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Does the break up of one relationship make us harder to get closer to for the next person we would like to have a relationship with for fear of the same thing happening,
do we put up walls to keep people out or to find out if that person cares enough to break them down?. |
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In my case
YES YES and YES. I hate to say this, but I am scared to death to start dating again. It has been almost 25 years so where do I even begin. 
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Edited by
JH1
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Wed 01/30/08 04:46 PM
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I think so. I think that there is the fear of the unknown factor and the fear for women of finding out the guy of their dreams turns out to be a psycho. I believe women do have to be more careful nowadays.
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Breaking up,
its the action of which one or maybe both see that things will not work out for one or more reasons, will it make one stronger? or will we create wall between new encounters? they both depend on the person and their past dealing with relationships, it will be a half and half for people sometimes aswell, booth maybe happen after another ^^" but what do I know, its just a thought expressed (never really had a real relationship, so I cant say anything for sure) |
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Yes.we do put up walls,at least I do.
everyone use to tell me I was such a sweetheart. 1 really bad break up and I dont trust girls the same. you have no idea how often Im called a a$$hole,I dont try to be. its just that I dont let girls inside my head anymore. I wont go thru that again,but maybe thats way Im still single |
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Does the break up of one relationship make us harder to get closer to for the next person we would like to have a relationship with for fear of the same thing happening, do we put up walls to keep people out or to find out if that person cares enough to break them down?. I think it depends on the circumstances of the relationship and how you deal with it. |
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Yes, tougher without question..I have learned so much and know what I want and wont just settle
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Exactly. Nice way to put it.
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Yes.we do put up walls,at least I do. everyone use to tell me I was such a sweetheart. 1 really bad break up and I dont trust girls the same. you have no idea how often Im called a a$$hole,I dont try to be. its just that I dont let girls inside my head anymore. I wont go thru that again,but maybe thats way Im still single This was a nice way to put it. New at this 
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Yes.we do put up walls,at least I do. everyone use to tell me I was such a sweetheart. 1 really bad break up and I dont trust girls the same. you have no idea how often Im called a a$$hole,I dont try to be. its just that I dont let girls inside my head anymore. I wont go thru that again,but maybe thats way Im still single You may still be single, BUT you wont get taken advantage of or possibly hurt because of failure in expectations...Good qoute |
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Yes here too. But i try not to judge the guy just because my last relationship ended badly, but its hard.
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I always tell myself "Everybody is different, and it's not fair to judge someone based on other people from the past."
But it's hard not to carry some residue from former bad experiences.... I think it does make you a little less open sometimes.... |
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I say yes, because were so afraid to open up the heart again, to be squashed again. Its hard you want to feel the good part of being in Love, but it hurts so bad when they crush your heart.
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It's pretty much human nature for some of us. I mean we put up walls and feel the need to defend ourselves for the simple fact that not only do we feel veunerable but just the thought of going through the same thing haunts us.
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I would agree that this does happen, its very hard to get close to someone else after a relationship. I know when ladies have bad relationships it will affect how they view the next guy who comes along...Which is perfectly normal. I know due to my bad relationship i am on guard more then i used to be.
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I work hard on being "right" with me. If a woman wants to come along for the "ride" and make a "We" so be it. I will meet her in the middle. Been divorced for 9 years, still get bad vibes from women who try to get too close. Problem is, most women won't meet you in the middle. Fend for yourself, so to speak.
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Yessssssssssssssssss
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Yes, tougher without question..I have learned so much and know what I want and wont just settle |
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I believe it has made me more cautious now.
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Yes, I hate to say it but it does happen.
When someone's heart is broken, they are more causious before you give that heart away again. |
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