Topic: Don't wanna be a mom anymore.
SharonM45458's photo
Tue 01/22/08 12:37 PM



I never said I was perfect. I am far from it.


But I don't go on sites and whine about how much I want to give up on my children!!!
I was just looking for support. You are quite the judgemental person.


No, sorry. I am not judgemental. There are just somethings that burn me, and this is one of them. I am sorry that I didn't fall all over you and say that you are such the perfect parent, blah, blah, blah. I am not an uncaring person either. But each and everyone of us have things that just make us really angry. If we didn't, I don't think we would be human.
And each of us have things that make us hurt and reach out for support. If we didnn't, I don't think we would be human.

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Tue 01/22/08 12:40 PM
Maybe we all need to really think about how we are going to find the right wording for a thread before saying it the wrong way? That way nobody comes across as the uncaring, heartless person that we both know the other one isn't?

luv4only1man's photo
Tue 01/22/08 12:53 PM
STOP! Do not do anything else! Do not start dating! Do not waste time on ANYTHING else except getting yourself together so that you can take care of your child the way he deserves to be taken care of. And the ONLY way to do that is to take care of YOU! You need to be seeing a counselor, you need some support whether family, community, friends etc.
I think you are in danger of being overwhelmed and that can have disastrous repercussions for you and your child.
You are not at a time in your life to be starting a new relationship. Go get some help and get whole first. A friend.

itsmetina's photo
Tue 01/22/08 01:19 PM
this lady needed to vent and i hope she can pull through somepeople cant afford doctors and all that you know

cutelildevilsmom's photo
Tue 01/22/08 01:30 PM
Hey we all have tough days.I have anxiety panic disorser and sometimes things get overwhelming.My son has adhd so sometimes things are rocky.Hook yourself up with a good counselor and remember teenagers are hormonal also.I'm sure you would never give up your son but we all have helpless moments.


cutelildevilsmom's photo
Tue 01/22/08 01:34 PM

Maybe we all need to really think about how we are going to find the right wording for a thread before saying it the wrong way? That way nobody comes across as the uncaring, heartless person that we both know the other one isn't?

The kids eighteen and unless he is mentally difficent in someway he should help around the house and show some manners .I think she worded her frustration and feelings just fine.Everyone gets overwhelmed even you .she didnt sound heartless she sounded like she was in pain.

TheLonelyWalker's photo
Tue 01/22/08 01:49 PM
make the guy use a condom next time or refrain from having sex.
now you have your kid make the best of him, and quit whinning.
You weren't whining when you got the baby on your womb.
Kids are always a blessing.

Dragoness's photo
Tue 01/22/08 01:56 PM

make the guy use a condom next time or refrain from having sex.
now you have your kid make the best of him, and quit whinning.
You weren't whining when you got the baby on your womb.
Kids are always a blessing.


Gotta love these men who do not admonish the father for having stuck it in without protection and run off to the other side of the world and create their own life, leaving the mom and child to face the world alone. He wasn't whining (well maybe not) when he got her pregnant either but he sure isn't the one dealing with it now is he?

Girl, we are stronger then these men anyway, so just take good care of yourself so you can then raise a man that hopefully will use protection when he has sex in the future so not to do this to another woman. You can do it. These moment of hopelessness, reach out to family or friends that can give you positive support and make it work. You will be able to do it.

TheLonelyWalker's photo
Tue 01/22/08 02:00 PM
making a baby always takes two. Unless it's a rape. Then it has a mitigating circumstance. Other than that, it's always a matter of two consenting adults.

rpwolff's photo
Tue 01/22/08 09:57 PM
people, hats the deal. This lady was at a weak point, needing a few words of encouragement, and now your talking smack about her. I'm sorry; I don't get it.

