YEP....

SAD CHOICES....

and the point is......???????????

EMPTY PROFILE ?????????????? GET REAL......

THE LESSON I SEE IS,,,'' WHAT WE ALLOW OR NOT ALLOW, AND WHAT WE

REINFORCE IS HOW '' WE TEACH PEOPLE HOW TO TREAT US ''....FEW

PEOPLE WILL TAKE THE TIME TO SEE THERE PART IN THERE RELATIONSHIPS.

THEY BEHAVE THEM SELVES IN PROBLEMS, ,, THERE ARE NEW WAYS NOW TO

BEHAVE OUT OF AND AVOID PROBLEMS.....

SOUNDS LIKE A GUY SCAM, FREE MILK WITHOUT PAYING FOR THE COW....

if i heard you correctly you said you feel tired....first its

important to be able to nurture yourself...inside you there is a

beautiful little girl that has emotional needs. you can be a

nurturing parent to yourself...do something that will bring joy

to

that little girl....the grand children in my family they bring a

lot of joy to me. the i love you's, and hugs. you can be a

volunteer at a local church.....you can look for a support group,

they are everywhere. there are groups for hobbies you can

join....there is so much to do, and you meet and make new

friends...i have even taken none credit courses and met a lot of

people....i have a small puppy i take everywhere, every day i

meet new people through my puppy.....the ways are endless...

YOU SAID LET THEM BE PERFECTLY THEMSELVES ,,, THAT'S CALLED AN '' I

--THOU BY MARTIN BUBER HE SAID ''I- THOU'' IS CHARACTERIZED BY

MUTUALITY,DIRECTNESS, PRESENTNESS, INTENSITY, AND INEFFABILITY .

HIS WORK WAS THE BEGINNING OF A LOT UNDERSTANDING ABOUT MONOLOGUE

VS DIALOGUE COMMUNICATION.....

let me see, sounds like '' WE ARE O.K --THEY ARE NOT O.K''....

A LOVED ONE, TEACHER, AND MENTOR TOLD ME THAT NO ONE IS POO FREE...

IF YOU HAVE BEEN ABLE TO THAT, I CONGRATULATE YOU...WELL DONE....

OH I SEE YOUR DIVORCED ???

GESTALT PRAYER, BY FRITZ PERLS

I DO MY THING
AND YOU DO YOUR THING.
I AM NOT IN THIS WORLD
TO LIVE UP TO YOUR EXPECTATIONS
AND YOU ARE NOT IN THIS WORLD
TO LIVE UP TO MINE.

YOU ARE YOU AND I AM I.
AND BY CHANCE
WE FIND EACH OTHER,IT'S BEAUTIFUL,
IF NOT, IT CAN'T BE HELPED.

TWO PEOPLE BEING AUTONOMOUS, YET TOGETHER AS ONE HEART.....

ONE MORE THING,,,,ONCE YOU FIND AND YOU CATCH HIM,,,,YOUR GOING TO

HAVE TO DO THE WORK TO KEEP HIM.....THEY CAN BE TRAINED IF YOU ARE

''THE ONE''....

do you want better results ??? post a picture of you smiling and

fill out you profile...tell about some of your wonderful qualities

that will make man would want to marry you......o.k. you got a pic now advertise....

WOMAN ARE NOT THE SAME AS MEN...THEY HAVE DIFFERENT HORMONES THAT

AFFECT THERE EMOTIONS AND THERE ARE MORE PHYSICAL DIFFERENCES

THAT

EFFECT THEM....THEY ARE RAISED DIFFERENTLY AND TAUGHT DEAL WITH

SITUATIONS DIFFERENTLY, THEY HAVE DIFFERENT NEEDS AND WANTS...AND

THIS IS A FEW WAYS WE ARE NOT THE SAME.....THE ANSWER IS TO LEARN

ABOUT EACH OTHER AND EXCEPT THE TRUTH. WOMAN TAKE IN INFORMATION

DIFFERENTLY AND PROCESS IT DIFFERENTLY....THERE IS A LOT TO BE

LEARNED FROM EACH OTHER THAT WILL MAKE OUR LIVES A LOT BETTER,

FIRST WE MUST START TO REALLY LISTEN TO EACH OTHERS POINT OF VIEW

AND NOT NEGATE THERE VIEW BECAUSE WE DO NOT UNDERSTAND IT....

generally men do not have permission to feel there feelings and

emotions,,,, when grieving a person will normally drift from one

feeling to the next from sad, mad, and even scared. its important

to give your self permission to feel you feelings as they come up.

over time you will feel much better and understand better what

really happened. it may help if you can find some one who will

really listen without judgement.if not you can put a empty chair in

front of you and imagine the person you need to talk to and share

your feelings.........sometimes a good cry will help heal the

pain......when my circuits over loaded and my energy level gets

low i will do something for the little boy inside me that always

lifts my spirits.....most of the problems people have is because

the natural child in them is wounded by the lack of a nurturing

parent, a overly critical parent,and or a unstable adult

example....good luck...p.s. one thing i see a lot of children not getting enough of just being held and listened in a way that there words are heard in same way they were spoken and reflected back the same....repeating back to them helps them understand and clear any distortions.....

listen to what the lady said.......how about talking to a dating

coach......suavecito, chill, relax, take you time, and enjoy the

show...

first you have to get real........picture with big smile...

i am a lot older and a vet of the battle of the sexes. here is my

view on the subject....

to have what you want you must always be authentic, always be who

you present your self to be....relationships problems are created

by how we behave toward each other.....ultimately its the esteem

you hold for yourself and others ''your belief system''.....good

luck...

START WITH A BIG SMILE.......

FYI......

AT NUDE BEACHES THE LADIES WITH BIKINIS ON DRAW MORE ATTENTION THAN

THE LADIES THAT ARE TOTALLY NUDE.....