It's really aggravating to be on this website and I see where I have mutual matches, yet rarely any of these guys are sending me messages. And I'm too shy to go ahead and send one, but more importantly I'm a bit old fashioned and think that it should be the guy breaking the ice.
Another thing, I really want a good text in my profile. It's so hard for me to describe who I am because it seems like I'm trying to convince guys how...worthy I am. I used to hate seeing a profile that read,"If you want to know me, message me" but I can see how that could work better. I mean, I'm like other women. I could say how much I love to laugh, how I want a guy who won't cheat and isn't a drunk, how good a person I am, but you know, who ever says otherwise?

Get out on the post more and get to know people.
That will help...

You need to put yourself out there, like here on the forum. No one notices otherwise!

you should make lots of threads like i do... sure a lot of people would think im annoying, but i get attention and let people know im not afraid to speak my mind.. so.. just be less shy :P

To be noticed, you must first be noticable and worth noticing. That's not to suggest in any way that you're not. But they would be prerequisites. Adjust your technique. Maybe it is uncomfortable to email these guys. Sure, some of them won't email you back. That's never good for the ego. But none of them will respond if you never reach out...

Also, consider 'Hey, how are you' before hopefully describing your perfect man. Most guys hear the laundry list and head for the hills. Find some common ground to start conversation. These sites facilitate bombardments of emails, and the people you're noticing are being noticed by others. They have to choose the best of the bunch to respond to. Find something interesting to comment about and you're far more likely to get responses. Maybe some will turn into dates, maybe some will turn into friendships. Either way, what have you got to lose?

if I were 20 years younger I'd email the heck out of ya.

I agree, I try to not make that laundry list of requirements about a guy. I try to just describe myself as other people see me and hope that catches someone's interest. I just don't want to have the cheese factor, lol, you know those profiles, "I've been hurt so many times, blah blah blah, I don't wanna play games, blah blah blah" But I hate sounding boring because I'm not a boring person!

So what's wrong with drunks???

J/K Hi and Welcome post lots

Yeah, Peccy would never have found me if I had never posted here.

I think he is stalking me now...

Well, I gave up on writing to anybody first, after I sent out e-mails to some of the new locals and got NO replies. So if somebody wants to talk to me, they have to write first. If it's the guy's job to break the ice, somebody has to acknowledge that he's done that, at least, otherwise what's the point? Where's my incentive to break ice, over and over again, with no payoff....? Breaking ice is not exactly a reward in itself.



97% of the profiles I've read here are a complete waste of time: "I don't know what to write here" or "Anything you want to know, you'll have to ask me" or "I'm a fun person who likes to have fun." If a profile looks like it was copied word-for-word out of "Dating Site Profiles for Dummies," I'm not going to be impressed. If a profile doesn't convey a sense of who a person is, their thoughts and feelings, likes and dislikes, their history, what they're looking for and what they're not looking for, then they might as well just write "I hate filling these things out" -- and an awful lot of them do just that.

hey and welcome....b

welcome to the online datin' world!!

Sweety welcome to the club i'm up to post #40 i think and my inbox is empty ..Whatever