You don't want it to be like a job interview but you want to ask questions to find out what sort of person that they are and how compatible you might be. Well, maybe or maybe I just ask what sign that they are because I can tell them that I'm a scorpio and if you google scorpio with any other sign there's always this bit about how at least the sex will be fantastic.

A lot of women are into astrology but it's maybe been a bit overdone as a way to chat them up and I'm pretty sure that more women these days like Harry Potter than they like astrology. I was thinking that I might start asking them which Hogwarts house they would be in. Slitherin would be a big red flag for me I think and I might find a Ravenclaw a bit annoying. I think that I could date a Hufflepuff and maybe that's my type but I'm a gryffindore myself.

Yes, really. I've been sorted and everything and have a nine and a half inch elder wand.

Haha! Glad your back in the forums! Hope you are doing good!

I always get the "why so many questions" question.

Then I always ask right back..."how do you expect to get to know someone if you don't ask questions". You would find out without needing to "google" if you are compatible (sexually, or otherwise) IF you simply asked questions (and of course they answer honestly)

Yeah, like the proverbial bad penny Carrie. Thanks for the hug you sent me. Couldn't hug you back because an error apparently occured and my acount was suspended until they sorted it out.

there is nothing wrong with asking questions.
you are after all getting to know each other and see if you might be a good match up for whatever you're looking for.
if you're casual and she wants serious or the other way around, if you're not looking for the same thing why not move on.

if there are things that would make either of you run the other way, it's good to find out early on.

And for dis same reasons if we ask u women shy away into ur shell of privacy & evade replies

Yes, women do this too. However, just for common knowledge...I DO ask questions and I DO answer questions. (of course, appropriate questions at the appropriate times )

That's their polite way of saying ''honey we ain't interested''

Don't ask questions. Just observe like monkeys in the lab.

The only question I ask is.. what time is your husband going to be home

Why not just enjoy the date & save questions for future dates if there are any?

..Well in my case if the husband comes home early chances are there will be no more further dates

Should stem from the conversation rather than be a means to start one.


The majority of women I've dated hated the whole "I'm going to ask you a question about yourself, but really I just want to talk about myself and the rehearsed conversation I've come up with, and since you answered the question you are kinda committing to an interest and desire to listen," game.

That tends to mean you want to talk at them rather than to or with them.

Yeah.
I might think someone was a wee insecure if they
started listing all their faults.

Or asked to hear mine.
Or grilled me more than the salmon.

Yes. I suppose that I do quite like talking about myself. Thanks for that little insight there about my personality. I had never really noticed that about myself before.

I do whatever works for me and when I go on a date I don't try to do anything apart from just being myself. Thankfully though women do actually like a man that talks and it's just a matter of whether they like what he talks about or not.

I wrote a silly little post there about how I'm going to ask women what Hogwarts house they're in and Realcarebear (and that's at least one woman) seemed to find it amusing. Maybe if we had been on a date it would have sparked a conversation. Statistacally, women these days are likely to have read Harry Potter, or to at least have seen the movies, so it seems like a lighthearted safe topic of conversation for a first date.

They either find me interesting and charming or they don't. Maybe my only really wanting to date women that find me interesting and charming is a bit narcissistic but I'm pretty sure that that's my type.

Sure honesty must b der on both sides to develop mutual trust and interest

I agree with u. There must be frankness on both sides. This will only ensure mutual trust and helps building confidence

I agree with u. There must be frankness on both sides. This will only ensure mutual trust and helps building confidence

. Lol. That's the good one:)

How do you find out things by observing on a dating site?
Yes, I agree about in here in the forums, but not everyone on a dating site posts in the forums. Even in real life, you should ask questions (and answer questions). They may not be absolutely one right after another like on a test, but questions are a MUST, especially on a dating site, IMO.