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Topic: Why do guys have to do all the work?
Unknow Joined Sat 12/15/07 Posts: 41170	Wed 02/27/08 11:08 AM
For Waterloo--- Thanks. As you probably know, I'm usually a bit of a clown, but this guy really irritated me. That was one of the most blatant stereotyping posts I've see.

caamken Joined Sat 09/01/07 Posts: 18287	Wed 02/27/08 11:08 AM
because once you start the relationship then us women have to do all the work... . good answer... LOL in most cases yes I agree. I still insist on doing mine and my daughters laundry and I still do the cooking when I'm in a relationship. And saturdays I clean the house anyways and yard work in the afternoon. But emotionally maybe women do alot more of the work yes. you do all that? marry me! lmao who else is gonna do all that for a single dad of a 9 y/o with primary custody? most of the men i know in that situation found a girlfriend to get to do it for them. i commend you for what you do darlin!!! Meh. its nothing I love my kid, spent over $30k on lawyers and legal fees and her mother has a wealthy family so it was nothing for her, but in the end it was evident to the judge who the child should be with and I think any man that wants to be called Father should deserve it through their actions. You have not even seen the hard part yet but good luck. That is great what you are doing now here is the question you have a 9 year old daughter (great) I am sure when she steps out of line you will make a comment that is not how a young lady should act. Or are you raising your daughter like she is a little boy. Then when she turns 15 are you going to tell to chase after the boys have sex do what she wants be the agresser

Cmigic Joined Sun 01/13/08 Posts: 532	Wed 02/27/08 11:15 AM
because once you start the relationship then us women have to do all the work... . good answer... LOL in most cases yes I agree. I still insist on doing mine and my daughters laundry and I still do the cooking when I'm in a relationship. And saturdays I clean the house anyways and yard work in the afternoon. But emotionally maybe women do alot more of the work yes. you do all that? marry me! lmao who else is gonna do all that for a single dad of a 9 y/o with primary custody? most of the men i know in that situation found a girlfriend to get to do it for them. i commend you for what you do darlin!!! Meh. its nothing I love my kid, spent over $30k on lawyers and legal fees and her mother has a wealthy family so it was nothing for her, but in the end it was evident to the judge who the child should be with and I think any man that wants to be called Father should deserve it through their actions. You have not even seen the hard part yet but good luck. That is great what you are doing now here is the question you have a 9 year old daughter (great) I am sure when she steps out of line you will make a comment that is not how a young lady should act. Or are you raising your daughter like she is a little boy. Then when she turns 15 are you going to tell to chase after the boys have sex do what she wants be the agresser NO WAY!! when I discipline her I actually tell her that "that's not how a (INSERT FAMILY NAME) acts," I also encourage her to do what she likes to do. She does ballet, plays guitar(OK that one is my fault after 30 years of playing and I teach out of my home too) but she approached my about learning Kung-Fu, so between her mother and I we pay for it all. She loves sci-fi and fantasy-fi, so I'll encourage her to read some of the greats like Isaac, and Robet H. but right now its stuff like The Hobbit and we have to read it together cause of the long words No all in all I'm raising my daughter to be the best person she can be. And also raising her to speak her mind, know the diffrence between right and wrong. So when she's ready to "make a move" sexually she'll hopefully do it with a) the right person b)for the right reasons c)when she is ready and comfortable, not pressured.

caamken Joined Sat 09/01/07 Posts: 18287	Wed 02/27/08 11:27 AM
because once you start the relationship then us women have to do all the work... . good answer... LOL in most cases yes I agree. I still insist on doing mine and my daughters laundry and I still do the cooking when I'm in a relationship. And saturdays I clean the house anyways and yard work in the afternoon. But emotionally maybe women do alot more of the work yes. you do all that? marry me! lmao who else is gonna do all that for a single dad of a 9 y/o with primary custody? most of the men i know in that situation found a girlfriend to get to do it for them. i commend you for what you do darlin!!! Meh. its nothing I love my kid, spent over $30k on lawyers and legal fees and her mother has a wealthy family so it was nothing for her, but in the end it was evident to the judge who the child should be with and I think any man that wants to be called Father should deserve it through their actions. You have not even seen the hard part yet but good luck. That is great what you are doing now here is the question you have a 9 year old daughter (great) I am sure when she steps out of line you will make a comment that is not how a young lady should act. Or are you raising your daughter like she is a little boy. Then when she turns 15 are you going to tell to chase after the boys have sex do what she wants be the agresser NO WAY!! when I discipline her I actually tell her that "that's not how a (INSERT FAMILY NAME) acts," I also encourage her to do what she likes to do. She does ballet, plays guitar(OK that one is my fault after 30 years of playing and I teach out of my home too) but she approached my about learning Kung-Fu, so between her mother and I we pay for it all. She loves sci-fi and fantasy-fi, so I'll encourage her to read some of the greats like Isaac, and Robet H. but right now its stuff like The Hobbit and we have to read it together cause of the long words No all in all I'm raising my daughter to be the best person she can be. And also raising her to speak her mind, know the diffrence between right and wrong. So when she's ready to "make a move" sexually she'll hopefully do it with a) the right person b)for the right reasons c)when she is ready and comfortable, not pressured. That is great but in my mind some what of a oxymoron from what you are asking for. I have read what you just posted and also do the same. But speaking your mind that is a fine line to cross with a 9 year old cause there is always a time and place. (I believe I understand your general statement)but to go up to a boy and ask him to do things..........I did not read. (and not like I would ever expect a 9 year old to date) But I am sure she has friends boys/girls in her class at school are you saying go ask Joe to come with all us to the pizza place and play video games or do you only take her little girl buddies and never approach the boys to go

