Oh wow am I naive. I got a random IM tonight from a woman supposedly from Oklahoma. She gave me her email address and I gave her mine. She said she "wanted to get to know me better" because it would be easier off the site. She emailed me once and asked if it was my correct email addy and I responded.

I was skeptical from the beginning though because she is a knockout (well 'her' picture is beautiful) and thought "wtf is she showing interest in me for?" I should have figured!

Lesson learned, lol.

So that means the woman from South Africa that sent me her email to reply to doesn't really love me I'm crushed Maybe the one from Nigeria really means it

You should be cautious however if you both never exchanged info then maybe he thought he would travel there and not meet someone and be stuck. Give him a chance but if he won't give you all his info move on he's a player. Good luck young lady and by the way your wrong about american girls your just as sweet over there. God bless

This had happened to me twice, meet a guy online, you hit it off, chat all the time and POOF! He disappears for a couple of weeks or a month or so.
Both times they came back with very valid reasons for why they just disappeared but the connection was just never there again.
Anyhoo, so basically what I'm saying is that, something could have genuinely come up. Although I can't fathom why a person can't take two seconds to send you a message saying, "Sorry, I'm not going to be around for a while"; it could be a case of, like with one of my guys that he is seriously ill or something. The downside of internet dating is that you never know what's going on in that person's life outside of the net.
Hope he comes back to you! If not, I hope cupid brings you someone who will stay :)

I was getting close to a guy overseas once. One day he just disapeared but did show up a couple of weeks later,he was very hurt that I hadn't even sent one email to see how he is. Apparently he had gotten sick and ended up in the Hospital, same thing happened with another guy I was friends with overseas. You just never know whats going on.
I didn't email him because I thought he had found someone closer and didn't want to tell me. Things like that happen all the time. Its not always good to assume.

I was getting close to a guy overseas once. One day he just disapeared but did show up a couple of weeks later,he was very hurt that I hadn't even sent one email to see how he is. Apparently he had gotten sick and ended up in the Hospital, same thing happened with another guy I was friends with overseas. You just never know whats going on.
I didn't email him because I thought he had found someone closer and didn't want to tell me. Things like that happen all the time. Its not always good to assume.

Cheryline22, you are wrong. Girls in Malaysia are just as sweet.

Like others here, I suspect that you have been dealing with a scam artist. I have already learned what it takes for someone in your part of the world to gain permission to enter the USA, and it isn't easy.

There is nothing wrong with you cheryline. He might have ptsd or something, you can never tell,

I consider it his loss.

What you are describing is exactly how the scammer operated with me... he even gave me his cell phone number so we could talk offline... and he didn't start asking me for anything until 5 weeks into our communication... he was very smooth, and convincing... I had just divorced my husband of 18 yrs and was emotionally distraught, so this very kind stranger knew how to say all the right things to bring a smile back to my heart. He told me all about his life and his tragedies so that I would feel pity for him too. After he felt comfortable, or thought I was comfortable with him, he began whining about having financial difficulties, and suddenly, one day he calls me and tells me he needs money quickly to get out of a jam... well, my ex was late on his alimony payments, and I was upset about that... so there was no way I was going to help some strange man out, especially when it's normally the women asking men for help, not the other way around...

When it comes to your guy, if he's not a true scammer, maybe he found another woman to talk too, and just didn't know how to tell you he was moving on... no matter what his ultimate story is, if he doesn't contact you again you won't get closure unless you just put him out of your mind, and learn from the experience.. Personally, I think you are very wise not to have went to him when he first asked you too, because now you can see how he really is... and who knows if he would have left you stranded in Colorado if things didn't work out between you two...

You're a very pretty lady, and any man would be crazy not to want you interested in him, after the two of you have gotten as close as you have... unless he's got something else going on... so, out of sight, out of mind is the best scenario now...

Sad story If you want to play at a long distance relationship you are courting trouble. First the longer the time from first contact to actual meeting the greater the liklihood either party will find soomeone else closer and more readily available. Why choose someone unless financially able to commute easily and is willing to do so immediately instead go back and seek local more available people. Im not saying yo cant do long distance its just more difficult than people who reside much closer. The same rules apply to initial contact and first meeting as the more time you spend investing in a person without having met you run the risk of 1) misrepresentation the people are not as they appear, 2)you have no chemistry, 3) You hide behind your screen to keep you from actually learing how to meet socially 4) You cant learn how to introduce yourself if you dont set up inital contact meetings a precursor to a date- just a cup of coffee and or a single drink you can always make a genuine date if you are comfortable with the initial meeting otherwise thank the person and move on.This process is a numbers game if you arent willing to meet a lot of people yo leave it to circumstance to determine who you chooose . The larger the sampling pool the greater the chances of a better match all the way around Regards

Sad story If you want to play at a long distance relationship you are courting trouble. First the longer the time from first contact to actual meeting the greater the liklihood either party will find soomeone else closer and more readily available. Why choose someone unless financially able to commute easily and is willing to do so immediately instead go back and seek local more available people. Im not saying yo cant do long distance its just more difficult than people who reside much closer. The same rules apply to initial contact and first meeting as the more time you spend investing in a person without having met you run the risk of 1) misrepresentation the people are not as they appear, 2)you have no chemistry, 3) You hide behind your screen to keep you from actually learing how to meet socially 4) You cant learn how to introduce yourself if you dont set up inital contact meetings a precursor to a date- just a cup of coffee and or a single drink you can always make a genuine date if you are comfortable with the initial meeting otherwise thank the person and move on.This process is a numbers game if you arent willing to meet a lot of people yo leave it to circumstance to determine who you chooose . The larger the sampling pool the greater the chances of a better match all the way around Regards

Agree Harmony...There could be lots of reasons, even fear or a case of nerves I would think a "scammer" would have hit her up for a dime toward travel arrangements too...Every lost connection should not be blamed on scamming or players...Too negative....

perhaps he is feeling the same way too,, never know

if you lost his number, you clearly havent contacted him either,, even after he had booked tickets to see you,,,

just never know, could be a scam, could be something happened to him, or he could just be sensitive to not having been contacted by you

btw, you look something like the 'ex' of another poster here that I havent seen in a bit,,,,,

What you describe sounds like the typical scammer/player routine that men practice on unsuspecting women online. When I first joined a dating site 6 months ago, a scammer befriended me too, and we talked for over 2 months while he kept asking me to loan him money, find out travel data for him, etc... I sensed that he was a scammer and never gave him anything he asked for, but because I was writing a story about my new experiences online, I let the connection run its natural course... Then, a couple months later I happened to be on another dating site checking my messages, and that site actually matched me with him, but, he wasn't the same man now, his profile picture was the same, but he was using a different name and residential location, so just by luck I was able to finish my story on him with the actual proof I needed to make it factual. Moral of this short story.. Now that you've had this one experience, the next time a man online starts running this same scenario with you, your red flags should tell you to be very careful, even steer clear... and be thankful the first guy didn't rip you off for anything but your time...

P.S. if your friend turns out to be a sincere individual that is merely offended because you didn't chase after him, and he does contact you again, it would be so cool if you could give us an update, so we can see if he's for real and just self centered, or if he's a scammer/player...

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