I've been in your friend's position (except I'm not bi). I had a buddy I grew up with and we were very close. I had no idea he had stronger feelings for me than just friendship. He never told me and I have zero gaydar (not to mention I've never been too swift on the uptake on these sorts of things). Eventually, his feelings drove him to attempt suicide. He changed his mind at the last minute but still ended up in the hospital. I visited him there and that's where he told me how he really felt about me. I was stunned and speechless. Shortly thereafter, his parents took him to another state and I never saw him again.

The point is, you should tell him and be prepared to lose his friendship. If you don't, you will always wonder "what if". And that wondering might drive you to do something stupid. It is a lot easier to get over something if you at least tried. Trust me on this. You sound like an honorable person. That's good, but it is hard. When you do tell him, you should make it clear that you're not trying to break up his current relationship and that your feelings are independant of how he feels about her. And that you are prepared to give him his space and allow his current relationship to unfold and blossom or fail with out your interference(sp?).


And who knows, you might get lucky and get him in the end. However, you must be prepared to never see him again as well. If the worst happens, you will always remember, but you will get over it. You really will. It'll just take time. And it probably won't be the last time you get your heart broken.

Best of luck to you.

He's got a girlfriend, leave it alone. Tell him nuthin! If perhaps sometime in the distant future they split, then after givin him ample time to grieve the split then tell him. U may need to find other friends to spend time with until ur feelins for him cool down. JMO, live ur life

arre yoou tyyping onn aa phoone oor sommething? ii thiink uur pushhing ii's toooo muchh

Okay, let me get this straight.

They've been dating for two months, he's been cheating on her, and you don't want to tell her that. You told her that you want her, she says she wants you. She wants to cheat on him with you, but she doesn't want to leave him, she only wants to keep it a secret. You're confused because you want to be with her, she wants to be with you in secret, and you don't know if you should tell your best friend about all of it.

Wow.

Sounds like a Jerry Springer episode. I'm guessing you like to deal with a whole lot of unnecessary drama, but let me put it simply. If you don't mind losing the best friend and most likely the girl (cuz she'll end up cheating on you or realizing that she doesn't like you as much as she liked him), or they'll both agree to passing her around like a plate of nachos. Hmm.... both choices sound pretty lame to me. I say forget about her and hope he dumps her soon so she's out of both your lives.

if she wants to date you, she has to break up with him first-it's the right thing to do. if she wants to see you behind his back-she isn't behaving like a nice person. you don't want to date someone who isn't nice, do you? who does things behind her boyfriend's back? i think you are probably both better off without her and maybe in her next relationship she'll try honesty.......since you value your best friend and friendship lasts forever-you could also consider having someone else tell him she is doing this and you are resisting her-then he'll know you are a great friend.

As positive K says what's your man gotta do with me