Yes. I suppose that I do quite like talking about myself. Thanks for that little insight there about my personality. I had never really noticed that about myself before.

I do whatever works for me and when I go on a date I don't try to do anything apart from just being myself. Thankfully though women do actually like a man that talks and it's just a matter of whether they like what he talks about or not.

I wrote a silly little post there about how I'm going to ask women what Hogwarts house they're in and Realcarebear (and that's at least one woman) seemed to find it amusing. Maybe if we had been on a date it would have sparked a conversation. Statistacally, women these days are likely to have read Harry Potter, or to at least have seen the movies, so it seems like a lighthearted safe topic of conversation for a first date.

They either find me interesting and charming or they don't. Maybe my only really wanting to date women that find me interesting and charming is a bit narcissistic but I'm pretty sure that that's my type.

Where did I say there that I'm not interested in a woman's mind? What's hard to understand about me saying that I like talking to them and listening to them but I am interested in them as women and not in someone that could just as well be a bloke to talk about football or politics or any of the boring crap that guys talk about that I personally find quite tedious, even though I'm a guy myself?

My ex girlfriend was six and a half years older than me. I saw it as a deep and meaningful relationship and she didn't need to know what the heck I was talking about when I tried to lecture her about philosophy because she was right and I was being boring and it wasn't really a romantic thing to talk about on a date.

The draw is that they're women. So what if they're not my "intellectual equals"? You can have a nice chat with a lady without her also having a university degree. I suppose I'm an academic but I've never really dated academics.

But this is where the bit about not acting my age comes in. You sound more like you're forty than I do. I doubt you would have much in common with a twenty five year old. I can get on fine with them. Better than I did when I was twenty five actually.

The way that I see it and it may not be a really PC thing to say but I don't want to have a conversation with a woman as if she's a bloke.

Read the stuff that they post on here. They go on about how their moods are effected by the phases of the moon and it all sounds like psudo scientific balderdash. But what do we know and does it really matter if it's bollocks if them talking about it's romantic and kind of facinating? I don't think that their age really matters if you like women and what's different about them. Well, it might matter to you for other reasons but I don't find young women boring and on the contrary, it's old farts that turn into boring people with boring lives.

Not enough information. What sort of girl is she? Is she the quiet type, or is it just you that's shy? If you're both shy it could be very awkward. You won't be able to handle the tension of the awkward silence and you'll probably end up talking a lot of shite.

Don't worry about it. Talking a lot of shite always works for me. Tell her any old bollocks. It doesn't really matter.

Have fun on your date and good luck.

Well, not a teenager probably. They just mess you about.

Yes. I'm certainly open to the idea of a serious relationship with the right lady. I honestly don't know who would want to put up with me though and I'm not really in a financial position at the moment to support a wife, so instead of being all sad and depressed about that I'm just going to make the most of my singledom I suppose.

And I'm not going to let people that don't like it bring me down. Whoop dee doo for me for posting a thread about how I still like girls when I'm in my forties. I don't even use viagra.

It's only creepy if I'm like one of those old men that I think are creepy. Therefore, I just need to make sure to not act my age and I'm not being creepy.

This is how my midlife crisis works:

I'm still single and chasing women. I'm in denial to a certain extent that I'm aging and I'm definetely not creepy, however young they are as long as they're over the age of consent. I can prove it. How? They wouldn't go with a creepy old perv, so if they go with me I'm not a creepy old perv.

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Oh yeah. It's been a while since I watched a Sean Connery Bond movie but you sure can see how hairy his chest is when he's in bed with all those women.

There's also a crappy science fiction movie called Zardos I think where he's completely naked in one scene where some scientist woman from the future that's studying him tries to get him to have an erection

I'm actually kind of slighted there as a Scotsman that Sean Connery wasn't top of that list and didn't even get on it.

To me it's a bit like they're trying to overcompensate. I like to flatter myself that women might actually fancy me without me having to take my shirt off.

I'm comfortable about taking my shirt off in public when we actually get any sun here but I think that I would feel a bit silly putting a picture like that on here, if for no other reason than it's going to make me look like a bunch of other guys that do that. They look silly to me. Well, they would do if I looked at them. I'm not even bothered if some women do want to see that or not. It's not just women that think that you look like a fanny if you do that.

Oh, if only. If it was all about the sex I wouldn't even mind that there weren't any serious people. There are plenty of those in the real world.

But seriously. Just getting laid is hardly a problem in the real world. Mainly it's older women on here that are either just bored or looking for a relationship and they won't just date anybody. They have long lists of requirements that they want in a partner and him being well hung isn't usually on them.

At the end of the day, if you're turned on by the thought of sexing an actual lesbian and find lesbians atractive (as opposed to just women) it could just be a perversion and they may see it like that perhaps.

Speaking for myself, I find lesbians a bit sexually repulsive and I really don't want to offend anyone by saying that. I'm sure that they feel the same way about me. I'm not talking about bi girls. As a straight guy I might see a lesbian as a challenge vut the sex would be freaky and maybe not just in a good way.

You sound hot to trot and into this idea but maybe just bear in mind that the fantasy may seem great but the reality could ve a less pleasant experience than you imagined and it's not really different from going with a guy and then changing your mind once he's started trying to have sex with you.

Here's a question though. There was a body builder on here before and everyone was telling him that it was fine that he was posting bodybuilder shots because that was his thing.

If I was to strip down to a pair of shorts and stand on my head in a yoga pose would that be alright? I've got yoga listed as one of my interests.

There's something a bit comical about a guy stripping. The women that go to see male strippers may think that they're hunky but they're all laughing at them.

I guess a lot of them find it cheesy and think that guys that do that are posers. I wouldn't post pictures like that myself unless I was just advertising for sex. They don't need to see me with my shirt off to see how I'm built. If they want to see me take my clothes off that can maybe be aranged but they're only getting a private viewing.

I'm feeling kind of alright and like I've got more energy again, even if I don't really know what to do with it right now. I've decided to do a bit of writing myself actually and am going to try a creative writing class that sounds fun. I've got a few ideas about what I want to write about and it seems like a good way to spend my time, even if I'm not on a mission to get something published.

Also, I feel way better for cutting way back on my drinking and I feel like there's got to be something better to spend my money on than that.

It stands for big beautiful woman. It's a type of person and a porn category that you can browse for if you want to see a bit of that.

I was in the park today where I met her. Talked to my sister about it all and I've definetely accepted now that it's over and I don't even really want to waste my time thinking about her anymore.

Cuddly is nice but fit with curves in all the right places can be most excellent. You're probably only going to get that from a young hottie though, unless she's a yoga teacher or something.

Depends on what you're into though I suppose. You probably aren't going to get much in the way of sexual gymnastics with a BBW but maybe you like a more passive woman that just lies back and enjoys you giving her attention.

Sometimes they just want to get off of the site ASAP because they're being spammed themselves. It's not for everybody. Most of the women that might want to chat with me and maybe consider dating don't also want people from all over the world sending them weird messages. And then there are the guys that they just find creepy messaging them all the time.

I wouldn't give out my email but if I meet somebody that's actually interested in dating I'm out of here and it's not like this is a place where I actually want to be. Most of the time it's just tolerable because at least there's a forum, for what that's worth.

Although I'll grant you that they would be more likely to do an older guy if you have a profile that says that you're a millionaire.