I've been doing this a long time, and what I've found is that anyone who tries to get you to use a Yahoo (or msn, hotmail, etc.) address to contact them right away is a scammer. End of story.

We have e-mail on this site, so there's no need for anyone (legitimate) to try to prod you into going off-site.


ask her just to email u on ere till u get to know her better :)

look carefully at how a potential partner treats his family, particularly his mother as that is how he will treat you in the future. If your boyfriend is a family man, loves the home life and a close knit family it shows many good things about him - he is learning his values from his parents, he isn't out drinking and tearing up the town, isn;t dealing drugs cheating on you....he is in the company of the people who love him the most, and who he loves, and he will be there for you in the same way in the years to come.

try getting to konw his people, adn then after you have made some effort, talk gently with him about having more time alone together

in many families a couple does not spend a lot of time alone until they know each other for some while. this could be their tradition also

I have a father, just the same as his father.

He needs to tell his father to grow up. He is no longer a boy, he is a man!

just an affirmation of what fearandloathing told you. Some people are born whiners (his father).

Blood is thicker than water and if you are unhappy now you shouldn't consider marrying him. As stated previously this will only stay with you, it is as it is, and you will be unhappily married.

Maybe you really should rethink and move on, it is hard and not right to split families. He would resent you for that. You seem nice looking, didn't read your profile, but at 27 you have plenty of time to choose a future partner.

Leave him, for his sake.
Then he can find someone who can
appreciate a close-knit family.
Or love him anyway.

Generally, when something isn't working out for someone of importance (in this case, you) the person involved leaves the volatile situation...However, for the most part people are not this logical or aware, so they stay with the volatile situation for years thinking "oh, it will change when..." whatever happens, whatever never happens. Two miserable people are no better than the one who was miserable in the first place, if a situation does not feel right, or you are uncomfortable in any way with a situation...Leave the situation before it kills you.


yeah u av a valid point indeed, are u speaking from experience?

Dump him, problem solved...Glad to help.

Hmmm not sure that you can ever d3eal with this.

Basically family's like this stick together no matter what, you cannot seperate the son from the family its pretty much a part of him..

I have a family the same, they are a part of me, the same as my children are.. My children bring everyone home here, my daughter and her boyfrind are here all the time, if they want to camp over night they do, we are a part of their lives and they are a part of ours, my parents live in my building and my children are split between their home and mine as its all one.

Will I feel sorry for my childrens partners, yep for sure if they dont become a part of the family but at the moment all their friends call me mum and fit in with us. We really dont know any other way, some family's are just one big blob that sticks together and spends time with each other even if its just for an hour, we drop in unannounced stay for meals or camp over.

maybe you should just see if you can enjoy being a part of his family, but let him know that you would like to have your own time as well

^That explain's much.^

I don't know what to say. Perhaps he is thinking he can't make it in the recession and needs to stay close?

I think you need to make "excuses" for him to take you elsewhere if you are really into him.

Otherwise you may have to move on.

forget him, tell your mom to call my mom so we can go out. my dad and my brother will drive us to the mall so we can hang out

Only if the mall had a strip club or golf course in it...

what does his dad do? and how long have you guys been together? If it bothers you a lot you should talk to him about it, maybe u need some space from him


His dad is re-tired, yeah been together a year. at this stage, maybe full time space is needed.

Ask him to come to your house more often. Or ask him to take you out.

That way he will get a sense of what independence is and you will get away from his family.