I find that women that are ten or more years older than me really like me for some reason. The problem is though, that I like younger women. I still feel like I am 20. Actually I don't look a whole lot different than when I was 20. But definitely most young women want a guy there same age or younger, until they turn about 25-26, then that starts to change. I would go for some of these older women, but the vast majority seem to let themselves go after about 30. Harsh statement I know, but thats just how I feel.

The problem with porn is it gives men unreal expectations in the bedroom. Why don't you want to do this? They do it in the pornos! Some women are real kinky, but the vast majority are not. Plus, chances are, your women wont look as good as your favorite porn star. Yes, I think porn is bad. Unless of course you both are into it, then it might be kinda fun.

I completely agree with this statement. If someone did that to me, things would be so much easier. I would be like forget this!! I guess your not what your cracked up to be. Then I wouldn't know the better, and still have my self esteem.

you said you hate this dude, and he hates you right? well, then don't whip is ass, but do some stuff to impress this chick. Tell her how you feel, and don't be shy. Don't badmouth this guy, just show her what your all about. Who cares what he thinks..you hate him. I have had people steal someone out from under my nose. Not saying its right, it kinda hurt, but that stuff happens all the time.

Yes, I am beginning to think I post way to much information about myself and or relationships on here. Some of these girls I have messaged back and forth with, drop off the face of the earth. They probably looked at a few of my more outrageous posts on here.

I think religion does not breed atrocities in and of itself. It starts with something much worse. Like the crusades were horrible and all, and yes they supposedly killed in the name of God, but was that the real reason? That was what they were told. They weren't divinely inspired to do those horrible acts, they just used religion to justify it. And then with Hitler. He I guess identified himself with christianity, but his whole thought process was based on the philosophy of atheists. People are just bad through and through. I seriously think if there were no major religions in the world, people would still find a way to kill and torture and whatever else.

no, I have never went that route

yea, it really is not real difficult for me to get dates. It is just no real relationship develops and I usually get burned, or burned out.

Good point That may be the real issue, just got to figure out how to address it.

This is going to come off as me sounding a bit arrogant, but I assure you I am not. Do you ever feel the person you are dating thinks you are too good for them? This happens to me way more than it to be just a coincidence. I don't think super highly of myself (I don't hate myself) but I certainly don't have anything to brag about. I mean I have a very low income, moved back home with my parents etc etc. However, I am moving in the right direction with education and all. But I meet these girls who seem just so different than me. They always have a messed up past, bad family life, bad exes, or whatever. I come across as sort of on the straight and narrow, and they kind of freak out. Now I know this sounds like a borderline "nice guy" thread, but not quite. I am just wondering if it is because I am usually dating girls from the bar scene, or I am naturally attracted to girls who have issues or what? Has anyone felt this way?

Tell the guy you are seeing now you want some "time off" Then if you meet this Internet guy, and he is not all he is cracked up to be, you can always go back. Being a guy, I know how dumb we are, so I am almost positive, you can start right back where you left off with the mediocre relationship.

yes, but then again people are evil. I probably don't care for some as much as I should or should have also.

I think my mother is the only person that has ever done this. Why? I guess thats what mothers do. I have said those words to a significant other, but they were never appreciated.

Had the same thing happen to me once, but the only thing I was mad at was the fact that I bought her so many drinks.

I agree that no matter what form it still hurts. I feel the emotional, actually falling in love with someone else is much worse.
I mean, I am willing to bet most guys if a stripper threw themselves on them,(a good looking one) that they would have a hard time defending themselves. That wouldn't have to mean that they no longer love their significant other...it just means they are being a thoughtless jerk at the moment. Still wrong, but it would be possibly forgivable for both a man or a woman in a similar scenario.

oh...I see you meant how do I veiw myself naked...um not bad, pretty studly actually

used to think of myself as very very flawed, but now after meeting more and more people, I feel I am comparatively quite normal.

The last two months I have been I believe at my loneliest. Whats weird, is before I met the girl who broke my heart, I was always completely fine.

then for you the answer is yes your saying?

I believe it is possible. I have seen this happen to one of my aunts when her husband died. She replaced him. This new guy is totally different, and I don't care for him but hey...she is super happy. Actually, I am not too sure about "true love" and "soulmates" and all that. I think it is what you make of it. If two people can stand each others flaws enough to last a lifetime, then I guess its a soulmate.