NO FAIR! YOU CHANGED YOUR ORIGINAL POST!




Now I look like a dirt bag!



People Cheat because they think they can get away with it! That is why!



When cheated on all you can do is either put up with it or not put up with it. if you put up with it you get what you pay for so to speak. Some people are into that misery. But the rest of us are not backwards!

The fact is a lot of people Male and Female are self serving.

HAHA Meh its been 2 months, and Im just trying to move on. Although I find myself crying alot more now days -_-. I think I need more Chinese food.

Perhaps they wanna lead the way... to cheatingdom...


... and be cheated too

Simply put those who do are like the men who cheat, there POS who dont care about any other persons feelings. To them love is nothing, even after a long commited relationship at any point or cheating its the same answer, they just dont care any more obviously enough to keep to them selves. I recently got out of a relationship in which she ran off to texas and cheated on me, took her kids with her and disapeared after I helped raise them for a year. May not seem like much but it was gut renching considering I cant have my own.

not everyone is 'built' the same

people are comfortable in different environments

some are more 'one on one' and some are 'comfort in numbers' types


neither is better or worse, just different and if two people are from those different 'comfort zones' , they will probably not be very compatible

good morning, hows the weather there?

10:41 CST
I'm actually about to try my own trip to Z-ville (sleepy me!) In a week I'll be traveling with a 5 (?) hour time zone leap, so all bets will be OFF (plus, who needs sleep when visiting another cool place???)

Well, g'morning' then!

It stinks when you wake up early (or don't sleep at all!) Sometimes I get my best work done then. Later I pay in narcoleptic behavior, but at that moment...laundry BEWARE!

Before I moved to Houston, it was the "shallow dating pool" I swam in - wear a helmet!

I don't see you two meshing gears! That means the machine, in this case a metaphor for your relationship, is breaking down.

What I see is the father is actually threatened by you. So much so he is going to do what he can to impose his will on the situation. On top of that remember the saying "misery loves company?" Well, doesn't that seem to apply here?

Sometimes the right choice is the hardest one. It may not always be but what does that inner voice say to you? And I am talking about the one you seem to be trying to drown out with romantic justifications? We all have two voices inside us. One is the optimist and the other the pessimist. Optimistic people can have pessimistic moments. But deep inside something tells me you want to move on and need to be encouraged on which way to handle your situation.

I don't think it is a case of you NOT Having family values but what I see is the father of the guy you love not only has a tight leash on his son but he pulls it tighter when your around. And the thing is if he tells his father off your a beyatch and in his mind (the father's) I am willing to bet he doesn't think well of you at all. So no matter how accommodating or understanding you try to be you are damned by him both ways. NOW for some down home empowerment for you!!!

IN the real world if your BF was a man at all he would make damn sure to put his father in his place when it comes to his relationship with you and how he is behaving. NOW FOR THE DEVIL'S AVOCATION... Is your BF A) really hard working and dealing with Ireland's economic hard times right now like so many other Irish? I mean does he have a job or at least is really out there looking for a job? B) does he act guilty about your relationship around him? C) does he even seem to have any real future at all?


These three questions can tell you in most cases where your relationship is heading. Yes it is romantic to marry and settle down like mommy and daddy and the Church liked to teach us but this is the real world! Settle down? Its a struggle for some of us right now. Life is unfair and scary. But we all make or break our own destiny. Again what does your inner voice let alone instinct tell you? You seem to be riddled with doubt, self doubt, and trapped in a paradoxical situation.

I'm 1/4 Irish and one thing I know about Irish, most Irish people I know are great people and driven achievers BUT (and the worst part is I think I got this part in me a little) is that some Irish people are thick headed self centered dolts! (Peter Griffin's father from Family Guy is a not so extreme example of this supposed stereotype.) The hard core Catholic Irish can be that way and if he is you very well maybe considered by him to be living in sin and are a sinner and worst, A PROTESTANT! They either are passively vicious or openly abusive. And abuse runs in many forms. It can be quiet like manipulation or open to verbal tirades. No I don't have a lot of information about this to go on other than the details I have gleaned but I think you are wanting to move on by what you are saying. What is wrong with having your own life for right now if you are uncertain about being involved with another?

This is just an additional way to meet people.

You get to talk to a whole range of people you otherwise would not have had a chance to..Sometimes you actually get to meet.Its wonderful
this site rocks

Not exactly. I had to move a couple years ago, and I ended up in a place where I don't know anybody.

yes, I think I see. And you are perhaps a bit more independent than he, maybe even more mature than he -as often in our 20s we mature more quickly than men do. Do you have a reason to feel he is afraid? Perhaps he has been nutured well by loving parents and simply enjoys that environment....enjoys rather than fears. Facing the world from a place of security is infinitely more wise where it is possible. As luck would have it - you have a good support system. Perhaps he would enjoy to include you more.

IDK seemed like a good idea at the time...I have met some nice people this way and I am so shy in person...this has helped me with that

I am so shy in person that those who know me from here would not recognize me - as far as personality - be lucky to get me to talk to u

For me, it was mainly because I ended up in a situation where there was little or no chance of my being able to meet anyone in real life.