wait... arent' you the girl who recently asked how guys feel about girls who wait? And he knows this and has tried to hook up with you? HMMM... Hate to sound crude, you know him better than I so I may be wrong, but he may just be trying to deflower you. You'd be suprised how long they'll 'wait' and then turn on you once they get it...

One guy I was seeing for a while before I signed up for JSH, I made him wait for like 6 months and once we finally 'did it' he dumped me. I know its not b/c I'm bad at it...lol, its because some men are just like that...

Well that clarifies a lot then doesn't it. I do find it strange He hasn't put any moves on You????

it doesn't sound to me like she's giving him false impressions, it sounds to me like she legitimately likes this guy and is scared.

First, keep in mind the deal breakers. Are any of them something you think you can decide to deal with anyway? I don't know your age or his, but saying the word "school" makes me think probably pretty young. The 'deal breakers' may just be stuff he eventually grows out of. Think about that before you decide to get his reaction. It sounds to me like you've made a good friend so far, is that worth the risk? Its completely up to you if it is or not. He sounds like a pretty understanding person.

Try something like this on for size (re word and add to it however you see fit):
"I just wanted to tell you that I've developed feelings for you. If you dont' feel the same, its okay with me, we'll never speak of it again. I just felt I had to tell you."

Sounds like you're both fairly mature, its possible that your friendship could sustain such a thing if he doesn't feel the same. Whether he does or not, you're still going away to school. BUT school won't last forever, and then there's breaks where you can see one another. Who knows? Life isn't much if its without risk.

not the most convincing or assuring term concerning a relationship , any one that has to ask such a question is already there obviously.

the only thing that is scary at this point is She already knows She has to break it off with Him what She is looking for here is support for her actions.

well for starters your not having feelings for him, your lusting after his body, so don't tell him you'll just upset him and yourself

I honestly don't give a darn if someone wants to wait. I do believe, however, that losing one's virginity is not a big deal. Do we get emotional and sentimental about learning to drive or having our first glass of wine? How about our first kiss? Sex isn't a grand metaphysical act nor is it always Hallmark card sappy (and in fact, to me, it's so much better when it's not). Sex is a biological function; it's emotionally chemical (those pesky yet oh-so-heady hormones...).

Wait, I don't care, but personally, life's too short not to live.

You seem angry about something in this post. I don't understand why. Isn't it moral to provide for your family? I don't consider a house and having a car to drive your kids to soccer and ballet to be having toys. It's not daddy, it's hubby

It seems to me the people replying do not believe a potential partner's financial status has any place in discussing marriage, family and home life?

That sounds a litle short sighted to me.

I think financial stress is a contributing factor in divorce.

this is why there is so much aids and vd around, people spread it from to another because they are not faithful to each other. why would you want to put yourself and maybe kids through such stuff. sounds like you might need to see a counselor and see if they say what we are saying.

Prenups are insulting. I'd never sign one.