Just wondering. I cook, clean & take care of home. I love romance etc. I
just don't took any cheaters, lairs or abusers, so why am I alone??? Why
is thug magnet or loser attached to my forehead??? helppppppp

Hello Butter1,

Firstly let me point out that I am not an expert in these matters but
you have asked for advice. The first thing you need to do is change your
social habits; For example start going to different Restaurants, Clubs,
Bars etc. etc. This will inhibit you from constantly meeting with the
same "Thug/Loser" crowd you've experienced in the past.

Secondly, I would suggest that you set your sights a lot higher and
carry out some due dilligence on any potential suitor. As I am not local
to you I cannot suggest where to go for a night out where you're less
likely to meet the "Thug/Loser" types but this really should be common
sense. Also I would suggest if you can afford it using a professional
dating agency, one that carries out background checks on your behalf.

Above all else, always remember that you can say "No" to anyone you are
not suited to and follow your gut feelings...

Take care.

Also, stop cooking and cleaning for him; make him do it. If he does,
you've got a winner.

make him do a little of the work, also don't be afraid to speak up
should you feel uncomfortable with any situation. you will probably meet
a lot of losers while looking for a winner. I can tell you that for
sure, I have met many losers while looking.

I have asked that exact same question to a few good friends of mine and
they all tell me the same thing you have just been told....to quit doing
soooo much for them. My reply is this "I do not do the things I do
because I feel I am obligated but because I care for them and want to"
But the common reply is by doing it I am just setting myself up to be
used.

I understand butter because I have the same problem----good luck!!

Hummmmmmmmmmm go ahead and take all of this advice then ask yourself
this question.

Why are all of ya still here if ya know the answers?

Hummm good question reason is cause none of us really know that magical
answer eiher but we all wished we did.

Just be your self and enjoy life and keep your dreams alive of finding
that special one.

For when we quit dreaming, we quit living!

Oh TX, We're just playing Dr.Phil. Noone one has any answers. It easy
to be objective when you're out of the situation.