So experts are saying that nearly half of everyone married has cheated.

Of course some of it has to do with that people think/feel that they are not getting all that they desire from their marriage but another part of it is supposedly that as creatures we are not meant to copulate with just one mate and may often feel driven or compelled to act on some primal impulse.

Many married individuals admit they have had numerous occassions of when they have questioned their marriage.

¿So why do we so idolize the desire for romantics and monogamous relationships?

cause that is the way it was intended

for love and relationships to be...

Although cheating isn't the right thing to do, been there done that! And reason being I wasn't happy and I desired affection from a guy! Lifes to short to be STUCK!!!!!!!!!!

Maybe because there are a lot of hypocrites who don't practice what they preach. They say one thing and do another...

Cheaters aka Monogamistly Challenged

Yeah, if you can't/won't be monogamous, DON'T GET MARRIED to someone expecting it. Stay single. Or find an open-marriage kind of person or don't get married. Seems pretty simple to me....

Social stigmas from the 1800's when survival was more on peoples minds than their new cell phones...

I'm not a proponent for cheating...but you gotta know who you are, and people who can't commit to just one person, or who fancy the "getting strange" need to know that is who they are, and stop being selfish and take a good hard look at why they want monogomy from the other person, but are unwilling to give it in return.....

**This is why I am single....I think too much, wish I were dumber sometimes**

i think that if someone is really & truly

not happy in a relationship

they should leave ...plain & simple...



i just don't agree with staying with someone

and cheating on your partner on the sly...


it is not right to give the impression

of fidelity and behave differently ...

IMO...Marriage is a great thing, but it's also an outdated ritual. I mean why do two people need a piece of paper to show the world, look we're married everyone!

The true love and commitment should come from the heart. People will rebuke and say something ludicrous about it being a sin not to be married and live under the same roof. Says who? A book that was written 500 years after the fact and edited by King James as he saw fit? Sorry I'm straying of topic here.

What was the question again...........

Well, having been there, done that, the only real reason to get married, for me, would be legal and financial reasons. Otherwise, I'd be just as happy in a life-long committed relationship.

I'll happily live in sin.. but married again...highly doubtful.

Yes I forgot to say I was married........lol

Monogamy is a commitment. Marriage is supposed to be a commitment. People are selfish and want perfection from imperfection being imperfect themselves.

If one strays or can't be with one person, then don't lead another one on. Cheating puts the other one at risk for their behavior. Not to mention the pain it causes.

Unhappiness is NO excuse to cheat! Get out first. Then screw away....all the heck you want.

Marriage is not for others to see nor is it for the world. It is for the wholeness and wellness of the love that we supposedly hold for each other.

Marriage has become expendable to so many. In for a minute and out again. The problem is....people are getting married for the wrong reasons. Not thinking of the long haul. It is'nt perfect. It is ever growing, and reasoning. Work. Something so many don't want to do.

I can never just live with someone. It brings up trust issues, and makes me lose respect for the other after awhile.

Kat

The thing that gets me are the people who cheat, yet expect total monogamy from their spouse or significant other.

I don't want to cheat. yet everyone picks a cheater.

Because it is morally the thing to do.
Because SOME ladies WANT a different last name.
Because If there are any children involved.
Because of loans, taxes, SS, Pensions.
Because They LOVE to wear wedding bands, lol,lolOK that one was
NOT a real one,ok?? ....lol

i'm basically pretty old fashioned i realize
and have realized over the course of my life,
even though i have experienced a lot of things...
and have been exposed to a lot of different lifestyles....

I don't want to just live with someone...
For me, that is just not nearly enough ...
i choose to take my time to really get to know my man
and for him to really get to know me...
and when we decide that we are the one for each other

i definitely want to be married to him thru & thru ...

i have found in my own personal observations...
that there are quite a few men
& women too, i have been told...
who want all of the sexual benefits
of having a wife or husband ,
without any of the actual caring,
consideration & friendship ,
without the love, commitment,
dedication, loyalty, fidelity
or any of the civilized, common courtesies
that people extend to one another
when involved in a close relationship...

nothing really more than people test driving
all the new and pre-owned vehicles
in the car & truck lot....

that just is very staggering to me,
how humans can behave so coldly to one another...

Many people do not know what true intimacy is,

& it really has nothing to do with sex.


i desire to involve my life

with all the little and big things

that make life love & romance

so very very special


& i want to be around others who feel the same way ...

Those who respect themselves

and who respect others, too...

Uh... I love monogamy furniture...

Nice stuff... only if it is real monogamy though, not that fake African monogamy wood...

more like mahogany

Once was enough of that misery for me!!!