i am very hopeful that things will get better....if they got any worse i would be growing a third nipple

Ugh. I've been on here too long.
And, so far. I've gotten only 2 messages, and neither led anywhere.
What is it?

Military life can be really hard on young marrieds. You don't get to develop your marriage relationship the same way most people do and that can lead to problems down the road.

Time and distance can erode trust in each other. She's young and healthy and so are you. You both have needs and desires that aren't getting filled. It's natural to think the other one might act on those needs and desires while they are away so long.

You need to do whatever you can to build and maintain trust. Telling her what you did with almost every hour of your day is one way of doing that. Writing her a lot of email is another way. Every time you think of something that involves her you should tell her about it.

Talking as much as you can on the phone is important because she can hear how much you miss her in your voice. Sending her little thoughtful cards and gifts is another way to touch her.

It takes a special person to be married to someone in the military who will be gone for long periods of time. It takes loads of trust and committment and a lot of people aren't up to it. I wish you well in keeping your marriage alive.