QwicherBytchin Joined Sat 09/01/07 Posts: 1240	Wed 02/27/08 11:27 AM
From Dictionary.com Whinning: No results found for whinning. Whining: whine /ʰwaɪn, waɪn/ Pronunciation Key - Show Spelled Pronunciation[hwahyn, wahyn] Pronunciation Key - Show IPA Pronunciation verb, whined, whin·ing, noun –verb (used without object) 1. to utter a low, usually nasal, complaining cry or sound, as from uneasiness, discontent, peevishness, etc.: The puppies were whining from hunger. 2. to snivel or complain in a peevish, self-pitying way: He is always whining about his problems. –verb (used with object) 3. to utter with or as if with a whine: I whined my litany of complaints. –noun 4. a whining utterance, sound, or tone. 5. a feeble, peevish complaint. Yours, my dear..was a spelling error....whether american or canadian.

Jistme Joined Wed 10/31/07 Posts: 2991	Wed 02/27/08 11:33 AM Edited by Jistme on Wed 02/27/08 11:34 AM
And to the one who said women still make 40% less....whatever You seem to be ill informed. Other wise why would this line be in this document off of a government site? http://www.swc-cfc.gc.ca/cgi-bin/printview.pl?file=/pubs/0662327535/200209_0662327535_5_e.html Any time pay equity legislation is discussed, acknowledgment of the continuing economic inequality of Canadian women seems obligatory. Historically and currently, women earn less money than men and are significantly segregated in what have become most stereotypically defined as "women's jobs."12 Even when employed full time, the earnings of women in 1997 were only 73 percent of what men earned.13 Certainly, the wage gap between men and women is not entirely a factor of sex discrimination. Other variables are involved. Nonetheless, dominant understandings of this wage gap and of the gender segregation of the labour force give significant causal weight to the cumulative effect of systemic and persistent discrimination against women.14 Women's work is undervalued and the labour market suffers from gender-biased segmentation. Or this one? http://canadianlabour.ca/index.php/Pay_Equity This one too http://www.nawl.ca/ns/en/is-wmnwrk-pe.html Apparently there are a lot of people there that see the situation differently then you. 1st- I have no problem, I treat all women equally-equal to men we are only people after all. Yea.. Not too likely. After all.. you apparently believe that women getting paid 75 cents on the dollar is equal. 2nd-are you firggin blind arsehole? what in the world made you think I dont like women, I totally respect them, havent you been reading from the beginnig? I did! By the way you write, what you say? I pretty much came to the same conclusion. You are clearly upset about something! 3rd-it is Whinning in real (Oxford) english after all american english is an invention of Microsoft. You're not going to start that up are you? And beginnig is beginning. So? 4th- good for you for supporting you woman and the kids, Show the rest of them what real men should be. Bravo Zulu Actually? The only one I see here trying to prove anything? Is you. 5th-get off that damn high horse of your's you're not the only one out there who's put women on equal footing. Yep...agreed... But you probably aren't it. Lastly? I really hope you are trying to bring your daughter up right. However.. Kids are pretty intuitive and learn more from our actions then our words. I'm also hoping she learns from your actions..and comes to realize what she does not want.

