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Get professional counseling. For you & for you/son. It will help tremendously.
You can't do it alone. And get in a support group of sorts. Hope it gets better for ya 
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Sharon, i am also a mother, of 5 children (single as well) I do suffer from generalized anxiety disorder, and depression. It was against all of who I am but i take a medication called effexor xr 75 mg. It helps balance me enough to live a somewhat normal life. I'm def not happy about it but its what i need to do so my kids can be happy and be raised the way they need to be. I have thought of giving up financially as well, but i got myself a decent job as a server at the cheesecake factory, i make close to 800 a week cash working 5 1/2 days. There are so many ways to get around the hells of being a single mom, DONT FORGET TO ASK FOR HELP!!!! I'm here for you if you need to talk, talking is what gets the anxiety out!!!!! The anxiety and misguided imagination may be what's making you think you don't want to raise your son, I wouldn't do anything silly until you seek help wether it be therapy medication or anything else. I hope I can be of some help!!!! Michelle |
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Any situation is What You make of it, true dat yo have you ever walked a mile in her shoes? might not like how tight the moccasins fit if ya did... i never said it was easy, but it IS what you make of it in the end |
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Never give up!, keep pulling through!, and you'll be glad you did in the end
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Sharon, i am also a mother, of 5 children (single as well) I do suffer from generalized anxiety disorder, and depression. It was against all of who I am but i take a medication called effexor xr 75 mg. It helps balance me enough to live a somewhat normal life. I'm def not happy about it but its what i need to do so my kids can be happy and be raised the way they need to be. I have thought of giving up financially as well, but i got myself a decent job as a server at the cheesecake factory, i make close to 800 a week cash working 5 1/2 days. There are so many ways to get around the hells of being a single mom, DONT FORGET TO ASK FOR HELP!!!! I'm here for you if you need to talk, talking is what gets the anxiety out!!!!! The anxiety and misguided imagination may be what's making you think you don't want to raise your son, I wouldn't do anything silly until you seek help wether it be therapy medication or anything else. I hope I can be of some help!!!! Michelle  
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Sharon, I am sending you a great big hug!!!
You can do this. I too was raised by a single mom, and times were hard, but she taught me how to be strong. Look deep within yourself and you will find the strength to get through it. Just take things one day at a time!! |
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my daughter wrote this to me. i always felt like a failure in her eyes, being single and stuggling. she told me she never noticed hard times because i kept going...inside i was dying, but i never let her know or at least i thought. then she sent this to me a little while back. she knew...but admired me for getting thru it. your son will too babe...im sending this to you because you too are strong!
Suppose my mother was a broken mirror Shattered to a million pieces Each more jagged than the next But somehow she will manage To put all the pieces together She’ll be back as new You would have never known that she was broken And when you look into her You’ll see the truth Love, Kaylee |
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DON'T GIVE UP...... Give in. In 1968 there was a big flood. A guy was standing on his porch; water up to his knees. A rowboat goes by. "Do you want a ride?" Oh no; the lord will take care of me..... Later on that afternoon the guy is on a chair on his porch. A rowboat goes by. "Do you want a ride?" Oh no; the lord will take care of me.... That night the guy is standing on the roof of his house. A helicopter goes by; the guy yells down to the guy on the roof "Sir, do you want a ride?" Oh no; the lord will take care of me.... Well, the guy drowneds. He gets up to heaven, sees God, and says, "I believed in you. What happened?" God turns to the guy and says, "I don't know. I sent two rowboats and a helicopter."
find a friend.... you've got one here. |
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i am a single mom, too, and i know how it feels. sometimes i wanna just walk out the door and not come home. but that isnt an option, it isnt their fault they were brought here and i cant blame them because i chose to keep them and bring them here. the thing that helps me is when i realize that no one else is gonna love me like they do, without judgement or critism. no one else is gonna think im perfect and need me, someone actually needs ME!! thats the greatest feeling ever. like i said, i know its hard, giving and giving, but trust me, you are recieving so much more back in life thru the kiddos. remember that and give him a big hug, trust me, that will make all the bad go away!!
