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Topic: abortion
DebbieJT Joined Mon 11/26/07 Posts: 10329	Sun 03/02/08 09:39 AM
It is her body, her choice. She is struggling with her feelings. Did she receive counseling before the procedure? It sounds like she would benefit from psychotherapy and/or some non-jugemental spiritual counseling. Please encourage her to get it as soon as possible. yep i agree councilling would be good

buffry Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 2647	Sun 03/02/08 09:39 AM
Well, regardless of your personal opinion, this child needs help. Not people getting bitter over their personal struggles. I am sorry that you cannot have a child. But trust me there are plenty of children readily available for adoption. I personally, dont believe in abortion either, but I i dont condemn others for their differences in opinion or mistakes that they have made. One thing maybe to remember is that EVERONE is someones child. If you did have a child, would you treat them this harshly?? I hate to think that you would. She is only 15 for christ sake.

Jasonbourne Joined Sat 02/23/08 Posts: 175	Sun 03/02/08 09:39 AM
i want some feedback on whats right and wrong about this i need to help my sister out cuz she just had one and is really going through it bad now That's a difficult issue to discuss. The respect to the life has to be considered. Should someone decide who lives and who does not????. I know it is her body,...but tomorrow we will start to decide on other things,...it is better to stop now,...and think about that more seriously. Only God can decide about that. On the other hand, every body makes mistakes,...not again.

shoes4rhon Joined Sat 02/02/08 Posts: 3411	Sun 03/02/08 09:42 AM
Love her Love her Love her .. none has ever been healed from Shame .. no one has ever changed by being ridiculed .. Love her Love her Love her .. Jesus Does ...

scttrbrain Joined Sun 04/08/07 Posts: 5769	Sun 03/02/08 09:42 AM
There are plenty of children out there to be adopted. Yes. But not babies. They are of high demand. Not enough babies and too many wanting one. Kat

buffry Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 2647	Sun 03/02/08 09:46 AM
Humans are not animals...if you want to be a parent that badly it shouldnt matter what age they are. Now that is something that is disgusting to me. All of the children in this world that need homes, and because they are not cute little babies, their lives are not worth as much?

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Sun 03/02/08 09:51 AM
Well, regardless of your personal opinion, this child needs help. Not people getting bitter over their personal struggles. I am sorry that you cannot have a child. But trust me there are plenty of children readily available for adoption. I personally, dont believe in abortion either, but I i dont condemn others for their differences in opinion or mistakes that they have made. One thing maybe to remember is that EVERONE is someones child. If you did have a child, would you treat them this harshly?? I hate to think that you would. She is only 15 for christ sake. i didnt say i couldnt have kids, i said it will just be harder for me, or may take longer. doctors have said i should be fine, and said just what ive already said. well if at 15 shes having sex, then she should be mature enough to know she could get pregnant, or dont people care, these days its just to easy to have a abortion. theres a clinic around where i live who will do a abortion in your dinner break at work, just makes me think not many people have a heart, how anyone can murder a baby is beyond me.

DebbieJT Joined Mon 11/26/07 Posts: 10329	Sun 03/02/08 09:52 AM
havin a child is a big decision, yes haveing sex you must understand the consequences and as i stated earlier some women have used iabortion for contraception, but and this is a big but, there are many reason for having an abortion in this case we are talking about a child and when has a under 16 year ever understood consequences like most kids they play and do not realise this could change there lives, yes some can handle it..but for some there is no choice and i think compassion is needed for theses kids

dhutch9 Joined Fri 06/15/07 Posts: 604	Sun 03/02/08 09:53 AM
As an adopted child,a parent and someone who has had an abortion,I can assure you that abortion is a choice no one wants to make. Sometimes circumstances put you in a position to choose what's right for you. Choices have consequences-sometimes long-term. Adoption isn't always the answer either. Adopted children are sometimes left with a void that nothing can fill even when they are raised in a loving,safe and happy environment. Being judgemental is not the answer and this abortion debate will continue for years to come. I think people should be allowed to make choices for themselves but should also understand the consequences for those choices.

jennyjmn720 Joined Sun 12/16/07 Posts: 2554	Sun 03/02/08 09:54 AM
i dont agree with abortions ..but under certain circumstances it should be used..health problems, if the un born faetes is damaged in any way etc, it shouldnt be used as a form of contraception and that is wrong..but young girls getting pregnant then it is an option as they arent old enough to look after them selves so how are they going to look after a baby?? also what about all those poor babies that are born hiv positive, heroin addicts etc their well being wasnt put first when they dedided to go through with the pregnancies.everyone has the right to decide what to do with that pegnancy whether its good or bad..its their body and their choice ..but it shouldnt be continually used as a form of contraception.

