Forever (Always) is a construct of our minds which bases in our ability to recognize the future and the past.

Finished the last episode of the 1st seasons, released today.
Good to read that season 2 is already in the making :)
Bummer that it may take until Christmas season next year to be released.

on you...it's quite bad...

actually, it's worse.

It's better never to have than to have and than not to have it anymore...

Few very rough nights coming in....

It's a 'she', 5 months old now :) She's a Ragdoll mix.

I've found out you see these markings more often. As you can see in the photos her legs and body have black stripes, but indeed her belly is white with grey speckles.

I don't know if all cats with these markings have purebred blood in them, but I'd guess they do as it's too typical to not be.
Nila's father is purebred Ragdoll with all the papers, her mother is 1/2 Maine Coon 1/2 regular cat.

Some of Nila's sisters as well as her 1 brother have the long haired fur of a Maine Coon or Ragdoll.
Nila doesn't but she does have the very full fur of one and also the slightly longer body.

Hi shakes .. so very sorry to hear about your brother . It must have been such a shock for you and your family . Hope you are all coping ok .

I have never really felt that perception was static nor do I see the discontent you describe as a phase more a process . I think your emotional resilience has taken a hit (and understandably so ). . It is common to feel disconnected when beliefs and value systems are challenged . How we analyse and evaluate (perception ) can have a profound effect on what we feel , how we think and how we react . It is central to emotional regulation and resilience . When we experience internal conflict it can leave us feeling vulnerable, distressed and lost but for many it is a transition that will evolve as we cultivate and recover resilience . There is a saying .. that life is in the transitions ... you will bounce back . Give yourself time and lots of TLC

I'm very sorry to hear about your brother. My deepest condolences.

You are deep; and very eloquent . Great questions. I think we assume people are always the same because it makes us comfortable. When they start morphing into other beings in front of our eyes, we'll make excuses, blink our eyes and try to get it to focus on something else (preferable what we'd like them to be).

As they continue to change, rather than be ourselves, we also change to fit the "new" person they've become. All the while telling ourselves that this is actually who we want to be. 90% of the time that is incorrect.

Just trying to help. Please do not isolate.

No man is an island,
Entire of itself,
Every man is a piece of the continent,
A part of the main.
If a clod be washed away by the sea,
Europe is the less.
As well as if a promontory were.
As well as if a manor of thy friend's
Or of thine own were:
Any man's death diminishes me,
Because I am involved in mankind,
And therefore never send to know for whom the bell tolls;
It tolls for thee.

John Donne

Here is my take, and I am probably wrong....
Grief and trauma,(divorce) shatters everything we know, mostly our stability in the belief we are living life right.
Bad things happen to good people, it makes us self reflect on everything, from the choices we have made to our own mortality. Most find their way out of that 'Rabbit hole' eventually, but are never the same person.

As for other people, we do not need to understand/perceive anything about them, just let them be. Everyone is trying to do their best, life is about learning.
Sometimes we get stuck in our heads with no clear answers, that is when we ought to see a counsellor or talk to friends, to help us become unstuck.


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I also don't really know what you mean...
I've never been through the phases you mention. Sure, I've been hurt, badly too. When I tell professionals what I've been through in life (incl childhood) they're always deeply shocked.

I think the most difficult time was 10 years with a narcissist and loads of abuse, daily, all version of abuse in existence. That was the toughest chit and don't think anyone could imagine what that is like.
But I'm always focused on the positive, on learning, growing, and even after I got out with my sanity still intact I was looking at what I could learn from that situation.

Bitter cynical depressed etc. isn't me really but I guess they can be phases to go through.

Looking back on life I just see growth, in spite of all the difficulties I've encountered. Always things to course-correct of course, more things to learn & do.

Again, I may misunderstand your intention with the topic. If so ignore what I said :)


thanks for your post Crystal, and that's how i usually think. but theres nothing to be learned and nothing positive for some experiences.

I seem to be having problems expressing myself properly atm. probably best not socializing for a while. :-)

You welcome ... hope all is well with you now !!!

I have no clue about what your rant was all about , in fact , now I am more confused than ever

But my deepest sympathies on the loss of your brother ...