Best advice I can give is meet in a very public place. Do not ride with
them when you leave your meeting spot as this still give you an easy way
out as you have your car. By this time you should have a better feel for
the person and you can use you judgement from then on.

I like meeting at the local Waffle House as it is located on the
intersection of the 2 highways through town and you can talk over a
drink(coffee/soda). Here you can decide what to do if it was not planned
out before hand. For me it was going to the mid day movie. She insisted
we take her car and this is why I added take your own car to the next
spot and I found out she was married. I wanted out of the date then but
had to wait till I could get back to my car. So much for my only try at
dating since the ex left.

i've hooked up with somebody online and now....... we have a beautiful
son together!!

Humm I meet three of my ex boyfriends here online in person and other
friends too.....that problem is that some people like you fine while
they are chating with you online but once they know you in person is a
different story....some people also lie to you to the point that once
you meet them in person they are that ones in the picture they send....

I have met I would say 5 online and this next guy he mmight be a
keeper:)

Have never met anyone in person that I met online.
NO ONE SEEMS TO BE FROM MY AREA!!!
I've made plenty of friends tho
so that's all cool.

the ones I would really like to meet are always too far away, the couple
that I have met were total Richard Craniums. But like Jimi, I've made
some friends I enjoy talking with. I don't know, maybe I'm too picky.
Seems I always find something wrong with them. Too nice, too short, too
poor, too needy, too bald, too boring...something...My mother always
used to say there was a pot for every lid...I'm thinking maybe she was
wrong and I'm just a lidless pot.

J

I've met a couple people from online before. One was a positive
experience and we had a shot at working out, but I was east coast, she
was west coast and we both had jobs that forced us to stay put for more
then two years. So rather then let a good thing die a slow, lingering
death by long distance over so long, we decided to part as really good
friends.

Now my other experience? That wasn't so good. She swore up and down she
was a recent divorcee, therefore single. So I come to stay for a few
days and when I first get there, everything is good. Then that evening
when we're sitting around talking, this guy just walks in and doesn't
say a word, but gives me thing crazy evil glare before heading to the
back room. I ask her is that some room mate she forgot to mention and
reluctantly she tells me that's her husband and they aren't really
divorced yet. So I ask her isn't kind of weird to be trying to get
involved with someone else while the husband she's seperated from is
still living with her, right? And then she tells me that to be honest,
they aren't really seperated either, and then has the nuts to ask me if
I would tell her husband that I'm just a friend and nothing more that
she met from online. I told her that was no problem because she would be
lucky if we were ever even that much after her deciet.

So, for my efforts of trying to find a good woman to maybe have a real
relationship with, I instead got treated to a very, very awkward and
tense 4 day visit then ended with the husband finally being fed up and
flat out accusing his wife on cheating with me, and her instead of
smartly denying it decides to admit to it, thereby causing a very
colorful domestic incedent that had the local police visiting the house
and almost dragging me off to jail with the fighting couple. Oy
vey...-=x

Wow, those are some amazing stories. Some even a little scary. I think
you definately have to be careful but everything in life is a risk.
I haven't met anyone yet and have been on line for about 3 months. I'll
keep trying though. Like some of the others, I have met some intersting
people but they live so far away.

I met one named jessie when I lived in alabama but it didn't work otu
cause i moved back to nc..Have met a few on here I like alot they know
who they are..Most people on here are really cool and understanding..But
over all I think this is just a hangout..not a dating place..Thanx WILL

I met this one guy, who I really likde he was such a hottie and we had
so much in common and he even laughed at my jokes we had a lot of
fun...We seemed so compatible...but every time we went somewhere he wore
these broken down shoes...The sole would flop in the back like a flip
flop...it's so funny looking back on it now...even tho he could afford
to buy all the shoes he wanted he always wore these broken down shoes!!
So like we would be somewhere, to a movie, the store, even a fancy
resaurant, anywhere we went and you would hear flip flop, flip flop...I
couldn't take it anymore!! I asked him several times, please don't wear
those with me...buy a new pair wear something different..it's
embarrasing people look at you then they look at me. I'm not shallow
honestly, but I couldn't take it...he wouldn't do something about the
shoes so he had to go!

C'mon guys...lets have a little class when you are out with your
woman...


J

That is total comedy. Now I am cracking up....lol!
I have to admit, shoes are important. Especially to your feet! lol

He was a sweetie too...but my god!! One of our last dates was at Red
Lobster, he drove a teal blue cadilac, and dressed so nice that night
and we walked in and all I heard was

flip,flop...I knew then it was never going to work...

J

I have heard of some interesting turn offs as far as sounds go, ie:
burping, farting, off key singing.... but have never heard of flipping
flopping shoes. You win.

c'mon jane, you're making sound like the two of you were perfect and
you broke it off because he had a broke down pair of shoes, you aren't
really like that are you?

Well it sounds like she told him several times how she felt about the
flip floppity shoes. I would take that as a major hint if I was him and
for her a red flag for future situations.

I'm not in highschool anymore KB...that may have been acceptable at that
point in my life! As of last Wednesday I turned 40. I've grown up a
lot and prefer a man who has some class...It may sound funny, but it was
extremely embarassing and was a relection on me....Yea, I want to bust
my ass looking great for somebody and pulling out all the stops to be
attractive and desirable and I'm dating a guy that can't wear a decent
pair of shoes to a semi-formal dinner? Please...and you are right
Wendy, we did talk about it...and I tried to be as nice and polite about
it as I could. When we were in private that was one thing...when we
were out that was another and yea we dated for some time...it wasn't
like I threw him out after a couple of dates just because of the shoes.
It became an issue so the rest is history...

J

i have met alot of people off the net.I am not scared nor worried about
anything.no difference then meeting them from the bar or coffee house or
a restaurant.Y not?

A knew a woman's shoes were very important to her, but I had no idea the
guy's shoes were equally as important...Jeez, we guys are screwed twice
over due to women and shoes! -=x

The freaking heal was not attached to the rest of the shoe!!! That's why
it flipped and flopped!! so it wasn't like they were just ugly - and if
he was so cheap or so lazy he wouldn't do something about it...well like
Wendy said, it may have been foresight of things to come!

So you mean to tell me guys, if you were with a woman that wore
something distasteful to you that you wouldn't be turned off by it?

J

Might the relationship have been saved had you taken him by the hand,
walked him into the nearest payless shoe store and offered to purchase
him a decent pair of shoes??