Maybe she really is in grad school...It's just hard to picture an intelligent, ambitious woman wanting something like that for herself....

If that's what you really want, I think you're going about it the wrong way. A lot of men get freaked out if a woman is looking for marriage. The key is to making men think it was THEIR idea to get married, not yours. And to do that, you have to be involved in your career and have a life of your own. If you want to give that up once you have kids, that's fine, but make it obvious that you're independent and capable of taking care of yourself.

Nothing wrong with wanting a good man. I want a good man too. I'm not looking to get married anytime soon, but when I am, I hope to settle down with a good man. I just think your idea of a good man is warped...but then I guess thats your own opinion. If you want to marry a guy for his success and money, in exchange for being allowed to sleep with whomever he wants, I guess good luck to you if that's what will really make you happy. I just hope that there is more going for you in your life.

I think you're looking for the wrong things. I mean, if that's what you really want, I'm sorry to judge you. However, are you affluent yourself? Are you independent? Are you successful? A lot of successful men these days are weary of women who are just looking for someone to "take care" of them. Of course, there are men who like to take care of women, but do you really want to be under someone's thumb? If he makes all the money, he has all the control. If i'm wrong about you and you are a successful, independent woman, then you have every right to want the same in a man. However, it sounds like you're looking for superficial qualities. Make your own success, dont rely on someone else's.

yeah i dont believe in love at first site...but you can have intense feelings for someone when you first meet them and it probably is best defined as infatuation.

yeah, angelina...if you dont want to do something, then dont do it just to please someone else. you'll only make yourself miserable. if you feel you're ready to have sex with your next boyfriend and you really want to do it, then go ahead, but dont compromise your morals just to make someone else happy. i almost gave in once, too...its really hard but just stick to what you want you decide.

Hey, I actually agree with you that it is harder to wait now than it used to be. When people used to get married at 16, most of them were probably barely ready to have sex anyway...now most teenagers lose their virginity around 16-18. So I agree, it is harder to wait these days. I'm not looking for marriage until I at least graduate college and have a degree. But it hasn't been hard for me to wait physically yet, I just dont get myself in situations that could be very tempting. However, it is hard emotionally sometimes...I have had a broken heart before because I really liked a guy who just really wanted different things than me, so in that sense, it is a struggle.

Thanks for your honest opinions everyone. I even respect rambo's response..it was harsh, but I'm sure there are a good amount of men out there who think that way. And I really don't care about money. Id much rather marry a blue collar worker who loved me for who i am than a millionaire who didnt respect me. Anyway, I appreciate everyone who posted. Most of the responses really did make me feel better. It's really nice to know that other people feel the way I do and they respect me for my choices. My choice definetely isn't popular in college and a lot of people bother me about it.

Hey thanks for the feedback everyone! I know it's my choice, I think it's just hard finding people my age who respect that. I'm 20 and have never had a boyfriend. I didn't get the chance to date in high school and most college guys arent exactly looking for relationships. Im hoping that they'll grow out of it but it just gets really frustrating sometimes.

So I'm new to this site and no really knows me on here, but I would really like guys' honest opinion about this subject matter. Guys, what do you think about a girl who is saving herself for marriage? Would you date someone like that and be willing to wait or would you get bored and find someone else instead? I'm really starting to wonder if I'm being unrealistic in my hopes...

Hey everyone! i'm new to this site..just joined last night. Not quite sure why I'm on here, but it seems fun. I love meeting new people so feel free to check out my profile and drop me a message!