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Topic: Do you own your name?
moman65672 Joined Fri 02/01/08 Posts: 348	Fri 03/14/08 06:05 PM
now get that chip off of your shoulder.I can't see your face! The chip isnt on my shoulder its my x bleeding my incomme away I can still feel her hands in my pocket looking for my last dollar. ;-) you wont see my face I dont want to scare anyone away its not hollween yet.

moman65672 Joined Fri 02/01/08 Posts: 348	Fri 03/14/08 06:13 PM
Some men get weird about accidently being called by the wife's name though. I get called by my girl friends last name all the time like when I take her to her medical apointments and it doesnt bother me at all it just makes me smile. I dont try to correct them whats the point if they think we are a happy married couple who cares. Maybe were are happy looking couple becasue we arent married.

AaronzDad Joined Sat 12/15/07 Posts: 10182	Sat 03/15/08 12:05 PM
Because I find this an interesting topic... and before I bring up my response question thread... Any more thoughts on this?

Jistme Joined Wed 10/31/07 Posts: 2991	Sat 03/15/08 12:07 PM
I'll take anyones name.. after all.. I'll probably only be using it for a few months... on the outside.

iam4u Joined Fri 10/13/06 Posts: 30096	Sat 03/15/08 12:13 PM
How do you feel about a woman keeping her maiden name after marriage? Why? How WOULD YOU feel if after marrage HE said he was NEVER going to wear his wedding band, wink. But he would MAKE-SURE he told EVERYONE he was married.. To be real here, If she wanted to keep it as a middle or before mine, cool, but to NOT want mine SHE would have to really EXPLAIN her reason for THAT? But it might be ok..? And to change after divorce to her maiden,,,no problem,,but to change MY CHILDS,,,I would have a big BIG issue with that one....

AaronzDad Joined Sat 12/15/07 Posts: 10182	Sat 03/15/08 12:13 PM
I'll take anyones name.. after all.. I'll probably only be using it for a few months... on the outside. Then after that you'll be in prison?? Does lilith know of your plans??

Gypsy41 Joined Tue 05/15/07 Posts: 123359	Sat 03/15/08 12:15 PM
I took my husbands name and then I just went back to my maiden name......illegally of course!!! So sue me!!! Hmmmmmmmmmm I have an alias!!!

adj4u Joined Sun 04/08/07 Posts: 21254	Sat 03/15/08 12:16 PM
How do you feel about a woman keeping her maiden name after marriage? Why? the only reason against it is future generations is the great great great grnad kid gonna be cindy michelle smith-jones-murry-williams just a thought

Gypsy41 Joined Tue 05/15/07 Posts: 123359	Sat 03/15/08 12:17 PM
How do you feel about a woman keeping her maiden name after marriage? Why? the only reason against it is future generations is the great great great grnad kid gonna be cindy michelle smith-jones-murry-williams just a thought my son has a hyphenated last name but goes by my maiden name.........we are a new generation family I guess!!! Legally of coure he goes by both but in general he goes by my maiden name.

Jistme Joined Wed 10/31/07 Posts: 2991	Sat 03/15/08 12:18 PM
Does lilith know of your plans?? She doesn't even know of my transformation to a 74 year old woman, looking for an intimate encounter with a man, yet. I did leave a message on her cell though.

AaronzDad Joined Sat 12/15/07 Posts: 10182	Sat 03/15/08 12:24 PM
Does lilith know of your plans?? She doesn't even know of my transformation to a 74 year old woman, looking for an intimate encounter with a man, yet. I did leave a message on her cell though. Think of it as a good test of your relationship. If she really loves you it won't matter. Good Luck!

zanne46 Joined Sun 07/01/07 Posts: 5610	Sat 03/15/08 12:51 PM
yes I own my name.... French Canadian(US born)...I like the way Canada has chosen to have woman keeep their last name.. I believe it keeps things real simple... I have changed my name..then divoreced back to my maiden... My last name works best for me..... If I ever married again....I would hope that my husband would have no problem with me choosing what I want... It doesn't have anything really to do with him.. But for me...I have had my maiden name longer than any other ones name..... I love my last name..and what it represents.. I am also PROUD of my last name.... maybe men should change theirs to ours....and see how they feel about that... that would be intereresting.....

cutelildevilsmom Joined Sat 04/07/07 Posts: 8862	Sat 03/15/08 01:03 PM
I've changed my name three times.my last ex adopted my daughter so i kept his last name as it was my kids last name.My daughter has since married but my son will always have the same name as me. With me i don't see why taking someones last name should be such a big deal.After all you took your fathers name at birth.. Seems to me to be a trivial issue at best.

hikerchick Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 13206	Sat 03/15/08 02:46 PM
I've changed my name three times.my last ex adopted my daughter so i kept his last name as it was my kids last name.My daughter has since married but my son will always have the same name as me. With me i don't see why taking someones last name should be such a big deal.After all you took your fathers name at birth.. Seems to me to be a trivial issue at best. when you take your fathers - or mothers- last name at birth, you haven't already been living with a name for 20, 30, 40 , 50 years. That might make a difference. A name is part of your identity. Some people don't want to change their identity for someone else. And surely , if that someone else loved you, they would not expect you to.

texasrose9 Joined Fri 08/17/07 Posts: 1140	Sat 03/15/08 02:55 PM
The woman retains her maiden name after marriage in Canada?

AaronzDad Joined Sat 12/15/07 Posts: 10182	Sat 03/15/08 03:06 PM
OK, those of you arguing for NOT changing names after marriage... What if it was important to your partner? A symbolic gesture of "Two shall become one"? The "if you love me you would..." argument cuts both ways.

lulu24 Joined Sun 02/11/07 Posts: 6033	Sat 03/15/08 03:08 PM
OK, those of you arguing for NOT changing names after marriage... What if it was important to your partner? A symbolic gesture of "Two shall become one"? The "if you love me you would..." argument cuts both ways. my children come first. we share a name...and i intend to keep it that way. emotional blackmail just isn't fair.

Jim519 Joined Thu 12/27/07 Posts: 9203	Sat 03/15/08 03:11 PM
How do you feel about a woman keeping her maiden name after marriage? Why? How WOULD YOU feel if after marrage HE said he was NEVER going to wear his wedding band, wink. But he would MAKE-SURE he told EVERYONE he was married.. To be real here, If she wanted to keep it as a middle or before mine, cool, but to NOT want mine SHE would have to really EXPLAIN her reason for THAT? But it might be ok..? And to change after divorce to her maiden,,,no problem,,but to change MY CHILDS,,,I would have a big BIG issue with that one.... Agreed, why cause any confusion to child

62easygoing Joined Thu 12/27/07 Posts: 4641	Sat 03/15/08 03:12 PM
not a problem by me.....

hikerchick Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 13206	Sat 03/15/08 03:22 PM
OK, those of you arguing for NOT changing names after marriage... What if it was important to your partner? A symbolic gesture of "Two shall become one"? The "if you love me you would..." argument cuts both ways. it would cut both ways if I were asking him to change his name. I wouldn't do that, and neither should he.