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Edited by
BigCurt_31
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Tue 01/22/08 12:09 PM
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I suggest seeking out clinical help! My son is bi-polar and adhd. I was recently diagnosed as bi-polar and I am a single parent working and raising my son who is 5. It is a struggle everyday and he a very demanding child. I am now on medication(diagnosed bi-polar) after 38 year's of being without it and I went through many of struggles over that period. I have since started to see some daylight as my dose has been upgraded. It is not a matter of saying you, "you can just do it!" If people aren't in your shoes they have no idea what you are going through. So, just look for medical help like I did and I am doing. I have a great relationship with my therapist and thing's are really starting to look up for me as they will you. If you need any advice please feel free to contact me because I feel your pain.
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I'm just going to put in my opinion. Don't try to send him away. I understand how stressful it must be. My mom suffered from depression anxiety and addiction and left me when I was younger. I ended up moving in with my father and it was very scarring for me. You being a mother means putting yourself last. You said it yourself, he has a learning disability. Maybe he doesn't know how to show his appreciation or respect. Think about it. I didn't post this to come off rude. Just wanted you to know from a daughters point of view. I do hope things get better.
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I'm just going to put in my opinion. Don't try to send him away. I understand how stressful it must be. My mom suffered from depression anxiety and addiction and left me when I was younger. I ended up moving in with my father and it was very scarring for me. You being a mother means putting yourself last. You said it yourself, he has a learning disability. Maybe he doesn't know how to show his appreciation or respect. Think about it. I didn't post this to come off rude. Just wanted you to know from a daughters point of view. I do hope things get better. I do fine in raising my son and I am a man. I am very loving and compassionate man. I see no problem with my son as far as me being his parent. He would choose me before he ever chose his Mother! |
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Of course I will never give up. I just wish he would appreciate me a bit more, and not give me such a hard time when I am trying to help him. I'm just having a weak moment. Sick, PMS'ing (lol), overworked. Just needed a little lovin from my friends. Thank you!
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Of course I will never give up. I just wish he would appreciate me a bit more, and not give me such a hard time when I am trying to help him. I'm just having a weak moment. Sick, PMS'ing (lol), overworked. Just needed a little lovin from my friends. Thank you! We all have our weak moments..getting through them makes us stronger, tomorrow you will be stronger! |
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The teens years are hard. You find out later they do appreciate all the things you did for them. Hang in there!
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I don't understand how you as a parent, single (as you are) or married, can sit there and talk and say the selfish things that you have said about your life and your son. Your flesh and blood.
You should be lucky that you even have a child. There are so many people that would give everything they had to become a parent to one of God's most cherished angels. I am a single parent, and yes, now I have help, but I was single for years, raising children.I know that it's hard, but being there 24/7 for your children is a parent's job. You do need professional help, but not for the care of your son. You need help for this thread that basically slaps your son in the face. Go ahead and ban me, delete this post, I really don't care. Stuff like this makes me angry. |
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I don't understand how you as a parent, single (as you are) or married, can sit there and talk and say the selfish things that you have said about your life and your son. Your flesh and blood. You should be lucky that you even have a child. There are so many people that would give everything they had to become a parent to one of God's most cherished angels. I am a single parent, and yes, now I have help, but I was single for years, raising children.I know that it's hard, but being there 24/7 for your children is a parent's job. You do need professional help, but not for the care of your son. You need help for this thread that basically slaps your son in the face. Go ahead and ban me, delete this post, I really don't care. Stuff like this makes me angry. |
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I never said I was perfect. I am far from it.
But I don't go on sites and whine about how much I want to give up on my children!!! |
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I never said I was perfect. I am far from it. But I don't go on sites and whine about how much I want to give up on my children!!! |
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I never said I was perfect. I am far from it. But I don't go on sites and whine about how much I want to give up on my children!!! No, sorry. I am not judgemental. There are just somethings that burn me, and this is one of them. I am sorry that I didn't fall all over you and say that you are such the perfect parent, blah, blah, blah. I am not an uncaring person either. But each and everyone of us have things that just make us really angry. If we didn't, I don't think we would be human. |
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