Topic: This is Kinda Deep
xxAzriahtheBeastxx's photo
Mon 07/21/08 11:07 AM
So about a year ago, I was in a bad accident

knocked into a coma for a week, cool stuff, yeah

but with that

Came the loss of smell, taste, and a lot of feeling like emotion and such

With that, a low esteem doesnt help, and i just need advice on what to do

Im the giving type of guy, i love to garden, and grow my own roses so i can give them to someone, i love to play music, so i love (or would love) to dedicate a show to someone. Ive never been on a date, because women view me as nothing more than just a mere crutch because i guess im too much of a sweetheart, but im also assertive, so i dont know what im doing wrong

The one thing i seek is to regain the feeling ive lost

so i can truly give someone all ive got

Is that too much to ask?

Im tired of being lied to and used, an the majority of you will say "well, thats life".

I just need advice, what do I have to do to really get that person who can really help me regain that feeling?
Like i said I am nothing more than just a romantic dude, but that doesnt mean im too much of a sweetheart if that makes sense?

I just want to know what im doing wrong

Tazz42's photo
Mon 07/21/08 11:13 AM
Your a young guy.....You have alot to look forward too. As for the loss of feelings...you haven't lost any. the way you just wrote your post was very well done!
You just haven't found the right person yet.
Hang in there...":heart: if you have a heart they will come....:heart: "
Good luck, and NEVER give up!flowers

no photo
Mon 07/21/08 11:16 AM

Your a young guy.....You have alot to look forward too. As for the loss of feelings...you haven't lost any. the way you just wrote your post was very well done!
You just haven't found the right person yet.
Hang in there...":heart: if you have a heart they will come....:heart: "
Good luck, and NEVER give up!flowers

I SECOND THAT!!!
And good luck w/ nursing...let me know if you need any advice/help with school.

xxAzriahtheBeastxx's photo
Mon 07/21/08 11:16 AM
I know, it just feels so odd, after coming through this much, having died by the age of 18, and coming back from it, and with everything else going on, it just doesnt seem that way sometimes

Blueyesmn's photo
Mon 07/21/08 11:19 AM
I'm not sure where you live but their is a few options out there for you. But as far as regaining feeling that is something you will need to work on yourself. As for getting the feelings and emotions back look in your area to see if you can find someone that practices NLP or HNLP and uses it in their counseling. If you want to know more about what it is you can google it or message me.
I believe that everything in life happens for a reason, even the bad stuff. We may not understand that but as you get older it all starts to make a little more sense.

You seem like a sweet guy so don't sell yourself short and just be patient the right gal will find you! :smile:

Tazz42's photo
Mon 07/21/08 11:19 AM

I know, it just feels so odd, after coming through this much, having died by the age of 18, and coming back from it, and with everything else going on, it just doesnt seem that way sometimes


Sometimes there is a light at the end of the tunnel and this may have happened to get you to open your eyes to a different perspective on life.
You may not know it yet but there may be a "calling" that you have not recognised yet....Just a thought.

Jam1e's photo
Mon 07/21/08 11:22 AM
you dont have to buy love and i bet those are the woman your running into, be patient bro when you find a woman that will plant roses with you then youve found what your looking for!

no photo
Mon 07/21/08 08:37 PM
giving is your problem right there, g.

relationships are a two-way street. You can't just give people something awesome, and keep giving in hopes that they return the favor.

Seriously. If people (especially womenz) can't see the value in the things you do for them, then they will never appreciate it.

Moondark's photo
Mon 07/21/08 08:52 PM
Edited by Moondark on Mon 07/21/08 08:54 PM
I know this isn't the answer to your question, but it could have been worse. Okay, the loss of emotion is what made me think of the story. So maybe it is just as bad.

meet a woman who was knocked out in a freezer unit. Coworker thought she was dead and there was nothing to do, so he waited until next shift and tried to pretend she just disappeared.

She ended up with hypothermia and in a coma for a while. Broken neck as well. It was a amazing that she hadn't been paralized. So I don't think it was the 'broken neck' we see in movies.

She woke up, she was different. Slight brain damage from the hypothermia caused her to completely lose her connection to her family and friends. She knew who they were, she didn't loose her memories. But all her emotional connections were gone.

Her personality altered and she tried to get to know them again and re-develop those connections, but she discovered she really didn't like any of them.

xxAzriahtheBeastxx's photo
Tue 07/22/08 02:15 PM

giving is your problem right there, g.

relationships are a two-way street. You can't just give people something awesome, and keep giving in hopes that they return the favor.

Seriously. If people (especially womenz) can't see the value in the things you do for them, then they will never appreciate it.


well that makes sense, I greatly appreciate it

missy51970's photo
Tue 07/22/08 02:20 PM

you dont have to buy love and i bet those are the woman your running into, be patient bro when you find a woman that will plant roses with you then youve found what your looking for!



very nicely saidflowerforyou

bad_girl's photo
Tue 07/22/08 02:22 PM

Your a young guy.....You have alot to look forward too. As for the loss of feelings...you haven't lost any. the way you just wrote your post was very well done!
You just haven't found the right person yet.
Hang in there...":heart: if you have a heart they will come....:heart: "
Good luck, and NEVER give up!flowers


I agree whole heartedly with this