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Sun 03/02/08 09:56 AM
for example if someone had a abortion, she must feel some emotion, else she wouldnt be human, but why the hell do they have unprotected sex again, and end up ending 3 abortions or more??? why after the first abortion, when you felt upset, do you do the same thing again? maybe some people have NO feelings, and they dont care there murdering how many babies. thats why they continue to have abortions over and over again

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Sun 03/02/08 09:58 AM
also if youve had unprotected sex, why dont they go to a doctor and get the morning after pill, you can even buy it over the counter here. all youve got to do is walk to a chemist. im sorry but theres NO excuses.

shoes4rhon Joined Sat 02/02/08 Posts: 3411	Sun 03/02/08 10:00 AM
First I think that the zealots inflate stats to make us believe that people have them over and over again when in truth here in the states they are not covered by insurance so it is private pay and I doubt that many folks could afford repeating them over and over .. Second this is not a debate on the morality issues , the religious issues or the right and wrong of aborition this thread is about someone - A fellow human being and a child of 15 that is hurting .. and this little girl needs help .. So back to topic please ..

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Sun 03/02/08 10:00 AM
havin a child is a big decision, yes haveing sex you must understand the consequences and as i stated earlier some women have used iabortion for contraception, but and this is a big but, there are many reason for having an abortion in this case we are talking about a child and when has a under 16 year ever understood consequences like most kids they play and do not realise this could change there lives, yes some can handle it..but for some there is no choice and i think compassion is needed for theses kids deb, you know i luv ya, but ifs she old enough to have sex then she isnt a child.

jennyjmn720 Joined Sun 12/16/07 Posts: 2554	Sun 03/02/08 10:00 AM
As an adopted child,a parent and someone who has had an abortion,I can assure you that abortion is a choice no one wants to make. Sometimes circumstances put you in a position to choose what's right for you. Choices have consequences-sometimes long-term. Adoption isn't always the answer either. Adopted children are sometimes left with a void that nothing can fill even when they are raised in a loving,safe and happy environment. Being judgemental is not the answer and this abortion debate will continue for years to come. I think people should be allowed to make choices for themselves but should also understand the consequences for those choices. BRAVO!!! well said coming from a lady who was adopted as well..im glad you had a happy childhood but like you said not all do and you hear of awful homes where the children are abused and raped..so how can that be a good choice to put a child in?? im not saying all homes are like that ..but it does happen we hear it on the news all the time..at the end of the day we ae entitled to m ake our own decisions which suit our own circumstances and no choice like that is an easy one either

blueeyedbarbie Joined Tue 01/22/08 Posts: 310	Sun 03/02/08 10:01 AM
I have a sister that was born with alot of medical problems. She was told from the begining that she would probably never be able to conceive. Right around June of 2005 she was going through a bunch of testing to be put on a double lung and liver transplant. Shortly after she started the testing she found out that she was 9 weeks pregnant. All of her doctors and specialist told her to abort the baby. My sister is another non beleiver in abortion. So because there were no signs of anything being wroung with the baby nor any life or death with her health at that present moment she told the doctors no way would she abort the baby! Lets just say that Brady is now two years old is a very healty baby ( even though he was 7 weeks early) My sister is also a year post op double lung and liver transplant and is doing awesome!

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Sun 03/02/08 10:07 AM
I have a sister that was born with alot of medical problems. She was told from the begining that she would probably never be able to conceive. Right around June of 2005 she was going through a bunch of testing to be put on a double lung and liver transplant. Shortly after she started the testing she found out that she was 9 weeks pregnant. All of her doctors and specialist told her to abort the baby. My sister is another non beleiver in abortion. So because there were no signs of anything being wroung with the baby nor any life or death with her health at that present moment she told the doctors no way would she abort the baby! Lets just say that Brady is now two years old is a very healty baby ( even though he was 7 weeks early) My sister is also a year post op double lung and liver transplant and is doing awesome! thats great news

DebbieJT Joined Mon 11/26/07 Posts: 10329	Sun 03/02/08 10:09 AM
debs sorry hun but disagree if you have a twelve year old havin sex that doesnt make them a adult and the same applys to any young girl around that age...peer pressure , fanscination, not been educated right.. and thinking they are adults all make up where they end up in a bad situation..but they are still children

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Sun 03/02/08 10:12 AM
in my opinion, the only exceptions for abortion are :- rape if the baby had some very bad medical condition, and the baby would have no quality of life, or would die when born anyway. if the pregnant ladies life is at risk, or she could die at the birth of the baby. and thats it. also if the mother is hiv posotive, theres many things they can do to stop the baby contracting hiv. the mothers and the babys blood dont mix while pregnant, and at the birth they take special precautions.

buffry Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 2647	Sun 03/02/08 10:12 AM
also if youve had unprotected sex, why dont they go to a doctor and get the morning after pill, you can even buy it over the counter here. all youve got to do is walk to a chemist. im sorry but theres NO excuses. So killing a child when it is a day old isnt murder huh? Some argue that one as well.