RunWildWithMe's photo
Wed 01/23/08 08:47 AM
Edited by RunWildWithMe on Wed 01/23/08 08:48 AM
Honey, i know exactly what you are going through..i raised my 24 yr old by myself...i supposed to marry him, but getting pregnant out of the blue (i was on the pill & using condoms) was too much of a reality check and he left...life goes on..then with my 12 yr. old...i married him, got pregnant and at six months he was shot and killed...i promised myself i would never raise another child ALONE...but guess what life goes on it waits for no one...i understand your depression and pain and needing support and to vent...im writing this so you will know that you are not alone nor are you to be judge...you need to get counseling and dig deep honey...the courage and strength you need is in there...and praying helps...there were days with both kids i actually wanted to drive my car off a bridge, run it into a pylon or just drive for like 2 hours, get out and disappear...pray what i did..every nite before you got to bed.. "God, give me strength" just saying it makes you want to get it together and move on...
I hope this helps...if you need to you can vent to me just PM me and i will give you my email..no one should have to do what you are doing all alone...i will pray for ya and be here for ya..
TAKE CARE HONEY!!!

Foliel's photo
Wed 01/23/08 09:49 AM
Sharon this is for you flowerforyou

My mom is a handicapped single mom, I put her through hell, not because i was a rotten kid or anything but due to circumstances I'd rather not talk about. Whenever she would feel like giving up, I would walk up to her and hug her and say "Mom I love you, thanks for sticking by me all these years"
She would cry but it was tears of happiness. To this day, I am 31 now, I still say it to my mom at least once a month.

Sometimes the little reminders make the biggest difference.

For you and your son's sake don't give up. Find time for yourself and make the most of it.


cutelildevilsmom's photo
Thu 01/24/08 04:38 PM

make the guy use a condom next time or refrain from having sex.
now you have your kid make the best of him, and quit whinning.
You weren't whining when you got the baby on your womb.
Kids are always a blessing.

Nice to know people who purport to believe in Jesus can say such drivel.I am raising a son on my own and you do have your moments.Till you raise a kid or walk in her shoes you nedd to STFU.

SharonM45458's photo
Thu 01/24/08 05:01 PM

make the guy use a condom next time or refrain from having sex.
now you have your kid make the best of him, and quit whinning.
You weren't whining when you got the baby on your womb.
Kids are always a blessing.
This is just plain nasty! sick sick

SharonM45458's photo
Thu 01/24/08 05:04 PM
I really want to thank each and every one of you who offered me support. It helped tremendously. Thank you!flowerforyou

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Thu 01/24/08 05:06 PM
sharon: mom's are supposed to never be tired, emotional, drained or etc., the moment you tell the truth, people will trash you as a bad mom. That's just the way it is and always has been. Women are supposed to love their kids unconditionally or you get the big hex on you. We are not allowed to speak our minds, lest we are considered uncaring. I know your hurting, I know it's hard, i know you feel like giving up, but you know that tomorrow is another day. All the best.

feralcatlady's photo
Thu 01/24/08 05:18 PM
Sharon.....that old saying "No one said it was going to be easy" and it sure is not. And the best advice I can give you right now....Is get Sharon Healthy whatever that takes....Know without a shadow of a doubt that you have alot of people that love you....And also remember that once you have a child, it doesn't matter how old they get...they will always need you....And just when you want to throw in the towel they do something that you look and are so proud of. In the end It's a blessing to have a child, so get healthy and love, and happiness will surly follow.

You know I love you madly....and always here if you need me........just an e-mail away.

bttrflyv2's photo
Thu 01/24/08 05:33 PM
hang in there and be strong over look the bad comments on here everyone has a off day...I too am a single mom of two teenagers I know its hard and I know youre tired but trust me its worth it he knows he can count on you and yes he loves you never forget that...kids dont always show love as we want them to I know mine dont but trust in knowing he loves you...he needs you to be strong..I pray you get help with the new doc and if you need to vent you can always e-mail me as I understand way more than most would...hugs to you and may GOD bless you...

no photo
Thu 01/24/08 05:38 PM
I find, as a single mom, that when I feel like throwing my hands in the air and walking away that that is EXACTLY what I should do! Taking time for yourself makes you a better parent!

TheLonelyWalker's photo
Thu 01/24/08 05:52 PM
i never saw a wild thing
feeling sorry for itself
a small bird can drop frozen from a bough
without ever having felt sorry for itself
D.H. Lawrence

some choose self-pity others keep going

i wonder how would that child feel if he knew how his mom feels about him. i'd feel rejected.