Ah, okay. I haven't read any of her posts other than this thread.

if you click on the number next to her posts...you can see it all.

Did not know that -- thanks!

Okay, after reading all of Mary's posts (which I didn't know I could do!) Here is my assessment, take it or leave it:

First, you've already said that you have experienced your 6 month old around another 2 year old, and that things were crazy and you felt overwhelmed. You also have wondered if it's wrong to want some time to yourself. No, it's not, but if you are feeling overwhelmed with one, can you handle two kids at your age?

Secondly, you've got a lot of baby daddy drama. It doesn't sound like either relationship is really all that healthy, and if you've only known the guy since October, the chance that a marriage would work out is pretty slim.

I hate to sound skeptical and pessimistic, but you asked for help.

ok here it is i was never with my daughters father i got raped at a party he's 24.

my boyfriend i have known him for 4 years and we were together then he left for the army so we took a break he just got back and decided to be together again.

my daughters faTHER DECIDED HE WOULD GIVE HIS daughter up.

I didn't realize a rapist would have right s to begin with.Thats f!@#ked.Seriously though children bring a new dynamic to things.I would see how your relationship is going and give everyone time to gell as a family before adding anymore members.Good Luck.

How do you support the one child you already have? I know how expensive children are and chose to complete my education and get a good job before having my first child at 25. I didn't have another until I was 30 (took me that long to forget how painful it was!)

im a supervisor at a store. so i make okay money. i live with my parents for now they watch my daughter while im at work and im on WIC so i have the state help me buy formula

How do your parents feel about you having another baby? You would also be impacting THEIR life. They have a right to a life of their own. They paid their dues.

BTW, your daughter is beautiful.
Enjoy her. She will only be young once.

Yeah, kids are expensive. And while you appear to be able to manage things with one kid, could you with another? Smiles is right, if your parents are watching your kid now, it's going to have a big impact on their life, too.

Something is just not right about this, it stink's of BS drama to me

Yeah, me too.

BS? I don't think so. Immature drama? Definitely. Unfortunately when you have children making grown up decisions, this is what we get.

Dont rush in to having another a baby enjoy your daughter while she is small cause once you have another child it takes away from being able to have the quality time to spend with her. The reason i know is because my boys are 19 months apart and i never got to have the quality time with my first child. Wait until she is about 2 before you have another one. And yes now days it is very expensive to raise a child. I have 3 and they are to expensive

I don't mean to sound mean, babe, but if you are asking for advice on whether or not to have a child, the answer should be not now.
When it is the right time and you are ready, you will know it and not have a doubt in your mind! You're young...you have losts of time ...don't ever rush into anything you are unsure of that might harm someone else(the children).
Just my opinion.....
I wish you all the best!

I think you're getting pretty much unanimous advice here...

ok so im not gonna have a baby. im to young to have two kids to take care of... i probably am still imature. but im growing up. its hard i tell ya but hey im in college to so another baby isn't a good idea at the moment

Mary,
That is a very mature thing to admit!
Do well in school and make your litle one proud of you! Be the best mom you can be to the one you ahve and in time you will ahve a bigger family when the timingis better.
Best of luck!!!!

consider your finances i'd wait for him to adopt your 1st kid and make sure he marries u 1st