over 40 and overweight to boot."

It's the same thing, except now it's been turned around from a particular young woman's preference to a particular young man's preference. There's nothing wrong with preferences, as I made clear on my post, but you shouldn't be so callous as to state it so bluntly.

Terry,

Thanks, man. It's good to be back on solid ground.

I've got another post about ageism, and I'd really like your views on that, of course just on my post, on my views.

"I do not respond to men older than 45. Don't bother me. Don't waste my time."

Can you imagine writing, without apology, that you would not respond to any "Negro" addressing you on this site. Of course not. Public opinion would excoriate you. Why? Because, that's an anachronistically charged remark and a politically incorrect view to hold for a present-day American female, even though in the 50's that was quite a normal response for white women. They just would not respond to a black man. Now we recognize that such a response, regardless of her personal preferences, is racist.

Yes, there are women on this site who do not want to have relations with black men, but they would not have the temerity to say it, as if they could get away with it without a good scolding and a reminder of the evils of discrimination. Yes, you do not want to have relations with a man older than 45, but you shouldn't say that so blatantly in such an ageist fashion, as if you're just too good to even consider someone who is older than your ageist yardstick allows. For that reason, your profile is as objectionable as if you'd said:

"I do not respond to Negroes. Don't bother me. Don't waste my time."

Nuff said?

Why, thank you. It's a character study and a cautionary tale; it's a singular view of a type. It's one of hundreds of character studies of men and women I'm working on, what Sherwood Anderson called "grotesques."

It's easy to put anybody down for what they say, which is why the topics on these forums are so often tepid. Everybody here seems to have become afraid of being a target, so they lurk on the sidelines, throwing spitballs, as if that's some indication of their intelligence and wit.

You're right. It does sound like that. Pretty smart of you to see it.

April,

Actually, in real life, people think I'm a goof, too concerned with having fun to have a single thought in my head.

In the places I go to socialize (often places where people are isolates, afraid to talk to each other but needing to be around people anyway), all I talk is drivel. And people will tell you so.

And, because I'm able to read people pretty accurately, I'm able to make them feel at ease very quickly. Consequently, when I sit down for a cup of coffee or drink at one of these places, people pull up chairs just to be entertained. In the course of entertaining them with drivel, I flatter them for a minute, which makes them receptive to my next gambit, and then I put them on the spot for a second.

In the momentary discomfort of being exposed, of being put on the spot (where I never leave them unattended for long), they are opened up just long enough for others to see them as they are and for them, the exposed, to realize that they are not really obnoxious or repellant to other people.

As a result, more strangers congregate around me to be entertained by my drivel. They seek me out and I help them become better functioning human beings by exposing them a little bit more each time so that ultimately they are comfortable with themselves and able to relax around other people.

And, when I do all these things, people think: He's a good guy and fun to be around; but, gee, doesn't he have a single serious thought in his head?

wulfe

I'm here on this post because I thought there might be something interesting hiding, just waiting to be discovered in all five pages of copy on copy. Of course, there wasn't.

I didn't lie, but I'm back. In my messages, a young woman asked who my intended audience was for this piece because it was so offensive. Here is the response I gave her, which some of you may also wish to know:

Yes, it is offensive. It's a character study, and it's meant to be offensive. It is a cautionary tale for young women who may be contemplating leading such a life. Even though it appears addressed to young men, that they may learn how to recognize this sort of woman, the intended audience is really the young woman who is considering taking this path in life. As a cautionary tale, it shows the end result of such a decision: loneliness, aloneness, being viewed in the final analysis as nothing more than a "barn animal." \\