caamken Joined Sat 09/01/07 Posts: 18287	Wed 02/27/08 11:37 AM
When it comes to picking up a woman, why is it that even with numbers about the same population-wise, guys have to do all the wooing, the courting and stuff. Why cant we go to a bar and have the women buy us drinks (after all they do make the same money in mose truely civilised countries now) why cant they use the pick up lines and embarrass themselves. Why cant we have the pick of who we want to take home, of who we want to start a relationship with etc...? WHY??? (and if there is a bar like that that isnt a male strip club----send me an email and let me know where it is ) so back to your initial comment you really want the truth...............it is not the womens(ladies) fault it goes like this. It is the mens fault cause most men are dogs they just want one thing then just leave them for the next victim tomorrow. Ladies are being selective cause they want the long term relationship and if us has men are not willing to work for it at the begining what makes them think we are going to work to make it last more than one night. The chase portion is our way of showing them we are willing to commit to them for the long term not just today

x3jcx3 Joined Tue 01/15/08 Posts: 63	Wed 02/27/08 12:48 PM
Why are men so much whinier now than the good old days when men were men??? CAUSE WOMEN ARE GETTING STRONGER AND MORE INDEPENDANT LIKE MEN USED TO BE SO MEN ARE TURNING INTO WOMEN....ITS A SHAME Im very independant but like someone else here said.....we end up doing most of the work........sooooooooooooooo you "men" are just going to have to SUCK IT UP!!! ok maybe what i said was a bit vague...(I AGREE WITH YOU ON THE EQUILIBRIUM, BECAUSE I LOVE TOO SEE WOMEN WHO HAVE A DRIVE AND PASSION TO BE SUCCESSFUL) but the women that i meet that are like that, tend to try and be controling and in a relationship "wanna have their cake and eat it too" maybe i just meet the wrong kinda woman :( haha

Jistme Joined Wed 10/31/07 Posts: 2991	Wed 02/27/08 01:10 PM
All I know is this... Anytime I find myself in a controlling or otherwise sick relationship. I get to assume some accountability in that. It is pretty easy to blame the other, or the other gender in it's entirety. That way.. I'd never have to address what ever it is that I put out there that attracts that type of person. The bad news is.. If I don't address it? I get to look forward to many more controlling and otherwise sick relationships.

countrybumpkin2u Joined Thu 02/21/08 Posts: 1238	Wed 02/27/08 01:13 PM
A man should almost always pay for everything So , does that mean your takin me out Mirror? Your treat ?

catchme_ifucan Joined Fri 11/03/06 Posts: 24221	Wed 02/27/08 01:14 PM Edited by catchme_ifucan on Wed 02/27/08 01:14 PM
***Rolls Eyes**** We got the boobs so we're in control! So put on your big boy pants & do your job!

countrybumpkin2u Joined Thu 02/21/08 Posts: 1238	Wed 02/27/08 01:28 PM
***Rolls Eyes**** We got the boobs so we're in control! So put on your big boy pants & do your job! I couldn't have said it better myself!

DebbieJT Joined Mon 11/26/07 Posts: 10329	Wed 02/27/08 01:33 PM
wait ok im confused with this first we have posts saying we are becoming more aggressive and acting more like men in our approach to life...why cant we be more lady like and genteel now we are suppose to be more forward and approach men ..urm when you men decide let me know what you want lol..not that i will listen anyhows lol

Cmigic Joined Sun 01/13/08 Posts: 532	Wed 02/27/08 01:34 PM
When it comes to picking up a woman, why is it that even with numbers about the same population-wise, guys have to do all the wooing, the courting and stuff. Why cant we go to a bar and have the women buy us drinks (after all they do make the same money in mose truely civilised countries now) why cant they use the pick up lines and embarrass themselves. Why cant we have the pick of who we want to take home, of who we want to start a relationship with etc...? WHY??? (and if there is a bar like that that isnt a male strip club----send me an email and let me know where it is ) so back to your initial comment you really want the truth...............it is not the womens(ladies) fault it goes like this. It is the mens fault cause most men are dogs they just want one thing then just leave them for the next victim tomorrow. Ladies are being selective cause they want the long term relationship and if us has men are not willing to work for it at the begining what makes them think we are going to work to make it last more than one night. The chase portion is our way of showing them we are willing to commit to them for the long term not just today Well said.

TxsGal3333 Joined Tue 09/05/06 Posts: 76392	Wed 02/27/08 01:34 PM
Why are men so much whinier now than the good old days when men were men??? Hummm huhhh girl nailed that one. Honestly I have bought drinks paid for the meal ect. Myself I would rather things just happen naturally by talking first. Besides if your talking bars here then we not talking relationships seems it is all about getting more then just getting to know them is what they are after. So if you expect them to put out they expect you to have to do something in the long run. That is why I don't do the bar scene shshhssh always wanting something for nothing they don't most of the time want to get to know the person just what they can get for the night.