Ok..so this is the question..(I would like to know how
Everyone feels about this subject).

I am a Divorced Woman and have been for well
over a year now, I was Married for 17 + years,
We never had children...
I have kept my married name, (just have not changed
it back yet)...I have done alot of thinking about it
and I was my married name for over 17 years and that is almost as long as I was unmarried. That's alot of history..

I guess My question is , Why is it so wrong for me to keep
my married name? I was told recently by a good friend of mine
that I have started getting Very close to..that he feels this is wrong..and that he feels like I still belong to my Ex by keeping his name..

What do you all think??? am I wrong???

no...

I think that it's whatever you're comfortable with.. I kept my ex's last name for my sons, I've begun using my maiden name since they are over 18...

you were a part of that family, your married name is just as much a part of you as your surname. do whatever you feel works for you.

no keeping his name is not wrong when and if you get married change it then

Thank you..I just feel like you said..I feel comfortable with it..

When I divorced I got my maiden name back but now I'm thinking of changing it back to my married name, my kids have his name and there is nothing wrong with keeping it besides your use to it. Don't listen to anyone do what you want!

well as you said it was who you were for most of your adult life, people know you by that name.

Don't let HIS insecurities make YOUR decisions for you.

I personally have batted this around, change or keep, I am still undecided, but that is my decision, and no one else can make it for me.

To jealous,,,, tell him to hit the road,,, or if you want to change it go with it,,,,But I would do it for me not him

If it feels good do it.

Thank you

thank you so much..that's what i was thinking too

Thank you very much Lily..Great advice..

thank you tanya...your'e right I am a Big part of his family still..I talk to my Ex In-laws every week still...

thanks Biker

Ya know what? I just got dumped because I'm married. IN THE LEGAL SENSE ONLY. He said it was wrong. Me perv husband is state's away and I'M NEVER GOING BACK. They need to stop thinking so much of themselve's. What about us??????? We want to get on with our live's. They have no right to condemn us to our past!!!!!!!!

Awwwwwww Shoes I'm sorry..you are so right...

Not at all.

My parents are divorced and my mom has kept her married name, mostly for us when we were kids, but she kept it even after we all grew up, and she's been divorced for about 13 or so years.

I don't think it matters.