lets just get this over with and Open this can of worms....


BBW's.

I personally like them, but this subject has to be tackled sooner or later.

How much is Too much? Me personally, i know i'm a fat bastard, i know i'll never have the six pack abs women want, and i know i dont want some Paris Hilton wannabe... i want a real woman, but i like to think that if shes bigger than i am, perhaps i am not as attracted to her as say someone smaller than me... And at 265 pounds, i like to think thats alot of wiggle room.

Does that make me a sexist or a BBW hater? i hope not. But is it really so terrible to draw the line somewhere?

Discuss.



Disclaimer: I do NOT like women that are so freaking skinny that i can count ribs, so dont start telling me i'm looking for barbie... cause i'm not.

Hot is an opinion not fact

hypocrite, but welcome to your input like anyone else

i only date women that are over 400lbs...mmmmm good times

No it doesn't to each their own

Some women like little men, some like big men so it is pretty much the same thing

I'm a bat fastard.

Whatever the size, it's what's in the heart that matters to me. If a person can put up with my obsession over details (we all fall short and I can use understanding, compassion and forgiveness), then we're probably halfway there to establishing a connection.

I think someone who's independent, supports themself and is interesting is what matters to me. Nonsmoking, non drinking, not slovenly, don't keep nasty pets in the house which are not cleaned up after, that type of thing. Anything other than that's kind of negotiable and stuff I can deal with, in my book.

I like reasonable folks who use decent language, too. Someone easy to talk to at all times, upset or not. People who communicate and don't just cut you off for no reason. That'll drive me up the wall!

Let the drama begin

i like all men

waterloo?

WATERLOO!!!!

water what? Don't understand that one!

waterloo is like my personal Yoda.


He keeps me from killing people.

all hail waterloo... can i borrow him/her/it?

"Attraction isn't a choice" - David DeAngelo

Men are attracted to women differently than women are attracted to men. The problem is, people tend to assume attraction works the same for the opposite sex as it does for them. It doesn't. Men are generally attracted to women with a high replication value (appearance) while women tend to be attracted towards men with a high survival value.

true, but we aren't living in caves anymore.

True, but the same prinicpal still applies today. It's evolutionary and our emotions are pre-wired to feel attraction for these traits.

Physical attraction though a little important is really not the most important thing for a couple anyway.

In our superficial world today you would think we all need to look like Barbie and Ken to get any action, but we know that is not true so why do we buy into it?

If your lady is bigger than you, is it because of what others will say that you are concerned? If not that then I guess I would have to say that it is personal preference. But way too many people are concerned by what others will say about them and if that is the reason they have a problem not the big person.

so how is it that some people are attracted to others based on traits, like, I don't know, intelligence, kindness, wit, honesty? Are they just more highly evolved?

so now a person who is not attracted to a big woman, or ugly woman is less intelligent, or evolved? lmao. Awesome

a person who cannot value another person for any traits beyond the superficial is less highly evolved in my opinion, yes. Anyway, the poster that I was responding to was talking about how we are wired that way for survival, which is no longer necessary. And I was asking a question, not stating an opinion. If they are not more highly evolved, then how do you explain it?