people out here,this is for you...if u r hving a crush on someone,or had a crush,do u think he knows about it?

w/o party girls high school and college parties would have been boring

I think it provides for a good night in the sack.

This girl I was dating just told me she wants to just be friends. :/

We haven't gone out very much, just like 4 dates (two of them were with her group of friends though). She's a little timid about dating, she's only had 3 guys in her life (two married / divorced and one live in bf) all of whom caused her major grief. As a result I didn't really get her phone number until after the second date, even then she preferred I give her mine instead of giving me hers. She didn't want to tell me where she lived either because she didn't know me that well so of course we had to meet everywhere we went (I couldn't pick her up).

She was really nice and I liked her a lot, so I didn't want to scare her off by moving too fast considering the way she felt, nor did I want to mess it up. So I took things slow, but maybe too slow. I thought about kissing her at the end of the night of the second date but she said "Well give me a HUG" before I could so I figured she wasn't ready. But after this last outing (the 4th one) she gave me the old "let's be friends" bit. She mentioned she liked how one of the guys she was with was so passionate, and I think I screwed up by not being a little more aggressive. It sucks because I really liked her.

/sigh
/wrists

Alina, I don't think Oceanbuze was referring to you in her comment. I thought so too when I saw it, but after noticing that it was her first comment on the issue, I realized she was referring to the professor.
Your views are articulate and focused and I don't see anything you've said so far that would warrant any negative accolade. Please share away!!!

I bet you have an esteem issue. Those who don't feel good about themselves can't see any reason why any other should celebrate the ego. Ego is a good thing and worthy of massage sometimes. Deal with it, sister

Absolutely not, I am most confident and feel wonderful about myself and those around me, this wasn't meant to be negative, however sorry you perceived that way....and yes the ego is a wonderful thing, less of course, you take to a negative level.

Thanks everyone for the healthy, honest and sincere contributions you made to the topic I proposed here. I know sparks are bound to fly when discussing controversial issues. Opinions are like noses; everyone's got some - therefore no one should take offense at constructive views of others.
Well, I am a theologian and law student, and I have loads of controversial topical issues for public debate on these fora and everyone is welcome to contribute. It doesn't really matter to me if anyone targets me instead of the topic - I've always had to deal with that and cannot be intimidated at all....
God bless everyone (if you don't believe in God, may whatever you believe in bless you).

....yes Alina, and what are some of those factors you identify?

she is a fool to open her mouth

Persistence and intensity are both bad when one person says "no" or "stop" and the other person doesn't. Then it's a problem.

You cant punish someone for getting diarrhea

Maybe if they get it on you..

At what point to the intestines get too much|

I thought chicks liked that kind of attention LOL

prolly good advice -i crush on everybody tho. I think cuz it's safe - I mean no one lives even close - so why not - it's nice to crush and I dont see why all the secrecy either - I love all the guys on here!

Hummm to me to much intensity would be on the verge of stalking... one requesting your every movement wanting to know where you are and why every minute of the day... then I would start to worry...


Those kind I would run far far away from.