I am sort of seeing a guy that lives a few hours away from me. He comes here on the weekends, and things are great, but we don't have a "spark" you know what I mean? He is a really great guy, and is great to me and my kids, but the chemistry just isn't there.
Then there is another guy, from this site, that I've been talking to for about 6 months. He seems perferct for me. We agree on all the important things, and I am more and more intrigued every time we talk. We still haven't met in person, but I know things would be just as great as they are online and on the phone.
Do I risk hurting the sweet guy that I'm with, and ruining that, to meet the guy on here? Or should I leave things as they are, and make myself understand that the grass isn't always greener? Advice please!!!

i think you should just move out here and fugg em both hun lol but thats just my opinion. =)

what do you feel in your heart? you have to be happy.....if there is no spark you cant make your self make one there...and the guy your with may feel the same way...and just not know how to tell you!...

i say go for it..you only live once. dont tie yourself down to one person inless you are apsolutly happy with everything that may or maynot be going on...

hugs....you will do whats right i know...

question.... does the guy from this site know about the other guy????

Yes he does. And the other guy knows about the guy from this site, but doesn't know that him and I still talk. They both make me happy in different ways.

well you need to meet the other guy in person...and make your desition there......its hard but its the right thing for you to do..other wise you will always wounder....

Hotmommy, you have to go with your heart on this one. If there is no spark with the sweet guy the longer you wait the more hurt he will be. Life is short and you have to be happy. Best of luck.

I agree... esp. since they both know about each other... and it never "hurts" to have a nice friend to talk to...

Thank you everyone

You're welcome.

just get drunk.....put a picture of each of them on either side of you and spin the bottle =)

lol. Hmm... I could just see how they feel about a mmf 3some... hahah JUST KIDDING

Which one do you love????

i think she just fineds good quolitys in both.....i dont know if she loves either one of them..think she just likes both of them...

I love both of them, in different ways. They guy ive been seeing has been a friend for a long time, and he's always been there for me. the guy on here just seems to have everything that im looking for, and we click really well.

This sounds like a "nice guys" finish last thread from the female point of view in a way.......

Sounds like someone enjoys playing games and likes the attention.


You haven't even met the guy online.... you could meet and it could be a total disaster.... so not choosing the real life guy seems silly to me.

If you really wanted one of them, there wouldn't be the other.

Messing with them both seems like game playing and being mean and no one deserves that.

maybe it would appear to be a game to you, but that isn't the case. I actually care about both of these guys. No, I haven't met the online guy yet, and yes, it COULD be a disaster. But at least then I'd know, and so would he.

Well, either way you get what you want out of the deal..... so doesn't seem too bad for you.
good luck

It might appear that way, but it's horrible for me. I care about both of these guys, and no matter what, someone gets hurt.