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Topic: Maybe the age difference?
LIJOMA Joined Wed 01/09/08 Posts: 2591	Wed 02/13/08 01:17 PM
I started seeing this man that just turned 25, and I will be 30 this month. Long story short, we had tons of things in common, and I was in to him all the way, but then..... He texted me one morning, What up, instead of Goodmorning or How are you. I honestly do not know why he did this, but it completely turned me off totally towards him and I have not spoken to him since that happened. I know that I am not that much older than him, but I am more settled then him. I have children, a house, a truck note, major bills, great job, etc.... to where he has a motor cycle, and a roomate in a apt., and he is a Army Reserve. Did I over react to what he said (texted)? Then I thought that because I have bi-racial children, that maybe he said that to me because he thought I would not mind (He is white). Or was it the age difference? I am probably the oldest almost 30 year old I know, but I think that maybe I over reacted. What do you think?

soxfan94 Joined Mon 05/28/07 Posts: 3384	Wed 02/13/08 01:19 PM Edited by soxfan94 on Wed 02/13/08 01:20 PM
let me get this straight...after lots of good experiences and mutual interests, he texted you "what up" and you refused to even talk to him again? You thought he did it because maybe you "wouldn't mind it"?? What would you mind or not mind about the phrase "what up"? For all you know, maybe he just forgot the 's' anyway! I'm white and not gangsta but I say "what up" sometimes...so do my friends occasionally. I don't see the problem.

QwicherBytchin Joined Sat 09/01/07 Posts: 1240	Wed 02/13/08 01:20 PM
WOW...I think you over reacted a ton. And...after being so into him...you suddenly point out all the differences? Where these stewing in the back of your mind and you decided that "What up" was a perfect excuse to kick him to the curb? Amazing.

s1ngleredrose84 Joined Fri 12/07/07 Posts: 420	Wed 02/13/08 01:21 PM
LIJOMA I completely think it is him being 25. I am 23 and well 'what's up' just seems to be the lingo of the generation. I catch myself saying it to my friends when they call me. I wouldn't take it too much to heart. maybe talk to him about it? either way good luck!

thatonegirl05 Joined Sun 09/16/07 Posts: 1355	Wed 02/13/08 01:22 PM
maybe he was just making conversation?.. you definitely overreacted, a lot!

shoes4rhon Joined Sat 02/02/08 Posts: 3411	Wed 02/13/08 01:22 PM
which one of you was younger ??

LIJOMA Joined Wed 01/09/08 Posts: 2591	Wed 02/13/08 01:22 PM
Yes that is correct. What up to me was not appropriate to say to someone when they first wake up in the morning. This is why I put the post online, because I have been thinking that I did over react to what was texted, and I do kind of feel bad. I just know that I would not send that to someone first thing in the morning, just like at night I would tell some one goodnight, not What up.

QwicherBytchin Joined Sat 09/01/07 Posts: 1240	Wed 02/13/08 01:23 PM
LIJOMA I completely think it is him being 25. I am 23 and well 'what's up' just seems to be the lingo of the generation. I catch myself saying it to my friends when they call me. I wouldn't take it too much to heart. maybe talk to him about it? either way good luck! Hell, I'm 41 and I say "What up?"

soxfan94 Joined Mon 05/28/07 Posts: 3384	Wed 02/13/08 01:23 PM
which one of you was younger ?? Comon shoes, RTP! "this man that just turned 25, and I will be 30 this month. "

Gypsy41 Joined Tue 05/15/07 Posts: 123359	Wed 02/13/08 01:23 PM
wut up = whats happening??? Its just slang......I think there are other "issues" here not just a bit of slang...

CATBW56 Joined Tue 02/20/07 Posts: 7224	Wed 02/13/08 01:23 PM
think it was a major over reaction

DTHRomeo Joined Wed 06/20/07 Posts: 43387	Wed 02/13/08 01:24 PM
I always say "Waz Up"? Is that wrong?

TristanBru Joined Thu 12/27/07 Posts: 494	Wed 02/13/08 01:24 PM
No wonder, why I'm single.

soxfan94 Joined Mon 05/28/07 Posts: 3384	Wed 02/13/08 01:24 PM
Yes that is correct. What up to me was not appropriate to say to someone when they first wake up in the morning. This is why I put the post online, because I have been thinking that I did over react to what was texted, and I do kind of feel bad. I just know that I would not send that to someone first thing in the morning, just like at night I would tell some one goodnight, not What up. I don't think it's necessarily incorrect to think that you would like a more heartfelt text in the mornings, but at the same time I don't think it warrants not speaking to him. Mention to him that you were hoping for something a little sweeter.

QwicherBytchin Joined Sat 09/01/07 Posts: 1240	Wed 02/13/08 01:24 PM
Yes that is correct. What up to me was not appropriate to say to someone when they first wake up in the morning. This is why I put the post online, because I have been thinking that I did over react to what was texted, and I do kind of feel bad. I just know that I would not send that to someone first thing in the morning, just like at night I would tell some one goodnight, not What up. So...are you looking for someone just like you? Or is a person not supposed to have their own individuality? He texted you in the morning...and you complain because of what it said....my response......qwicherbytchin.

thatonegirl05 Joined Sun 09/16/07 Posts: 1355	Wed 02/13/08 01:25 PM
Night and day are different things, when someone is going to bed, you do say goodnight you don't ask them what's up, because you know what they're doing.. My bestfriend texts me every morning saying "Hey, what's up?" I don't get why you took so much offense to that, maybe it is because you're a bit older.. But my mom is older than you, and I say that to her whenever she calls..

sexi_PHAT Joined Fri 02/01/08 Posts: 1301	Wed 02/13/08 01:26 PM
I started seeing this man that just turned 25, and I will be 30 this month. Long story short, we had tons of things in common, and I was in to him all the way, but then..... He texted me one morning, What up, instead of Goodmorning or How are you. I honestly do not know why he did this, but it completely turned me off totally towards him and I have not spoken to him since that happened. I know that I am not that much older than him, but I am more settled then him. I have children, a house, a truck note, major bills, great job, etc.... to where he has a motor cycle, and a roomate in a apt., and he is a Army Reserve. Did I over react to what he said (texted)? Then I thought that because I have bi-racial children, that maybe he said that to me because he thought I would not mind (He is white). Or was it the age difference? I am probably the oldest almost 30 year old I know, but I think that maybe I over reacted. What do you think? Sorry...but i think you overreacted too...i am 32 and i say what up....no big deal..

LIJOMA Joined Wed 01/09/08 Posts: 2591	Wed 02/13/08 01:26 PM
I have a 13 year old son, and I hope that he, when he gets older, does not text or say, What up, to a lady of interest under any circumstances. I have been thinking about it though because I did enjoy his company, so I think that I will call him and see how he has been doing lately. Maybe even say, What up, when he answers the phone.

shoes4rhon Joined Sat 02/02/08 Posts: 3411	Wed 02/13/08 01:27 PM Edited by shoes4rhon on Wed 02/13/08 01:28 PM
which one of you was younger ?? Comon shoes, RTP! "this man that just turned 25, and I will be 30 this month. " I was being sarcastic , I would think that by age thirty and kids you would realize 2 things... 1. everyone is not you - you might not say that but obvously he did and 2. You talked about how great he was and if the worst thing about him is he said what up then Jeesh .. come on you should know better by now ....

revolution Joined Wed 04/25/07 Posts: 489	Wed 02/13/08 01:27 PM
some times I say wassup