I dated a parole officer. Coolest part was going with her to pick up her new personal weapon and taking it off to the range to fire off a few dozen rounds.

Hey, if you're a cop, don't they issue you a club?

And better yet, a taser, so you don't have to go chasing them down within striking distance!

That's really unhealthy. You haven't dealt with your situation, you've just covered up the problems. Those feelings and issues are still tucked away back there and need addressing.

Every potential threat should be taken seriously. If you're truly concerned, report it to your local authorities, get their advice, and see what they have to say on the matter.

In that case, not only no, but hell no!

Why take chances?

Hang out? What do you mean "hang out"? I hang out with friends all the time.

Beating around the bush doesn't really project the picture of confidence you really need to have in order to land many women. Speak your mind to her. If you're interested in more than being friends, the sooner you let her know that, the better. Sure, she might reject your advances, but it's a damn sight better than just pining away, waiting to make your move.

Ouch.

On the other hand, great play on the topic.

That's one way to look at it.

Another way to look at is, men should date younger women. We keep getting told how immature we are, so if we date someone...say...half our age, everything should work out fine! :)

Quoted for truth~

And while it's certainly not a "given", usually a woman knows within 5 minutes of meeting you whether she'll ever be interested in anything more than friendship.

I mostly agree. The only thing I'd disagree on is that people find it a bit easier to flake out on you on teh interweb, because of the anonymity.

You're right. It might. I think it's silly to devote a lot of time and energy to a friendship if you're expecting it to turn into something more.

If you're fine just having the relationship be a friendship, cool. Do your thing, but keep actively looking.

Sitting around, pining away for a friend, when it very well may never turn into anything is really limiting yourself.

One more flake off the list. *shrug* No big deal.

And they'd probably be right.

Do you feel guilty? Do you feel "ashamed" over what happened? It doesn't sound like you should stress over it.

As far as the boyfriend thing goes, you'll never know for certain that you are a priority of theirs. The best you can do is treat them with respect and hope the same comes back to you.

You say you both have a ton of stuff going on. That's all well and good, but do you "feel" like a priority?

I think you'd sound like a stalker by NOT waiting for her. Leaving a string of presents and roses and notes for someone who doesn't know you sounds rather creepy.

Step up, man up and go talk to her next time you see her.

Eh...I got nothin'.

I've seen some women in the area that are attractive, but I don't have any emotions regarding them in any form. I wouldn't even say it's advanced as far as lust. Mostly "Oh, she's cute...." and that's about it.

Eh...it's you name. You're the one that has to live with it. If he doesn't like it, that's too bad. It sounds like he has some confidence issues if something as little as your last name can make him feel insecure in your relationship with him. If that's true, then that's really his problem to deal with, not yours.

That's true. But you certainly can't know if they're compatible or not with zero emails, which is a common complaint and a large part of what this thread is about.

And one bit on this, the OP stated that he was looking for someone, but "everyone" is looking for friendship. If they are looking for friendship only and he is not, that tells me their goals are incompatible. If both people want to be friends, great. If both want to have a relationship, great. However, if both people want different things, that's usually not so great.

Realize that each individual person is just that, an individual. Just because one woman cheated doesn't mean all will, any more than just because one man cheated means all will.

No matter what you do, or don't do, no matter what you did, or didn't do, each person's actions are their own choice. You can't "make" someone cheat any more than you can make them be faithful.

I don't know you, so I'll put this forth as diplomatically as I can. You may or may not have done things that encouraged her to cheat. You may or may not have left things undone that encouraged her to cheat. For these purposes though, that is irrelevant.

She made her decision, you didn't make it for her. That's not your burden to bear.