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Topic: flirting and compliments?
willy_cents Joined Sat 07/14/07 Posts: 4471	Sat 01/26/08 09:42 PM
First of all, I am an incurable flirt. I will flirt with and/or compliment any lady, from 20 to 90. Well, I went to dinner tonight with my son. At the table next to us was a pair of ladies, one about 25, the other about 35. I was “flirting” with them, not suggestively, and complimented the older one on how well her light green sweater looked with her green eyes. OMG!!! Wrong thing to do. She ripped into me about being a sexist s.o.b., insulted my ancestry and my fatherhood with words I hardly expected so loud in a restaurant, demanded their bill, and over the complaints of the other lady about not finishing their dinner, insisted that they leave. After they left. My son(30) and I discussed women, compliments, and flirting. Our non-scientific analysis from our own personal experience was that the vast majority of women, say, under about 30, and women over about 50, respond “favorably” to flirting and compliments. Of those between those ages, at least half either ignore it, or are downright rude in their response. Is there a period of time in life when ladies do not want male attention or do they not want compliments on their appearance or what? In retrospect, in my discussion tonight, realized that I avoid flirting/complimenting ladies in that mid-range age because of the negativity of so many responses. Any insight available on this that might help me understand?

BetterDazes Joined Wed 01/23/08 Posts: 710	Sat 01/26/08 09:45 PM
Hey I have a green sweater and green eyes and you can tell me I look good in it any time. Don't lump us altogether ok? That woman obviously has some other troubles in her life. For what it is worth, I always can use some stroking, nothing like feeling pretty and sexy ya know. Keep it up!

southern_bee Joined Sun 07/29/07 Posts: 4812	Sat 01/26/08 09:45 PM
damn she needed some midol

Medic_Ronnie Joined Sun 09/16/07 Posts: 221	Sat 01/26/08 09:46 PM
You should have told her the sweater looks even better now with the flared nostrils,smoke exiting her ears and the nice red tint showing in her eyes!! now thats telling them something.

MsTeddyBear2u Joined Fri 04/06/07 Posts: 22031	Sat 01/26/08 09:46 PM
I would say the lady over reacted... You were complimenting her.

Jim519 Joined Thu 12/27/07 Posts: 9203	Sat 01/26/08 09:47 PM
She has issues, no question...I wouldnt take it personal. She is the one that has to go through life being miserable and unhappy....Keep doing your thing by spreading the cheer

IndnPrncs Joined Sun 11/04/07 Posts: 58420	Sat 01/26/08 09:48 PM
maybe she was a lesbian... Wow, I usually just say thank you and blush... Then again maybe you gave her the que she wanted to try for a free dinner....

Woni Joined Wed 01/09/08 Posts: 79	Sat 01/26/08 09:48 PM
Over reaction all the way on her part. Keep the compliments coming.

Moondark Joined Tue 11/27/07 Posts: 5866	Sat 01/26/08 09:48 PM
Yeah, something else probably had her going already, and it probably had something to do with a man. And for some reason, you tipped her right over the edge. It happens sometimes. It probably wasn't really you at all. It was just a trigger from whatever else was going on in her life and she exploded. She overreacted. I don't know any woman that doesn't like some kind of compliment or other. Unless they are really mad at men over something at that given time.

hikerchick Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 13206	Sat 01/26/08 09:49 PM
hhmmmm..it's too long of a time span to blame it all on menopause... I am 50 and you can pile on the praise, babe. I need all I can get.

trying_to_fly Joined Thu 10/05/06 Posts: 6258	Sat 01/26/08 09:49 PM
First of all, I am an incurable flirt. I will flirt with and/or compliment any lady, from 20 to 90. Well, I went to dinner tonight with my son. At the table next to us was a pair of ladies, one about 25, the other about 35. I was “flirting” with them, not suggestively, and complimented the older one on how well her light green sweater looked with her green eyes. OMG!!! Wrong thing to do. She ripped into me about being a sexist s.o.b., insulted my ancestry and my fatherhood with words I hardly expected so loud in a restaurant, demanded their bill, and over the complaints of the other lady about not finishing their dinner, insisted that they leave. After they left. My son(30) and I discussed women, compliments, and flirting. Our non-scientific analysis from our own personal experience was that the vast majority of women, say, under about 30, and women over about 50, respond “favorably” to flirting and compliments. Of those between those ages, at least half either ignore it, or are downright rude in their response. Is there a period of time in life when ladies do not want male attention or do they not want compliments on their appearance or what? In retrospect, in my discussion tonight, realized that I avoid flirting/complimenting ladies in that mid-range age because of the negativity of so many responses. Any insight available on this that might help me understand? Man brother, sounds like you caught her on a bad day. Don't let her fool you. Sounds like she had some issues and they needed some attention. Be yourself and don't change because of one bad seed.

nuenjins Joined Mon 10/29/07 Posts: 1046	Sat 01/26/08 09:49 PM Edited by nuenjins on Sat 01/26/08 09:50 PM
I think it is our culture. Being abrasive is commended as a sign of false strength and independance. Grace is somthing of an old fashioned virtue that doesn't provide the instant gratification that insult does to steal a persons energy. Negative energy is much easier to produce when positivity takes work and purpose. Humility and kindness take work and our culture has gotten so bad that even the women spout off as juvenile boys would do. It's a shame. Good, kind, gentle women are rare.

SadieJ Joined Wed 02/07/07 Posts: 1873	Sat 01/26/08 09:49 PM
She obviously has issues...

hikerchick Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 13206	Sat 01/26/08 09:50 PM
maybe she was a lesbian... Wow, I usually just say thank you and blush... Then again maybe you gave her the que she wanted to try for a free dinner.... Lesbians like compliments, too.

JaceKnows Joined Mon 11/12/07 Posts: 5110	Sat 01/26/08 09:50 PM
Never, ever, compliment a lady that's sitting across the booth from you at a Chuck E. Cheese. There's your first lesson. (=

hikerchick Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 13206	Sat 01/26/08 09:50 PM
I think it is our culture. Being abrasive is commended as a sign of false strength and independance. Grace is somthing of an old fashioned vitue that doesn't provide the instant gratification that insult does to steal a persons energy. Negative energy is much easier to produce when positivity takes work and purpose. Humility and kindness take work and our culture has gotten so bad that even the women spout off as juvenile boys would do. It's a shame. Good, kind, gentle women are rare. true..but we exist.

catchme_ifucan Joined Fri 11/03/06 Posts: 24221	Sat 01/26/08 09:51 PM Edited by catchme_ifucan on Sat 01/26/08 09:52 PM
(((((((Willy)))))) Your weiner is lookin cute tonight! Sounds like she needed a BJ!

TxsGal3333 Joined Tue 09/05/06 Posts: 76392	Sat 01/26/08 09:52 PM
damn she needed some midol Damnit I don't think the midol would have helped her shshshs Shshshshh hell I love it when a man says something nice even the flirting shshsh makes ya feel good to have someone notice you. Shshshssh she needs to get a life she will wish as the years goes by and they get less and less that she had been a bit nicer.

dcrdnk Joined Wed 08/15/07 Posts: 5094	Sat 01/26/08 09:52 PM
I also flirt w/all the ladies. I never ran into that prob. I would say she was off her meds

IndnPrncs Joined Sun 11/04/07 Posts: 58420	Sat 01/26/08 09:54 PM
maybe she was a lesbian... Wow, I usually just say thank you and blush... Then again maybe you gave her the que she wanted to try for a free dinner.... Lesbians like compliments, too. True darling but not always by men and the sexist comment seemed overboard..