So i was 15 when i got pregnant and 16 when i had my son. By the age of 21 i had 3 kids already. Now being 27 i have 4 (all by the same father and we were together for 12 years married for 8). If i have learned anything from this it has tought me one thing. I have 2 girls and 2 Boy's. I will be starting the "SEX" talk very early on as it is happening earlier and earlier. The girls will be put on birth control if i feel that they are being sexually active and i will supply my boy's with condoms. Same may argue that this is wroung but i want my kids to go to college and have a career before they have a family. I would not give my kids back for anything just wish i would of done things differently and in a different order. I seemed to have done things backwords.

kids arnt kids anymore. i stopped going night clubbing because it was full of 15 year olds, i think in this day and age, they are adults, they are doing everything adults do, sex, alcohol etc. it just annoys me why they dont get the morning after pill, you can buy it over the counter now deb, and also if there having sex why are they using contraception??

if people were resposible there wouldnt be such a need for abortions, apart from the exceptions i said. go on the pill, use protection etc, so many babies being murdered and it can be totally prevented.

I know could be extremely isolated cases, where abortion could be "recommended", when the mother´s life is in "risk", but extremely risk. Nonetheless, what happens with people that think abortion is so normal like brush your teeth after each food!!!!!, it is a life!. These people know what abortion is before hand, but continue several times,....

I totally agree not just once but twice, three times and so on.... didn't they realize after the first time what causes it and how to prevent it!

no it isnt, but if there not going to keep the baby fullstop, its better to take one tablet,when the baby is less than 24 hours old, than wait for the baby to develop and get fingers, and toes, or have the babys ribs and skull crushed, dont you think??

Kudos. But the real fact of the matter is; too many want a baby, a small child to raise. Not a grown child or teenager. Stastistics show that many children yet to be adopted are indeed older and teen age.
It isn't a matter of being bad because they want a young child. It is merely that they want to do the raising.
Kat

I agree. They may not be pregnant in the first place but if there is that chance stop it within the first 24 hrs instead of waiting several weeks or months.

i totally agree with you, thats the responsible and the best way to be. and yes young girls are having sex earlier and earlier.

If i was more stable and had a big enough house i would adopt/ foster the older ones and the ones that have several kids from the same familie. I know that it is harder to place older ones and families of childeren so i would strictly foster/ adopt older ones and several kids from the same familie!

I did as well. I adopted boys that were older. I love them with all my heart. But, I also knew their parents. I think it made a difference.

Kat

thankyou for agreeing with me.

i just cant figure out why people dont get the morning after pill, if you cant afford to buy it over the counter, get it free off your doctor. why would anyone leave it months, when the babys developed, and got feet, toes, hands,and can feel pain, i just dont get it. and i REALLY dont get why people leave it 3 months, when they have to crush the skull and ribs, that one i will never understand.

this is exactly what i said. i dont know if you saw but i knew someone who has one child, and had 3 abortions, here in the uk you can only have 3 FREE abortions, she had unprotected sex again, and thought she was pregnant, and she coudnt afford to pay for another one. luckily she wasnt pregnant, and i was so glad, as she beat the one child she had. some people just dont deserve children. you would think after 3 abortions, they would learn from it, but it appears they dont. i swear these people who have 6 or more abortions get pleasure out of murdering a baby, else they just wouldnt do it.

just because they are doing what adults do doesnt mean they are set emotionally or
mentally for any of the above and thats way they act like they do, they are still kids , and even contraception isnt full proof im living proof of that, killing babies isnt a term i would use as it isnt a good emotional way of putting it when these girls/women are havin a hard time as it is, and if your anti against this surly there should be no excuses ie its okay to get rid of that baby but not this, i work with kids and im qualified in childcare i see these kids everyday trying to be adults trying to grow up faster than they should, doing annd talking about things they shouldnt be ready for, and at the end of it they are still kids

well deb, they shouldnt be having sex anyway at 15, thats illegal, im sorry but like others have said, if your mature enough to have sex, then deal with the conquences.

also deb, fair enough they have sex, but why dont they use something, or go and get the morning after pill??? theres no excuse for that. all you have to do is walk in a chemist and get the pill and thats that. at 15, shes capable of that.

like i said deb, i dont get why people wait and let the baby form hands, feet etc, before its aborted, and some even wait so late the baby has to be delived vaginally, and thats when they crush its skull and ribs, that is cruel and sick, when NONE of that would be have to happen if they just walked to a chemist.

i understand what your saying hun...but you got a 15 year old kid whos had sex found herself pregnant hasnt told her parents or anyone cos shes scared, she isnt going to go into a chemist and get a pill, hun, yeh shes had sex but its the whole taboo thing isnt it you shouldnt be doing it, so whats a kid going to do , do it, doesnt make em an adult and certainly doesnt make em equiped to handle it, yeh ok some can especially if they get the support but its bloody hard and either way , dont think anyone will ever agree on this one hun...

well you have unprotected sex, its got to enter your mind you could be pregnant, so go buy a pill, or see a doctor. i cant see whats so difficult about that.

we will all have different opinions deb, if we were all the same life would be boring.

I can't read this whole thread, but this quote says it all for me. I gave my 3rd child up for adoption 21 yrs ago because I am pro-life. What others do is not my concern, and it was an open adoption so I know to this day where she is and used to have vistits with her.

It was her choice when she was 15 to not have contact, but I firmly believe that I did what was in her best interest. She is now attending an Ivy League College and I live on 9000$ a year. You do the math.

Did I do right by her by not killing her? Did her parents who cannot have children of thier own benefit as much as she? I could have just killed her and been done with it. A womans body, but what of the childs body? Anyone ever watch "The Silent Scream"? If you did/do, you might just think a bit more about the body. The child has a body too! Enough said. I have to leave this thread.!

Just wanted you to know Debbie that yellow has left jsh and I am not sure if she will return . I am not sure what happened after she and I spoke late last night. If you should hear from her please tell her to contact me. I am worried for her.

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yes you DID do the right thing, you created a life, instead of taking away a life. adopting isnt wrong, killing a baby is.