One dating hazard is too much intensity. Have you ever cross the path of an overly persistent and too intense male/female? How much is too much?

Alina

more cowbell!!

to me persistent and intense would not be the same thing. persistent, the constant, perhaps even nagging, push for something not easily forthcoming, would grate on my nerves. intense however, is passion towards something and i enjoy intensity, sans obsessive. that's when it would be too much for me.

i think it's important to read cues and try to stay friends - if the intensity is mutual that's fine - ifthe obsession is mutual that's also fine

i think u have to monitor the response you receive and temper your behavior thusly - don;t continue to message someone who has not shown the kind of interest that justifies it, I guess . . . at least not romantic messages

if you find yourself in front of a magistrate signing a restraining order, the relationship has become too intense.

let's hope it doesn't take that! I'd say that shows a definite lack of awareness

I'm a simple guy. I have simple needs. But what is simple for one person might not be simple for someone else. Which leads me to why I love the whole "rough" scene. I might be romantic, but I have that other side that needs to be fulfilled. And, if she can't take it, then she isn't who I need to be with. Alas, if she can slap me silly, call me her biatch, and then go into the kitchen and bake us some cookies, then color me in lust!

is that an example of intensity??

It's "The Goof Method"!

Hummm to me to much intensity would be on the verge of stalking... one requesting your every movement wanting to know where you are and why every minute of the day... then I would start to worry...


Those kind I would run far far away from.

Hey!I'm all for some intensity during foreplay & lovemaking however I'll avoid the specifics because the thread would be diverted to the I & S forum w/a quickness.
So on another note then I'd highly recommend Dean Koontz"Intensity"

(Holds shotgun in hands) And where were you last night young lady?

I would too!

It has to be mutual between the two.

If I get the vibe he is a creepy stalker I am running the other way and not looking back.

I thought chicks liked that kind of attention LOL

Hmmmm what kind of women would like that type of attention...Wow if there are any out there that do.....something may not be quite right internally....

At what point do the intestines get too much?

How funny is that, when you get diarrhea...

You cant punish someone for getting diarrhea

Maybe if they get it on you..

I dated this guy two years who was insanely active with working out and being healthy. At any given time he'd drop and do 20. He'd lecture me if I was about to eat something fried and lectured me when I chose to have a drink or two. He was way too hyperactive.

Unfortunately, although he messed up terribly and I refused to ever give him a second chance, he has now become my stalker. He disappears for months at a time and resurfaces ... like recently.

Some day I'll find a way to dispose of him. I don't think the cops will ever do anything since he's not considered a threat. It's more harassment than anything. Thank god he doesn't just show up.

Yuk, that would be awful..