Ok this new thread is for all who this has happen to.

GUYS AND GIRLS WHY WHY WHY WHY WHY

Ok this is a dating site....right

And Men and Women come to look for their perfect partner or relationship......right

And since I am married, I am not in the mix.....but here is my beef from talking to countless girlfriends who have gone through this and I just don't get it...

So maybe a few of the real men can answer this.


WHY ALL THE LYING, WHY ALL THE DECEIT

Why do men

a. lie about jobs?

b. lie about what they have?

c. lie about calling?
(because they never do when they say they are going to)

d. lie about being married?


WHAT IS THE PURPOSE OF COMING ON A DATING SITE TO FIND YOUR SOULMATE AND THEN JUST LIE ABOUT EVERYTHING....

This really needs to be answered.......

Dying to hear this one

Some of us don't do that though. But overall I do agree with you. I can't stand it myself...gives me a bad name even though I don't do it.

? should also be in fairness to men why do women do all the above also

Perhaps it's the competitive environment. I totally agree with you - be upfront about everything...

but a dating site, to me, is a way to Meet people... I feel (and this is from experience) one should decide if the person is a soulmate until they've spent some actual time (not virtual time) with them...

Who knows but its not just guys there are women on here that do it too.

Gettin the popcorn

i dont have an answer for u sry but i do agree with u that men do lye on here which makes no sense at all but ive seen the ladies do it as well so theres no tellin!!

desperation,yes im a real man with female friends

Ya ..... and world peace is just around the corner too

sorry, meant to fix a typo

Actually, I agree, I don't think it's just a guy thing, a lot of women do it to. Me, I'm completely upfront about everything, what you see here is what you get.

when u figure out the answer let me kno!

First off, not all guys lie... I never lie to those I date. I know Id rather know the truth, even if it hurts me, so I always tell the truth because that's what I would want. And as for the calling thing...I call every time I say I will. And if for some reason I cant, Ill txt or call really quick just to say Ill call later.

But here is a question for the ladies. Why is it so many girls want a nice guy, but when they get them, they find them overwhelming or something. The last girl I dated actually COMPLAINED when I called when I said I would. She wasnt use to guys calling, so it caught her off gaurd and told me it was going to take her a while to "adjust"...

totally agree.....what I don't get is how would you ever find your soulmate if all your doing is lying....I have a real beef with that....If someone is themselves and totally honest on both men and womens parts they would actually not have to worry about getting out of the lies in the first place. Which would then free them up to find the real deal.

Ok sister here goes... Some men are deceitful because they try to impress women with what they have like cars houses or their anatomy. But the truth will always come out. I personaly do not care what a man does for a living or what type of car he owns. What does impress me is that he is clean, respectful and does work. I think funny is good too. And last but not least be truthful and a woman will like you for you.

I dont do that I feel the same way you do about it

Well I LOVE knowing my guy is thinking about me, so ya .. not all of us freak out about that babe.

It shouldn't be ? just limited to men why does anyone lie about their personl state in life.........why does anyone feel the need to potray themselves as something else and better ? yet why is anyone dumb enough to believe you can truly fall in love with words on a screen or a voice on a phone till you've actually met and spent an extended period of time with someone your falling for an idea and image you've created in your mind